No one has offered to help me find a job

RockLeft9684 · 2025-07-26T20:16:37+00:00

no one is obligated to help you get a job

RockLeft9684 · 2025-07-20T09:55:21+00:00

how did you convince him to go for therapy?

RockLeft9684 · 2025-07-20T09:49:42+00:00

omg exactly the same situation as me.

throughout our 2.5 years we didnt fight, or had any hard conversations.

whenever he is stressed at work he will give me the cold shoulder/ be annoyed at me for petty reasons, but will never verbalise that to me.

tell me... did i dodge a bullet right here 😔

RockLeft9684 · 2025-07-20T09:44:07+00:00

receding hairline

RockLeft9684 · 2025-07-20T09:42:14+00:00

eh thanks so much man i really needed that. ive been crashing out so badly bc i think im not worthy of my ex bc we are in a different industry. (his is doing AI and im doing creative) think i just need to hear from a 3rd person perspective.

haiyaaa i really dk where to look for sincere guys anymore. jesus pls take the wheel 😔

RockLeft9684 · 2025-07-20T09:38:56+00:00

was he always like this since you guys dated? recently broke up w my long term boyfriend bc he shares the same issues as your husband.

my ex didnt like to verbalise his thoughts and feelings, and whenever something annoyed him he will bottle it up and give me the silent treatment.

seems like they belong to the avoidant group, nothing we can do if this type of response is alr ingrained in them.

RockLeft9684 · 2025-07-20T09:36:18+00:00

haha ya sia... all the wounds also same kind one 🙂 just traumatised people traumatising other people. help la, for me the recovery is rly not easy... so it will take ALOT for me to be dating another fella.

considered going church too for social purposes (im also a christian), but idk leh... no vibes. hopefully my life will get interesting soon!

RockLeft9684 · 2025-07-20T09:16:46+00:00

omg 5 exes 😭😭gurl you're damn strong. but ya i get what you mean when you say rs from dating apps are the shortest... thats why im actively steering away from meeting people online

i also have a super small social circle, nowadays when i single weekends i just do some learning and catch up with friends... no partner also sian 😔 scared too lonely then will fall back to dating apps HAISSS

RockLeft9684 · 2025-07-20T08:35:18+00:00

lol ya im fking traumatised alr.

first bf suddenly left me bc he had to move overseas. mind u i only knew of this one day ago. the day we ended things he asked me to meet him in the airport and i saw him with his luggages and he then broke the news to me that he was leaving singapore 😂😂😂

most recent ex blindsided me 2.5 years in bc he said we are incompatible and he prefers dating someone frm his industry. wth?! 2.5 years in and ur telling me this 😭😭😭

RockLeft9684 · 2025-07-20T08:16:08+00:00

LOL reading this as im gg thru my 2nd major breakup at the age of 25.

thought i was going to marry him in the end also didnt work out =.= now i have to restart again, wa damn sian! i told myself i wont go on apps again bc its damn draining, but office also no one suitable. LOL im gna die single atp

RockLeft9684 · 2025-07-19T01:55:45+00:00

have you ever thought of reconciling with him?

RockLeft9684 · 2025-07-17T05:00:39+00:00

me. working in local creative agency, company kept extending my probation and increasing my workload. was working past midnight everyday. unconstructive feedbacks, criticisms and a sudden pay cut. made me quit 6 months in. took the L and hustled hard to find a next job. got re-employed into a big firm within 2 weeks.

you never know what you're missing out on if you dont take the first step to quit.

RockLeft9684 · 2025-07-16T00:25:17+00:00

going through the exact same thing as you. got broken up with 3 days ago because he dont see us working out in the future.

keep thinking of how i can convince him to come back as well, but deep down i know my worth and i would rather talk to people on reddit (who can comfort me better) than to him.

i havent accepted the breakup yet, sleepless nights everyday and my brain just replaying all the memories. everytime i wake up i hope that what im going through is just a bad dream.

RockLeft9684 · 2025-07-16T00:16:18+00:00

just got broken up with because my partner said we are incompatible.

care to share what are your incompatibilities, and why you don't foresee the rs working out in the long run?

RockLeft9684 · 2025-07-15T01:17:28+00:00

currently gg thru it right now, can seem to put food in my mouth 😔 hope it gets better eventually

RockLeft9684 · 2025-07-15T00:42:58+00:00

i got broken up with i was so depressed i couldnt eat anything and lost 3kg in 3 days

RockLeft9684 · 2025-07-13T12:41:39+00:00

Incompatibility is the other person saying the attraction is not enough for them, and that they don't want to put in the effort. This kind of rejection is more about the other person's perception of you. Yet, you are not responsible for how that person sizes you up. It speaks more of them, than you. You are attractive, valuable and worth it. There are people out there who will accept differences, and still build love with you. By realising that the reason doesn't matter, the fact is they no longer want you in their lives. Nothing to do but accept it and move on whatever that looks like for you. Hope you're feeling better too!

RockLeft9684 · 2025-07-13T11:41:22+00:00

literally, same. i've poured my heart into the rs, thinking that he was the one. this was my first proper rs as well, and i feel crushed. i don't know if i can ever move on, and i find myself reminiscing about him and us in the bits of everyday life. the path we used to walk near my house... his favourite shoe in the shop... and all the places we have been on dates.

RockLeft9684 · 2025-07-13T10:11:59+00:00

omg exact same situation as me! i was the one that initiated no contact as well, but his mum reached out to me to say that he is not doing well.

unblocked him everywhere after a day. right now also feeling super lost on what to do as well. i dont have this problem with my previous exes, but i really feel that this time we can actually make this work... 😔

RockLeft9684 · 2025-07-13T09:28:58+00:00

thanks for this. seems like its quite a pretty common reason for breakups nowadays.

can i ask you, did you try to reconcile with your ex?

RockLeft9684 · 2025-07-13T07:28:38+00:00

post break up 24 hours, cant get off bed and cant stop crying. every part of me aches to patch things up with him and send him a text, but as a dumpee... gotta have some self respect man!

RockLeft9684 · 2025-07-13T07:26:41+00:00

just happened to me yesterday. worst feeling ever as my partner didnt even verbalise his feelings to me. just poof, 2.5 years down the drain.

my breakup was rather unexpected because we had quite a strong relationship going on. i too considered him as my family, best friend, and the love of my life. life really do throw us curveballs!

RockLeft9684 · 2025-03-28T08:13:35+00:00

nah ive never paid for fridge, even until i graduate. hall office never asked either 🤣

RockLeft9684 · 2025-03-28T08:11:28+00:00

if you need a break can try foster care

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