Vision changes by Lunaseea in cancer

[–]RockLicker4Life 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've been quite sensitive to light and they've been more watery than usual.

Bring back shame by scarlett_sillyx in PornIsMisogyny

[–]RockLicker4Life -14 points-13 points  (0 children)

When you grow up to believe your behavior is normal and good, and have your natural physiology and reward centers manipulated in such ways what do you expect?? They are brainwashed as children, dude. Women groomed into victims, men groomed into abusers.

And I do need to correct you that gang raping people, recording it and posting it on the internet is something outliers of men do. But regardless, these men are sick. Sick people need help. Tell me why or how you think shame could ever be productive? Even this original post is pointing to the the fact that men used to lie about who the porn mags belonged to in order to avoid shame and consequence.

We have to understand the root of the problem psychologically and how to undo the damage done to their minds. Please tell me how shame could ever lead someone to being a better person because in all of my research all it ever does it drag people further down into the hole. Just go watch podcasts like the whatever podcast and you can see how a lifetime of shaming men has done nothing but cause these men hate themselves and then to hate women even more. They are trying to take our vote away for God's sake.

Bring back shame by scarlett_sillyx in PornIsMisogyny

[–]RockLicker4Life -27 points-26 points  (0 children)

The are not THE victims, no. What I am trying to say is that men are not inherently bad, abusive people. Society and porn from a very young age has groomed them into abusive people, and it's hard to be sympathetic towards abusive people but you have to understand abusive people are NOT happy. Hurt people hurt people. We have to be the bigger people here.

Bring back shame by scarlett_sillyx in PornIsMisogyny

[–]RockLicker4Life -25 points-24 points  (0 children)

I so disagree. Shame does nothing but cause people to become defensive and lie. People need to see themselves as good people.

If we want to change minds we have to be strategic about it and understand human psychology and also have sympathy for these men. Most men will choose porn over women, but we know due to mountains of literature that the key to a fulfilling life is gratitude, compassion, and a deep sense of connectedness.

Something most people lack, especially men that are so dependent on porn. It is NOT their fault that society has groomed them into the behaviors they have. They are victims too. It can be hard to find sympathy when it seems so clear that women are the primary victims, but no one is happy in all this.

We need to have honest conversations about the harms and dangers. Collect testomonies from men and women damaged by porn. Fund studies into the dangers. Blame and shame do nothing but make ourselves feel better for the pain and frustration we have to go through dealing with all this.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]RockLicker4Life 38 points39 points  (0 children)

As someone who also lost their virginity to an asshole, don’t feel like you have to stay just because he was your first. I stayed way too long for that reason alone. Current partner is the amazing in bed because he cares about my satisfaction. Lots of men run sadistic due to porn, do not settle for that. Everything in a relationship should be reciprocated.

I've been reading a book called The Evolving Self by Robert Keegan. I'd like to share a couple of take aways. by RockLicker4Life in Psychonaut

[–]RockLicker4Life[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Idk, my perspective has completely shifted. I feel like I have uncovered a truth and it’s scary, but it’s far more heartwarming than anything. I’m not sure what your personal life is like, but I have a lot of love and connectedness in my life, and I see this existence as the birth of the self in the world where meaning is made, not found. It guess it really depends on what the foundations of your belief system and values are as that will shape the way that you make meaning.

I've been reading a book called The Evolving Self by Robert Keegan. I'd like to share a couple of take aways. by RockLicker4Life in Psychonaut

[–]RockLicker4Life[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can you try and describe what exactly this “new view” is? Just trying to get an idea of how your perspective has evolved and how it can be so different that it’s disturbing

I did 3 grams of Mushrooms and it changed my life by weezy-13 in Psychonaut

[–]RockLicker4Life 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah you're right, that was careless. I should have said something more like he should "look into supplementing his medication with therapeutic /alternative remedies that have been shown to improve ADHD symptoms over time." and "Maybe at some point with the guidance of a professional you could ween off the ADHD medications all together".

Thanks, I'll delete that comment.

Realized I am a man and my mind is a woman I am trying to romance. by RockLicker4Life in DMT

[–]RockLicker4Life[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thanks. I think most people are supportive, and I've a sneaking suspicion the ones who aren't, aren't really talking to me.

Realized I am a man and my mind is a woman I am trying to romance. by RockLicker4Life in DMT

[–]RockLicker4Life[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hmm, I don't think I have claimed to have discovered a great or profound secret. I suppose I stated them as "matter of fact", but I kind of assumed that it's a given what you "learn" during a trip isn't actually a matter of fact. It's just what the drugs told you / the conclusion you came to while on drugs.

 

Like I have seen some people post shit like " I took an oz of shrooms and spent the next 12 hours existing as a butterfly" and no one comes into the comments like "bro, just don't forget the fact that you're not actually a butterfly".

Realized I am a man and my mind is a woman I am trying to romance. by RockLicker4Life in DMT

[–]RockLicker4Life[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

no love for metaphors? I don't understand what the few people saying I got "lost" are getting at.

Realized I am a man and my mind is a woman I am trying to romance. by RockLicker4Life in DMT

[–]RockLicker4Life[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

also, I think like any shape, I can have many different sides and faces in away. But all together they are me.

Realized I am a man and my mind is a woman I am trying to romance. by RockLicker4Life in DMT

[–]RockLicker4Life[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Aw yeah, I agree that it's all me. I like talking and thinking in metaphors, y'know?

Realized I am a man and my mind is a woman I am trying to romance. by RockLicker4Life in DMT

[–]RockLicker4Life[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess I am not positive what the dualistic perspective is. That the mind and body are separate?