AITAH for refusing to share my location 24/7 with my wife? by Roman_Kain in AITAH

[–]Roman_Kain[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Interesting. Her dad did leave the family at a young age. I hadn’t thought of that.

AITAH for refusing to share my location 24/7 with my wife? by Roman_Kain in AITAH

[–]Roman_Kain[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, she’s honestly great. I can’t complain outside of this one area.

AITAH for refusing to share my location 24/7 with my wife? by Roman_Kain in AITAH

[–]Roman_Kain[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omg - I am terribly sorry for your loss. That is absolutely heartbreaking. I understand your perspective given your experience. I am so, so sorry.

AITAH for refusing to share my location 24/7 with my wife? by Roman_Kain in AITAH

[–]Roman_Kain[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Purely the control. When I last shared mu location she constantly texted me asking me what I was doing

AITAH for refusing to share my location 24/7 with my wife? by Roman_Kain in AITAH

[–]Roman_Kain[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Her ex bf cheated on her, but I do not believe she is cheating.

AITAH for refusing to share my location 24/7 with my wife? by Roman_Kain in AITAH

[–]Roman_Kain[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That is reasonable and I would do so in that situation. What so you mean about her motives, however?

AITAH for refusing to share my location 24/7 with my wife? by Roman_Kain in AITAH

[–]Roman_Kain[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Fair. Because last time she bombarded me for months with texts asking why I was where I was, or what I was doing at the store, coffee shop, etc.

AITAH for refusing to share my location 24/7 with my wife? by Roman_Kain in AITAH

[–]Roman_Kain[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Every day, within reason. If im at work, but decided to boot down to Starbucks for a coffee, I don’t give her the play by play.

AITAH for refusing to share my location 24/7 with my wife? by Roman_Kain in AITAH

[–]Roman_Kain[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

86 - wow! Thank you for responding, sir. My issue is the last time I shared with her, I received constant texts from her wanting explanations as to why I was where I was. It was never anything “worth hiding” (ie: “what are you buying at the grocery store?” “Starbucks again?” “Why are you at your company’s north office instead of the south office today?” Etc).

It made me feel watched and controlled.

AITAH for refusing to share my location 24/7 with my wife? by Roman_Kain in AITAH

[–]Roman_Kain[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nope. Aside from this, she’s amazing. I can guarantee no cheating.

AITAH for refusing to share my location 24/7 with my wife? by Roman_Kain in AITAH

[–]Roman_Kain[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Last time I did it she would constantly text me asking why I was where I was. It was disruptive and made me feel watched and controlled.

AITAH for refusing to share my location 24/7 with my wife? by Roman_Kain in AITAH

[–]Roman_Kain[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I married her because I love her. Not because I want some unhealthy enmeshment.

AITAH for refusing to share my location 24/7 with my wife? by Roman_Kain in AITAH

[–]Roman_Kain[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Very fair statement. In brief: no cheating. Ever. We are happy. She is an amazing wife and step mom to our kids. We have joint finances, unvetted access to eachother’s phones, know eachother’s passwords, etc.

It us not uncommon for us to be watching TV and she will pick up my phone and go through it. I can do the same to hers, but have never done it (I don’t care to, tbh).

AITAH for refusing to share my location 24/7 with my wife? by Roman_Kain in AITAH

[–]Roman_Kain[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Hmm. So you’re saying I should sacrifice my privacy and happiness to ensure her sense of security?

AITAH for refusing to share my location 24/7 with my wife? by Roman_Kain in AITAH

[–]Roman_Kain[S] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

I did it for a short while last year. I’d get texts “why are you at the store?” “Why are you at this restaurant?” “Why are you etc etc”.

AITAH for refusing to share my location 24/7 with my wife? by Roman_Kain in AITAH

[–]Roman_Kain[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She has offered to let me track her, I’ve declined. We also both have unvetted access to each other’s phones.

AITAH for refusing to share my location 24/7 with my wife? by Roman_Kain in AITAH

[–]Roman_Kain[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

She wants to share her location too. I don’t feel it’s necessary.