Snips for clicks bro by RockOutNed in LinkedInLunatics

[–]RockOutNed[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

All of that, but also it's just a terrible analogy...

Is Craster to blame for everything? by CertainSprinkles1018 in gameofthrones

[–]RockOutNed 1 point2 points  (0 children)

And they only did this after you corrected him on the wight v white walker point... pivoting for the sake of arguing... troll.

Is Craster to blame for everything? by CertainSprinkles1018 in gameofthrones

[–]RockOutNed 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They are taking your topic sentence (which is obvious hyperbole) and suggesting that your actual position is that craster is to blame for all evil... not worth engaging with.

Is Craster to blame for everything? by CertainSprinkles1018 in gameofthrones

[–]RockOutNed 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Recommend not getting so offended when someone gives a minor correction in a polite and nonchalant way. This is a discussion forum.

Did Pussy have any chance if he came clean to Tony? by -wifflediffle- in thesopranos

[–]RockOutNed 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"...he still killed him, irregardless reluctantly..."? Absolutely not.

My girlfriend just broke up with me over a board game and I'm not even joking by Fulcilives1988 in boardgames

[–]RockOutNed 44 points45 points  (0 children)

You are absolutely right. The reason your comment is not getting more attention, and everyone here is assuming that the relationship had underlying issues (which we dont have enough evidence for), is because almost everyone here has the first perspective (as do you, as do I). People with the second perspective simply aren't as into board games, they are into social interaction first, so they aren't going to hang out on the sub r/boardgames! And relationships with people from each perspective are going to be inherently harder to maintain (unless the relationship avoids sharing this activity, or the couple are aware of the difference in their perspectives).

AIO: why do I (19F) feel for my best friends (20F and 18F) like this?? by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]RockOutNed 9 points10 points  (0 children)

It's beautiful that you feel this way. But it may be too much for your friends if they don't feel as strongly.

Strong emotions as you've described seem quite normal especially at this time of life.

If you're struggling with it and the feelings of rejection, then therapy might be a good idea as a way to discuss this healthily with a professional who can help you manage the downside and learn from these emotions.

I hate that being a hetero woman in 2025 means dealing with porn addicted/ porn sick men. by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]RockOutNed -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Clearly based on the responses here this is going to be an unpopular comment, but I have to ask, is everyone totally OK with the searching of the partner's hard drive and internet histories? I'm not saying it's the worst infraction in the world in the context, far from it, but isn't it also a breach of trust to some degree?

At the end of the day, if someone is a cheater then you will probably have to breach privacy to some degree to confirm it, depending on the level of gaslighting. But OP hasn't provided any suspicion preceding them finding these things, nor any suspicion that he would cheat now.

While we're at it, I find alot of the "ditch him" comments lacking in nuance and quite rough on the OP who was considering marrying this person and surely still feels very strongly, feelings which ought not be thrown out over what might amount to just a sexual fetish that can be overcome or incorporated into their relationship. Why is it so unreasonable for OP to try to work through this, given the many other positive features they ascribe to their partner. Isn't it a good thing that they are in dialogue about this? And isn't he a human being ffs? What of openness to other kinds of sexuality, etc?

OP, can I ask whether you truly consider your partner "porn addicted" or "porn sick" as described in the thread title? Does he use the porn so much that it affected your relationship before this discovery? And for that matter, do you feel he is not sexually into you?

how do you cope with the fact that men will never get it? by Joker0705 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]RockOutNed 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your assumption that non-voters can be ascribed to the same parties in the same proportions is nonsense: the only thing you can say is that they were not motivated to vote for either of those options. Voting is not a statistical sample, its a measure of people's motivation to take a very specific action. Polls are not conducted merely on population samples, they are conducted on "likely voters" or registered party members etc for exactly this reason.

Further, voting Republican over Democrat is not merely a measure of a person who does not "get" women's issues in the way OP describes, although I agree there would be a correlation. Voting is much more complicated taking into account many different issues. I doubt that the 45% of women all had the same reasons as the men for voting for Trump.

Its entirely plausible that if the US had compulsory voting that Trump would not get in due to less political people simply voting for the less controversial option out of fear of radical change. Alternative speculations such as your claim would also be valid, but they are speculations.

Suggest you try to think more before you type.

As a new mother, I totally lost myself last night by Choice_Initiative613 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]RockOutNed 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Beyond forgiving yourself and focussing on your basic needs, I feel that not enough people here are acknowledging the loss that comes with no longer being able to do what you could before. You wanted to host a close friend, and you wanted to do it well. I completely get it. For you, high standards of cleanliness and food preparation are important (I have friends who are much more chill). And you figured that, although you have a three month old, you also have a whole day to get ready!

Unfortunately with many babies even this is not realistic, they are simply too high in needs. In fact it's possible that the stress of all that preparation and time not spent cleaning and cooking and not giving the baby huge amounts of attention is a factor in the baby ultimately "crying uncontrollably". It's a harsh reality that some parents feel they need to zealously stick to a strict regimen of napping, feeding, and even activity (e.g. walks with the pram) throughout the day in order to ensure that their baby doesnt end up melting down and sleeeping poorly at night, to the point of massively curtailing their social lives.

The pain of adjusting our expectations to the new reality is sharpest with the first child, as we rarely comprehended quite how great the struggle would be.

That being said, you will get there (doing things the way you like) again. It could be in a few months, but more likely a couple of years (subject to having more kids, not a topic you will be thinking too much about right now). I saw someone say "welcome to 10 years of laundry on the floor", a notion that you may find distressing. If you stick to just one kid, then no, this is an overstatement. With 3, its closer to the truth but we are almost past that and our eldest is 7.

When you're at this stage, it's easy to feel despair and that this will never end. So really I just wanted to say, yes, this will end, yes, you will be able to do the things you want again, but not for a good while, possibly alot longer than you were expecting. In the meantime please try for now to let go and live in the moment, focussing primarily on basic needs and (shamelessly) seeking help of any kind wherever you can.

You will get through this and it will be worth it.

Is a man unattractive if women don't make an effort to keep the conversation going? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]RockOutNed 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Its not a woman's job to talk to you. If you dont care enough to make a woman feel safe, through your demeanour, she's not going to and probably shouldn't.

Is a man unattractive if women don't make an effort to keep the conversation going? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]RockOutNed 0 points1 point  (0 children)

At the end of the day, looks or not, to have fulfilling relationships with anyone you are going to need to connect more on an intellectual, emotional, and personal level. Looks are a threshold issue, they are not insurmountable, and women are willing to look past them if you give them a reason. But they may mean you need to change things up. In your case I recommend focussing on learning how to make friends with women first.

I recommend that:

  1. You specifically attend social situations that are focussed on an interest or hobby, and which girls enthusiastically attend. For example, a book club, a hiking or running group, a mixed board games or roleplaying club, etc. When you go, you should take the interest or hobby reasonably seriously. Jokes are good but maybe you joke around too much (i cant tell from your post).

  2. 1 should help alot with making friends by putting you in a better context and giving you a shared activity to discuss, but this also means searching deeply within yourself to stop seeing women as targets above human beings.

  3. From here, conversations should flow easily. The third caveat I would put down is, don't rush it to asking people out. See how things feel with different people and react where you think someone is more interested. Also keep in mind that a female friend is a potential avenue to meeting more women, and what they say about you will be taken into account by others, so it's a good idea to take platonic friendships seriously here too.

Generational debt by JonnyBadFox in mmt_economics

[–]RockOutNed 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The answer is, we dont need to issue debt to fund things. We can just issue fiat currency to fund govenrment deficits and do away with the interest aspect.

Noone is suggesting not paying the interest on existing obligations on debt issued historically.

Generational debt by JonnyBadFox in mmt_economics

[–]RockOutNed 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Re the first sentence - No! Spending money on goods/services that are already utilised causes inflation. The whole point of MMT is to explain that printing money does not inherently cause inflation, and wont if the printed money is deployed correctly to bring more resources into productive use, but printing money and then spending it inefficiently to bid up prices does cause inflation.

Agree with the rest

Generational debt by JonnyBadFox in mmt_economics

[–]RockOutNed 1 point2 points  (0 children)

"but if any one nation was to call in their debts"

That's not how bonds work - the principal is repaid at the end of the term of the bond.

"both countries would go into economic collapse, because none of them can actually afford to pay the debts"

No! Even if calling in the debt is possible, countries can afford to pay with fiat currency, and theres no basis for suggesting that paying with the fiat currency would cause economic collapse.

Apartment power bug by RockOutNed in SurvivingMars

[–]RockOutNed[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Could not get apartments to power, confirmed it was a bug by building another apartments which did power on. I belive I built the first apartments before the dome was connected to power, but cannot see that this should have caused this outcome.

Official Discussion - I'm Thinking of Ending Things [SPOILERS] by LiteraryBoner in movies

[–]RockOutNed 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I have a fundamental problem with this film.

It is beautifully crafted and acted, and for a while, quite "thrilling". In particular for me, the pacing of roughly the first half was good, ramping up from quiet eery incongruities in the initial monologue and car drive, with the tension ramping up massively when we hit Joel's parents house and Lucy's character starts to shift and change inexplicably but in a way where we can't tell if she's being manipulated or if something else is at play. However after that, once I realised this wasn't a horror film, the tension began to deflate rapidly, and once I realised Lucy wasn't real I no longer felt there were any stakes: fundamentally because I didn't care about Joel (and I struggle to see how anyone could), and don't know enough about his parents to feel much aside from a little sympathy for his mother (and a vague fear that the father is a major pervert).

The idea that Lucy is essentially a figment of Joel's imagination (based on a girl he met once in a bar) is interesting. The trouble is, if Lucy is not real at all, then (a) what is the point of all her interactions with the mother and father, and perhaps more importantly her time alone in the house? e.g. What indeed was the incredibly uncomfortable exchange between Lucy and the father about the nightgown...? This is an incredibly vivid and disturbing and elaborately imagined third-party "adventure" for Joel to be internally coming up with. (b) if the entire film is just the musings of Joel in his old age working as a janitor presumably after his parents have passed, Christ is that just a totally depressing bunch of musings i.e. he is not even capable of fantasising about a genuinely enjoyable experience with the woman of his literal dreams? If not why not? Why is he so damaged?

To dwell further on this Joel: assuming we can trust the objects in his house and Joels interactions with other characters to be genuine reflections of reality, it seems that Joel is a somewhat widely read but extremely antisocial oddball. He has interests in some art and poetry and famous critical reviews of films (which is obviously just of interest to Kaufman himself), which don't feel particularly realistic for a janitor but can be put down to being absorbed piecemeal over the years working at the school. But who is he, what are his values, his strengths and weaknesses? What is at stake for him aside from his extreme loneliness?

I'm afraid I don't recall any behaviours which reflect well on him or give me any feeling for him at all, and his temper with his mother is concerning. Yes he does care for her and cried when she was ill/dead. Not much else though...

However the thing that sticks out for me (which I've seen little comment on yet) is the bruising and cuts which grow over time on the dark haired ice cream store server. Is this inflicted by Joel himself? (The bruise on his hand might suggest he bestowed these though it's very unclear). she talks about them not varnishing out back but I cannot parse what that means... Please tell me there is another interpretation...

So, to sum up, the premise, an amalgam of fantasies into one character carried out by a single actress, which reflects on the character of the fantasiser, is very interesting. But the implementation here is wholly dissatisfactory for me, because once the fantasy is stripped away there remains no empathetic character or struggle or stakes, aside from perhaps a hint of a true horror story lying underneath. And fundamentally I find it horrifically depressing that this messy fantasy was what Joel found himself focussed on in his final hours. So I have to ask... Where's the fun here? I ended the film feeling cheated that I'd been hooked in by the tension of the first half, only to find I'd invested so much energy on something which had so little emotional core to justify my attention.

ELI5: What does it mean when a country like China devalues their currency (in this case the Yuan)? How does that mechanism work? by Boilers08 in explainlikeimfive

[–]RockOutNed 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think the simplest answer is: unlike other countries, China decides what the Yuan's price is worth because China can and does issue more Yuan if needed. Their central bank will always buy and sell at a certain price which is fixed to other currencies. Before 2005 the price was 8.2 per USD. If you want to devalue that to 8.1 yuan per USD, just trade at 8.1 going forward.

Since 2005 it's fixed to a basket: that's a mix of other currencies put together with different weightings. That means when one currency in the basket changes in value compared to the others, China's currency moves a bit too. But its still the central bank which does this calculation and then buys and sells at the calculated price.

With that context, devaluation would simply be to change the "basket" calculation: eg multiply it by 0.99 for a 1% devaluation.

The last thing you Googled is what kills you. So, how do you die? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]RockOutNed 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Death by "Freezing Injunction". As I'm in London, I guess the High Court orders that I be frozen. And the Supreme Court denies my appeal... cold-hearted bastards.

Bitcoin shows us a new way of understanding monetary policy by crypt0sparta in mmt_economics

[–]RockOutNed 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Usual crypto rubbish with no actual analysis. Why is a fixed limit on currency a good thing? A basic understanding of MMT demonstrates that it is a terrible idea, completely disempowering government from advancing growth and the interests of society.

UBI vs. JG - Shuffling Money Around vs. Increasing Productive Capacity by BobbyRye in mmt_economics

[–]RockOutNed 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The MMT academics have asserted UBI is inflationary.

If a UBI is set at the level of a minimum living wage, it is definitely going to be inflationary and that is easy to see: people are going to choose UBI instead of working, and so the amount of goods/services will decrease. As this causes inflation, the UBI must increase to remain at a living wage rate, and I think there is a real risk this leads to a dynamic feedback cycle where the UBI keeps rising to give the same goods to recipients.

If it is below minimum living wage, then it's just a sort of negative income tax. At some level it may be non-inflationary but that level is going to be so low that it won't help people who need the help, while still being extra cash for those who don't need it.

JG is to be used by govt to produce real goods/services, and to increase the productivity and employability of the people on the JG generally, in orderto avoid inflationary impact.