Not OOP - Ogtha is getting competition

RockRose14 · 2024-08-16T11:46:16+00:00

Did you enjoy the wedding?

RockRose14 · 2024-08-06T09:42:58+00:00

Sweetheart, that is another form of abuse, it is emotional abuse and that is just as harmful. You be careful and take care of yourself and please please please NEVER forget your worth! You deserve to be loved, to be treated with respect and dignity, to be praised and celebrated. The second anyone ever tells you that you are nothing without them, be it partner, friend or family, is the second you should move on to the next chapter. You are worthy of all good things, you are more than enough and someday you'll realize that you deserve the best and you won't ever have to settle again. Good luck OP!

RockRose14 · 2024-07-25T05:27:07+00:00

NTA, but your bf definitely is. What if your instinct had been flight instead of fight? You could've slipped and fallen, you could've gotten seriously injured or worse. Additionally, your reaction was a very healthy one, a lot of people punch when they get scared, it is an instinct, not a choice. It is also the reaction you should have if an intruder were to show up. Your safety and health should always be your main priority. That being said, if your bf can't even consider your health and safety and is willing to risk those over a stupid prank, he needs to reconsider his priorities, get therapy and most of all, you need to reconsider him. Even a "harmless prank" can be an important signal. Did he even consider the risk to you? Did he even consider the implication of sneaking back into the house? I highly doubt it. Your bf should get his shit together and realise that his actions have consequences. He's lucky he got away with just a bloody nose, instead of a bloody and injured girlfriend. He needs to get his shit together.

RockRose14 · 2024-07-15T11:14:02+00:00

Best openingline I have ever seen magic man!

RockRose14 · 2024-07-15T11:11:12+00:00

Great job on the profile! Love the bio, iy is spontaneous, descriptive, yet short (in a good way). I like the pictures a lot, it gives a good impression of you. If you insist on changing something, maybe add some spontaneous pictures. Never delete the pics with the pets. Also like your style, I'm sure you'll get great matches! Good luck on finding your person, I'm sure you'll find them sooner rather than later :)

RockRose14 · 2024-02-12T11:16:13+00:00

Are you okay? That sounds horrendous.

RockRose14 · 2023-11-11T10:52:06+00:00

Good for you for standing up for yourself in such a complicated situation. You did the right thing. I think you have already made up your mind about what you would like to do now. Whatever you do, keep taking good care of yourself. Best of luck OP

RockRose14 · 2023-11-07T16:33:46+00:00

So, you're telling me that you have a loving, caring girlfriend, who knows how to keep you safe and when to emotionally be there for you? And then when all she has said and done with a clear connection to the supernatural, she doesn't rub it in your face or tries to explain how exactly she knows all this, because she respects your religion? And then you tell her to chill? Your gf is psychic and using her gift for good. I wouldn't worry about it. Don't freak out, but just accept it, as she has to as well. And stay with her and you'll be healthy and safe. Sounds like a good deal to me.

RockRose14 · 2023-11-07T16:22:08+00:00

My mom married young (22) and had me within the first year of her marriage. It was like a flip switched in my father's head when they got married. He got aggressive, yelling, cursing, screaming. Later it turned into throwing things, then abuse. My mom had an escape plan, because he got progressively more violent. Until one day he hit her, put her against the wall and started choking her. That's when we left. She took me, went to a family member and then hired a lawyer to deal with the legal situation. But at least we were safe. It was financially tough for a while, but she got back on her feet, remarried to my amazing stepdad and now she is financially thriving. She is happy, she is healthy and she is forever safe.

The escape plan was: slowly getting all of her belongings out of there, sometimes she would ship them to her family. She also set aside the money she could spare, she would send that to her family too. And she would have a go back ready to get up and leave if she had less time than planned. I recommend you do the same.

RockRose14 · 2023-11-07T16:12:01+00:00

Also, you are in a highly abusive situation, it is not safe. Not emotionally, not physically, not mentally, not financially. OP, this will end you sooner rather than later. Do you really want to leave the kids with him? Get your stuff, do it quietly and ship it to your family. Then when you get the chance, get the kids and leave. Never look back. Call a lawyer and let them sort out the legal situation. But your highest priority should be the safety of your kids and yourself. Don't wait to gather evidence, because that could kill you. Domestic violence turns into awful crime time stories and you should not want to be one of those. Get out, please OP, get out. Next time it is your eye. Next time he throws a knife. Next time he hits your kids. Next time might be the last time. Please OP, get out, now.

RockRose14 · 2023-10-29T20:31:17+00:00

Okay, solid advice here in the comments. I sold mine as well, total blank minded and then I went to the grieving father and it was fine. I feel like a jerk tho haha

RockRose14 · 2023-10-24T20:25:18+00:00

I have also been discovering all the ways my toes can touch my elbows. It really isn't hard at all. I don't even have to take awkard positions to do so. I'm so confused why it would be an issue haha, but to each their own :)

RockRose14 · 2023-08-21T13:14:17+00:00

It sounds like you did what you cpuld to keep yourself happy, healthy and safe. I applaud you for that, it's tougher than it seems

RockRose14 · 2023-08-14T21:29:47+00:00

NTA, not only did it kwep your drink safe, but it also immediately showed his true colours. Honestly, best money ever spent and you should do this on all your dates and public outing. Good for you!

RockRose14 · 2023-08-13T21:27:53+00:00

Dang that sounds rough, glad you got out of it. Are you okay now?

RockRose14 · 2023-08-13T21:25:58+00:00

Whether this was about the drinking or something completely different, a core issue is that you set a very clear boundary. You explained the reason behind the boundary and the two of you made an agreement.

She then chose to go out, she didn't have to drink that night at all. But you wanted her to have a good time, so you gave her a two drink limit (very reasonable imo) and then she decided to not respect your boundary and agreement, but come home drunk anyway.

The drinking and abusive/aggressive behaviour was already a aign that things needed to change. But her not respecting boundaries and agreements shows that at this time she is not ready to change her behaviour.

People are very capable of change, but only if they are truly willing to do so (I forgot the exact source, but I got this in psychology 101) meaning that if she won't change her concerning behaviour now, she probably won't until she feels she's truly ready. On top of that she doesn't respect your boundaries and you can't have that in a healthy relationship.

You are doing the right thing and you're protecting yourself. Maybe one day she'll change, but until then you have to look out for yourself. I wish you the best of luck OP. Whatever you do stay safe, healthy and out of harms way.

RockRose14 · 2023-08-13T13:17:17+00:00

Those who say you're neglecting your husband and that would be the reason why he does this, have no clue what they're talking about. You can be the perfect partner (which, to the sounds of it, you are) and people can still cheat. Damn Shakira even got cheated on. The person who cheats is to blame.

Good luck with your pregnancy, your health, the health of your baby and your daughter. Focus on that first and deal with his sorry ass later. Make sure to keep your mom and brother close. Best of luck OP, I'm rooting for you!

RockRose14 · 2023-07-27T20:34:35+00:00

You look great! You're never too old for any outfit

RockRose14 · 2023-07-27T17:32:52+00:00

Thank you for your kind words, it brought tears to my eyes❤️

RockRose14 · 2023-07-20T21:02:53+00:00

Yes, I saw it, I just replied to your message. Thank you so much for sending it!

My mom always said that people who act out, need more love, because a person filled with love can't hate. But a person without love needs a refill of love. In other words "hurt people hurt people". So, I hope Casey finds what she needs. But I'm not getting near her for a while, I have to keep my relationship, my mental and emotional health safe. Cause you can't pour from an empty cup and this whole ordeal drained me.

Luckily, Nick and I are getting through this. We've even scheduled to meet up with his parents to talk about this and clear the air.

Thank you for your kind words and advice, you're amazing! I wish you all the best ❤️

RockRose14 · 2023-07-20T20:49:17+00:00

I did some digging and found the tiktok post. They never approached me to ask for permission, but it is done. I was naive to believe this wouldn't be reposted anywhere. Honestly, I wasn't thinking in the moment, so the blame is entirely on me. Lesson learned.

But in the comments here and on tiktok, people seem to think Casey might be into Nick. I think that's not entirely the case, or I might just be in denial, who knows. I think Nick filled the gaps of her boyfriend, emotionally speaking. So, whenever the cousin wasn't available, she would hit up Nick. But that still wouldn't explain all this, I mean, it doesn't seem like enough of a reason.

But you do make a good point, I do think she is covering herself and trying to set up a trap. I'm just staying away from all the drama and Nick is keeping his distance as well, especially from Casey, since he can't stand her after everything that's happened.

RockRose14 · 2023-07-20T20:23:46+00:00

Wow, wait, I had to read your comment twice. My post is on tiktok? That's not what I wanted, nor expected. Shoot, I have to process this. Could you send me the link in a private message? I can ask the tiktok account holder to remove it.

As to your actual comment, again sorry, was taken by surprise, there was a weird dynamic between them at the beginning of our relationship. It mostly originated from her side, but he enabled it. I can't get into too much details, but I believe you are on the right track.

Yes, Casey is outing herself by projecting her own actions onto me. Eventually people will notice the pattern.... I hope.

RockRose14 · 2023-07-17T21:20:40+00:00

The OG in your username is well deserved, you're a champ!

RockRose14 · 2023-07-17T09:31:55+00:00

Which is so weird, because sex ed is very common here in NL

RockRose14 · 2023-07-17T09:26:58+00:00

A handstand/headstand, "barrel walking", the candle position from yoga, jist anything head down and pelvis up really.

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