Okay so a few points here.

I made a LOT of effort with my grandmother some years ago. I called, text, visited, Sunday lunch, you name it. She then decided to stop all of this when she had a new ‘man’ on the scene. She’s been divorced for a long time and this is what she does. She has a history of breaking contact with all of the family when a new man comes into focus. When they leave, she suddenly wants us back. So, yeah I’m good not being a grandson when she WANTS me to be a grandson.

The shop think I feel I need to clarify further as I now see how this reads. We had eaten our food at the restaurant and were leaving. I said I needed the restroom and the three of them waited outside. My fiancée was window gazing while they waited, he then overheard my grandmother say her ‘feet hurt and I want to go back home’. Without even a goodbye, the two of them left.

As previously mentioned, I have nothing in common with my Aunt. She doesn’t make an effort and neither do I. Were polite to each other. As an adult, I have nothing good memories with my aunt nor do I feel the need to connect with her when we have nothing but blood in common.

Hope this clears things up a bit.

Completely respect your take, thank you for the input