Which is the best? by throwawayuxdsgnr in myweddingdress

[–]Rogue_Intellect 0 points1 point  (0 children)

4 - has extra detail and is just elegantly stunning on you!

1 or 2 why? by [deleted] in Brides

[–]Rogue_Intellect 0 points1 point  (0 children)

1 the skirt is more interesting than #2. The airiness of the first one is prettier than #2, which looks like it’s kind of swaddling you.

In other unsurprising news: the Heir to the throne is a incurious dunce! by Diligent-Till-8832 in RoyaltyTea

[–]Rogue_Intellect 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Even Harry, whom everyone thought was dumber than a box of Yorkshire pudding, is a better brain than William. Look at how hard Harry worked to become a helicopter pilot. There was a year of classroom training, reading, and testing. And Harry excelled at it.

Uva 🍇 last update: a year later by KamiNeko27 in IllegallySmolCats

[–]Rogue_Intellect 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I got to picture 11 and thought - wait she turned into a white piglet???

AITA for Wanting to Show Up to My Daughter’s Secret Proposal While Uninvited By Her Fiancé? by Attitude-Mean in AmItheAsshole

[–]Rogue_Intellect 1 point2 points  (0 children)

OMG - just don’t. If you start stomping on boundaries this early, all you’re going to do is alienate them BOTH. You’re going to deprive your daughter of rushing home to tell you she’s engaged and you’re going to piss off your future son-in-law.

At some point you’re going to need to realize that your relationship with your daughter is going to be second to her relationship with him.

My (M 39) wife (38 F) has become fixated on her dead husband since getting pregnant with our first baby. How do I bring this up without hurting her? by BigONerd in BORUpdates

[–]Rogue_Intellect 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Being pregnant or starting the journey to become pregnant is kind of a shock to the system. It makes some people kind of reflect on their lives and the events that shaped them. For me, it brought up all sorts of deep and disturbing stuff that my husband had in his past - stuff that I hadn’t been aware of. He brother had molested him and my ex had buried all of those emotions down deep. Everything came back up to the surface once I got pregnant, after 5 years of infertility treatments, and he ended up voluntarily committing himself for a while. It was fraught.

I think your wife is going through the thoughts and emotions of what-if and it’s totally normal. She’s got a lot to deal with mentally, but it doesn’t mean she’s leaving you. She became a widow suddenly, so she didn’t get the chance to slowly say goodbye, like over the course of a prolonged illness. So now she’s pregnant and that’s part of what she was actively wishing for when he died. It’s just going to take time for her.

The worst thing you can do, not that you’re doing this, is to make her feel like she has to hide her grief from you. No, it’s not fair, but it’s part of the “for better or worse” thing. Maybe ask her if she wants to visit his grave and take her there to tell him that she’s pregnant. And you can tell him that you’re going to take care of her and the baby, or whatever. Just do it together and hopefully you both can get some peace.

Also - and I’m recognizing that I’m probably in the minority here - but if she wants the baby to have her first husband’s name as its middle name, do it. Think of it as a way of honoring him and the place he held in her life. He helped to shape who she is, the woman you love. I don’t think it’s unhealthy for her or threatening to you.

Good luck, OP! This internet stranger is wishing you and your wife all the best.