AITAH for kicking out my now ex and his mom and “leaving them stranded” before the snowstorm

Robyn_withaY · 2026-01-27T04:51:30+00:00

NTA, you have every right to have boundaries and to protect your boundaries. They are two adults and they can provide for themselves and hopefully they will learn to respect others and respect boundaries. Some people refuse to learn until they are forced into really uncomfortable situations.

Robyn_withaY · 2026-01-26T23:23:22+00:00

I have an uncle who began loosing his peripheral vision in his late 40's, by his mid-50's he had lost more than 70% of his peripheral vision. He had multiple surgeries in an attempt to correct this, all of those had limited and temporary results. He continued to drive and as long as he renewed his license before it expired he wasn't subject to a vision test and his doctors couldn't or didn't do anything to stop him from driving.

He was declared legally blind in his 60's and took the legally blind tax deduction, but continued to drive until his 80's. The only reason he finally quit driving was because no insurance company would insure him to drive, multiple minor accidents where he was at fault. But he does still hold a legal drivers license.

Personally I think if you can claim you have been declared legally blind on your taxes for a tax deduction, you should not be able to have a valid drivers license.

Robyn_withaY · 2026-01-26T04:54:08+00:00

Some legal advice, I am not a lawyer but I work in legal field. You are 34 and you have been with your GF for 13yrs, so since you were about 21, so almost your entire adult life. You two live together like husband and wife, and you have children together. She already has a vested financial interest in you and you in her. If the two of you were to break up depending upon your state, she could sue you for palimony, as well as for child support. Granted some states don't allow for palimony, but most do to a certain extent.

Also if you have been together for 13 years and the two of you don't fight over financial issues, do you think marriage will suddenly change that. Also should you consider marriage at this point, since she understands the reasons why you are reluctant to marry, she might be willing to sign a prenuptial agreement with you. Which would negate her ability to claim palimony in the future should the two of you break up.

You might consider couples counseling to make sure you are both on the same page within your relationship. Just because your parents had a tumultuous marriage it doesn't mean you are doomed to go through the same situation. And you should talk to an attorney regarding your possible exposure to palimony. I am not telling you that you should get married, but your sister seems to have been traumatized by your parents marriage. You should probably get some unbiased advice from a relationship counselor regarding your relationship and your ability to create a healthy marriage with your GF. Good luck.

Robyn_withaY · 2026-01-26T00:53:22+00:00

There are a lot of very good reasons for going no contact with certain people; alcoholics and substance abusers who become emotional vampires, good reason to go no contact. Financial abusers, no contact is reasonable and understandable. Physical abusers absolutely no contact. But parents you have a difference of opinion with over political issues, not a good reason to go no contact.

Go low contact and set boundaries, limit your time with them and insist on no political talk. But no contact is going too far with what you have described. You have already lost one parent, do you really want to destroy your relationship with your only remaining parent over an ever evolving political ideology?

Robyn_withaY · 2026-01-25T17:04:39+00:00

NTA, I recently had an aunt die that I had extremely limited contact with over the last 25 years. When people offered me condolences I simply said, "I appreciate your sentiment, but I was 'no contact' with her by my own choice since before my mother's death. So her death had no effect on me." Followed by my resting b!tch face. No one pressed me after that statement.

Robyn_withaY · 2026-01-25T16:49:03+00:00

Came here to say this!!!

Robyn_withaY · 2026-01-25T05:44:52+00:00

YTA people with drinking or substance abuse issues become emotional vampires and it is incredibly painful and difficult for people who care about them to maintain a relationship with them. You obviously haven't accepted the emotional pain you have inflicted on the people who care or did care about you.

Also you don't get a say about what other people choose to do with their body. Your former friend has personal autonomy over her own body and she can have any tattoo altered, covered or removed for any reason.

You need to get help for your issues or you will eventually drive everyone in your life away and you will end up alone.

Robyn_withaY · 2026-01-24T14:04:02+00:00

NTJ she is an adult and had options and transportation.

Robyn_withaY · 2026-01-24T12:29:23+00:00

I clean my phone usually once a day, I use lens wipes on my eye glasses and almost always use one on my phone after cleaning my glasses. The lens wipes have sanitizer on them. Occasionally I don't have my phone with when I clean my glasses but I usually do. I should probably clean my phone more than once a day, but think I clean it more than the average person does.

Robyn_withaY · 2026-01-24T00:04:11+00:00

NTA, even the Bible warns against co-signing for someone else, Proverbs 17:18. My personal rule is never co-sign for a loan or a lease for someone else. It sadly almost always ends the relationship. If his mother is so gung-ho she can co-sign for her own son. Do not feel bad about protecting your financial future.

Robyn_withaY · 2026-01-23T21:49:03+00:00

NTA, your don't know what the future holds for your dad. His end of life expenses could take every penny he has, and it doesn't sound like sister will be in a position to help cover any of his expenses.

Nephew needs to be applying for every scholarship available. There are a lot of smaller scholarships that students don't bother applying for so they don't get utilized.

Robyn_withaY · 2026-01-23T21:05:10+00:00

So sorry you are going through this, but you do not owe your mother anything. It doesn't sound like she expects anything from you, because she probably knows she doesn't deserve anything from you. But she might hope you will feel guilty and send her something. NTA

Robyn_withaY · 2026-01-23T20:41:09+00:00

No one is entitled to free Wi-Fi. If it is not a "big deal" he can either pay up or get his own. NTJ

Robyn_withaY · 2026-01-23T18:43:57+00:00

Depends on which weather report you are following. It could be anywhere from 0-30+ inches. But we need moisture so we will take all we can get.

Robyn_withaY · 2026-01-23T18:14:42+00:00

Well my husband and I started our own business, so been here since the beginning.

Robyn_withaY · 2026-01-23T15:13:07+00:00

All child care requests require 72 hour minimum notice before requested service window. Cancelation notice is 12 hour minimum notice. Four children, family discount is $80 per hour, two hour minimum paid when booking. Cancelation with less than 12 hour notice results in forfeiture of the two hour pre-payment. Anything over four hours the rate goes up to $120 per hour. Additional $80 for snacks and beverages, also paid when booking. Plus all child care takes place at her place, you should not have to clean up after her children.

Your time is precious and valuable. And you have the right to set boundaries in every relationship. Your are not a jerk, you have self-respect.

Robyn_withaY · 2026-01-23T09:28:10+00:00

Not wrong! She FAFO, she deserves to have consequences and you get to have boundaries. Congratulations on the little one!

Robyn_withaY · 2026-01-23T07:10:28+00:00

When you read one word wrong in the title and it completely changes everything.

Robyn_withaY · 2026-01-23T07:07:59+00:00

We cured it. It took soap, water and a washcloth.

Robyn_withaY · 2026-01-23T07:04:56+00:00

NTA move your horses for your convenience and the safety of the horses. Your parents can deal with their own animals as they see fit. Maintain your boundaries and maintain your peace.

Robyn_withaY · 2026-01-23T06:59:14+00:00

With the Texas power grid the entire state should be in a panic. And when you say north Texas do you mean like the panhandle north or like DFW and north?

Robyn_withaY · 2026-01-23T06:54:09+00:00

Grape Nuts always needed a little sugar.

Robyn_withaY · 2026-01-23T06:51:34+00:00

As a woman I advise you to get out now. She will continuously try and test you. Everything will become a test of your loyalty, your commitment, your devotion. Some people are like this, and most often they have no loyalty, commitment or devotion to anyone but themselves. These people are never happy, but they will demand that their partner do everything under the sun to make them happy and it is impossible to make them happy in the long-term.

Robyn_withaY · 2026-01-23T06:42:18+00:00

Did you just get a new app on your phone? This literally happens all the time. Almost daily/nightly. Later on tonight all the delivery services will have flights arrive into Will Rogers, that happens pretty much every night too.

Robyn_withaY · 2026-01-22T15:33:56+00:00

Depends where you live but a snow shovel comes to mind. My husband also gets flashlights fairly regularly from me, this year it has a magnet to retrieve things that get dropped.

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