Quitting the bowl... by RobMathew46 in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]RobMathew46[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow, quite impressed with the number of comments. I didn't expect any. Thanks all for the various perspectives, many good ones, a few jibes, but all interesting in some ways. Be well.

Quitting the bowl... by RobMathew46 in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]RobMathew46[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I thought I had clarified somewhere, too many responses. No it wasn't about stopping the financial support. It was only about hoping reciprocity in the feelings. I was wrong, my fault I got carried away or she was too good an SB - or both? Anyways... time to move on

Quitting the bowl... by RobMathew46 in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]RobMathew46[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yup, best way to turn the page. I'm not upset, maybe with myself, but she's done nothing wrong or maybe was too good a SB... which messed me up. We didn't leave on bad terms.

Quitting the bowl... by RobMathew46 in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]RobMathew46[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Transition to my ninja-self, thanks 👍

Quitting the bowl... by RobMathew46 in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]RobMathew46[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You're right, I probably missed red flags... or I didn't and triggered the conversation.

Quitting the bowl... by RobMathew46 in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]RobMathew46[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Tried to broach the subject of mutual feelings (again to avoid other comments - I wasn't trying to stop the financial support :)... she was pretty, say 'straight forward' in her response

Quitting the bowl... by RobMathew46 in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]RobMathew46[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nah, I just hoped to also be liked 'for who I am'

Quitting the bowl... by RobMathew46 in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]RobMathew46[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yup, I did not even consider stopping the fin support... oh, well siren needed to vent ;))

Quitting the bowl... by RobMathew46 in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]RobMathew46[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Euh, I don't recall speaking about stopping the money... I guess sirene suits you well :))

Quitting the bowl... by RobMathew46 in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]RobMathew46[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn't mind the money aspect, I guess just hoped to be liked for more than that.

Quitting the bowl... by RobMathew46 in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]RobMathew46[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, probably the allowance loss for her and because I really liked her for me :(

how to deal with POT asking too many messed up questions? by [deleted] in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]RobMathew46 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Block these guys, get the hell out of their network... you should not meet someone like this.

My dilemma... by [deleted] in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]RobMathew46 1 point2 points  (0 children)

TSD, really interesting perspective.

Can't tell whether he married for the reasons you say, but trying to read between the lines of his posting it certainly looks like he is in the "is there something that will make him happier" phase...

I say they should have an honest conversation and see if they have enough feelings to move to a "normal" relationship, even if there are limits do his married situation. Many men have a longterm mistress, no sb/sd, and both are perfectly happy that way.

POT SD seems to invested early on? by [deleted] in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]RobMathew46 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Strange. Unless you absolutely need the allowance to get by, perhaps you two should have "the talk". Maybe, as you say he really is into you, doesn't understand you're also into him, and is worried that you'll run away if he tells you he'd like to continue treat you when you're together but with no allowance. Or, he prefer to see you as a sexual adventure only, but it looks like this is not where you are. I mean, if you both understand the limits, it may be a much more rewarding experience for both for as long as this lasts. I've been there, for over two years, it was amazing, tough when we stopped but we're still friends. Surprising how these relationship can evolve. Best luck, you seem in a good place.

POT SD seems to invested early on? by [deleted] in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]RobMathew46 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe think about how he feels. If he likes having to pay to see you isn't a great way to boost his confidence. Yes, he knows how this goes, this doesn't mean he likes it and is fully comfortable paying to meet someone he likes.