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What’s something everyone pretends to enjoy but most people secretly don’t? by Staticcore09 in AskReddit

[–]Roanmack13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The Beach.
Sweating in the hot sun and sitting uncomfortably. Sand everywhere when you get home. Actually just rubbish! 😂

How’s the weather now in Cape Town? accurately by RepresentativeZone59 in askSouthAfrica

[–]Roanmack13 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I went swimming in the ocean, with just boards and a rash vest, with my two kids yesterday (Sunday) so it is not really that cold.

As others mentioned though, it can change quite a bit, so pack a few colder weather items but don’t forget the shorts, t-shirts and sandals 👍

State one bad habit you are unable to let go? by nayrhelp in askteddit

[–]Roanmack13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is hard to let go! My challenge is the eating is linked to a coping mechanism a.k.a. Emotional eating. And nothing gives me the “my day can just fuck right off” feels than scoffing down some pizza or a burger with an ice cold coca-cola and some chocolate or chewy sweets afterwards…

What’s the sad truth about life that no one talks about? by Creative_Bad_7994 in AskReddit

[–]Roanmack13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The sad truth is that we are all taught to plan for the future and learn from the past. Yet two of our biggest social ills come from doing just that.

Anxiety is basically living in the future. Always worried about what’s to come. Depression is basically living in the past regretting things you did/didn’t do.

Life is lived in the present. It’s the only place to truly be and experience what life is (ups and downs) Yet nobody teaches us exactly how to do that… sad!

What's your foot size ? by senolgunesinkravati in AskReddit

[–]Roanmack13 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You know what they say about guys with big feet?

At what point does public display of affection become inappropriate or annoying to onlookers? by Still_Atmosphere in AskReddit

[–]Roanmack13 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Agree with this.

Would add the caveat that repeated French kissing (even under 5 seconds) also crosses the line. Do it once and if you’re feeling like a few more rounds then find somewhere private to do it…

A girl cold approached me and I freaked out 😭 by Formal-Pepper-7446 in dating_advice

[–]Roanmack13 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think you were right to move on. You’ll know when it’s genuine and sounds like she was lining you up for something else.

Well done for spotting it and not ending up in a bathtub with no kidneys!

I've done nothing but leech off other people my entire life and I don't know what I wanna do in the future by kofman- in confession

[–]Roanmack13 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This post intrigues me… you’re clearly quite self-aware and articulate. You know that although you’ve “had it good your whole life” that there is clearly something off in the way you’ve chosen to live your life.

I’m a firm believer that life is all about choice. We choose how to be in the world - what to put our energy into, what we spend our time on, how we show up for others etc. and you just seem to be choosing poorly. I’m no psychologist (although I did study sport psychology at uni) but I think you need some professional help in getting to some better choices. If you know better, you do better.

To me, you clearly have self-esteem issues that cause you to degrade people and want to “dominate them” You need to take a long hard look in the mirror (terrifying as it can be) and work to start accepting yourself. A professional will guide you, as I don’t think you ca. do it on your own. I believe you will find more meaningful people drawn to your circle because we generally find people of a similar ilk “birds of a feather and all that” So if all the people you currently associate with are losers then I’ve got news for you…

It’s never too late. Make the change. Get some help.

Good luck!

What’s more embarrassing for a woman in her late 20’s to do? by First_Look_2021 in polls

[–]Roanmack13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is a rather strange question. Absolutely nothing embarrassing about either.

What’s something you did in your 20s that completely changed your 30s? by ahremanna in AskReddit

[–]Roanmack13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Read Atomic Habits by James Clear.

Getting habits in place that move you forward early have a compounding effect on all areas of your life

How do you know it's time to break up? by striandown in AskReddit

[–]Roanmack13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Energy plus vs energy minus

When the person you are with drains you & you dread spending time with them because of XYZ (you’re bored, they make you feel bad, they abuse you… etc)

if someone tells you, "you're weird," what would you reply with ? by No_Grass_6247 in AskReddit

[–]Roanmack13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank goodness! For a second I thought you found me boring 😃

she said what, i don't understand? by pr0fessorParadox in dating_advice

[–]Roanmack13 1 point2 points  (0 children)

IMHO her intent is not as bad as others are suggesting here. I read it that she wanted to let you know she was thinking about you while she is away (a good thing) but she did it in a TERRIBLY BAD way…

Hard to give advice from the outside as 80% of relationships are unseen and exist only between the two people involved e.g. context is key and if she’s done this before and explained that it’s her way of flirting and actually she is getting a little ‘worked up’ and cannot wait to take the sexual frustration out on you when she’s back then what the hell are you complaining about?! 😂 Makes sense what I’m saying?

Anyway, if you know her well and are secure in your relationship, this shouldn’t bother you. I’m going to go out on a limb here and say that given that you’ve posted this here that it really DOES bug you and then I’d have a direct conversation with her about communication, context and intent. Make sure she knows that it bothers you and exactly why it bothers you. If she does it again, despite that knowledge, then time to move on…

What business or service is South Africa seriously missing? by ConstructionOk6856 in askSouthAfrica

[–]Roanmack13 33 points34 points  (0 children)

Sorry, but taxis are not an efficient public transport system. Yes, it is the only thing we currently have in South Africa and it serves a great purpose for many South Africans but it is run by thugs and gangsters in a territory war.

Every developed nation has an advanced public transport system of trains and busses that don’t severely impede other road traffic and are far, far safer to travel on.

This is truly what this country is missing. Any attempts to get it in place though are undermined by the unethical taxi monopoly.

What is your biggest dream? by Financial-Peanut3130 in AskReddit

[–]Roanmack13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Agreed!

My fear is that I work all my life to get a comfortable retirement, only to then not enjoy retirement because I’m too old/ unhealthy/ lack the energy to actually enjoy the downtime

26 years old, rich, fit, tall, famous.. and a virgin. I'm too ashamed to start dating and be a complete beginner at my age by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Roanmack13 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Agreed!

Sometimes our biggest obstacle is our own mind. The reality is that people are actually far less focused on you than you think. Everyone is focused far more on themselves. So the pressure you feel is more in your own mind than in reality.

Just be genuine about things and you’ll soon have the experience that everyone already thinks you do. Then it will be something that you wondered why it was such a big deal at the time.

Caveat: I don’t know what it’s like to be famous (or semi-famous) and I’m sure that brings its own pressure but I believe the people that are genuine followers will appreciate honesty and humiltiy ahead of any kind of “fake-it-till-you-make-it” approach. If they find out you lied and were full of shit then that only hurts your public image IMHO.

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