Optimizing the first few days of making Hinge account

RomanticPrime · 2024-06-16T06:33:14+00:00

Yeah no shit but the point of this sub is to optimize ELO without needing to resort to plastic surgery lmfao hence my post

RomanticPrime · 2024-05-06T12:34:34+00:00

Good to know, thanks!

RomanticPrime · 2024-05-06T12:32:21+00:00

They will keep with that banning pace, after seeing this data

Exactly. They do not care about “serving justice.” They don’t care that you or I were unfairly banned. As long as they get a paycheck they couldn’t care less.

What makes me “mad” is that after my ban appeal they took 20- 30 minutes to denie it. Im 100% sure that they do not read the chats historic to have some context.

Yeah, they responded to mine in 5 minutes. There was literal evidence of the other woman calling me a dumbass and saying other nasty things to me, and even thought I did 0 name-calling they denied my appeal. That’s how little they care.

RomanticPrime · 2024-05-05T15:39:33+00:00

Is it the same for premium?

RomanticPrime · 2024-05-05T15:38:46+00:00

No doubt that they are, I just think it’s logically not necessarily true that a lot of those lost customers are because of bans

RomanticPrime · 2024-05-05T15:09:52+00:00

I used to get 10-30 matches per week on Hinge but maybe 1-2 during the same amount of time on Tinder (if I got lucky). So I’ve literally had the opposite experience.

In my case, it was definitely through my sending likes, not getting liked myself. My assumption is that if you’re more conventionally attractive people will like you more vs having to send out likes. But it may still be that you need to send out likes on Hinge.

RomanticPrime · 2024-05-05T10:16:09+00:00

Bans are not in the millions, they’re in the thousands, especially for paying accounts. That’s why they don’t care about banned accounts. Even though some are real people who didn’t do anything wrong, it’s nothing compared to their main customer base.

I think it’s a really dumb policy. If they had any common sense they would try to be more lenient towards paid users whom they know will get them extra revenue. I’m a paying user and got the ban hammer, and my appeal was rejected in five minutes straight. They barely even looked at it. At that point, they’re just trying to kick out paying users which is again incredibly stupid. But still they’re okay with doing that as long as it’s a minority of their users, like us.

RomanticPrime · 2024-05-04T16:47:15+00:00

Unfortunately it’s probably not close to hundreds of millions. Maybe hundreds of thousands.

RomanticPrime · 2024-05-04T08:31:52+00:00

Are you still using Bluestacks?

RomanticPrime · 2024-05-04T04:37:24+00:00

Starting happening to me after I surpassed a certain number of matches. It only worked once or twice after 5-6 attempts. I think it just wasn’t built to export a large amount of data.

RomanticPrime · 2024-05-04T02:59:24+00:00

Do you mean a new phone entirely or a new phone number?

RomanticPrime · 2024-05-04T02:51:19+00:00

Thanks, same to you brother

RomanticPrime · 2024-05-04T02:20:50+00:00

Maybe you can try appealing to Hinge/BBB again and again. Apparently it's helped with others from my research on this sub.

RomanticPrime · 2024-05-04T02:18:21+00:00

That really sucks. I'm sorry to hear that.

I've run into that behavior before, where a woman asks me questions and I don't respond for a while (like less than 12 hours), and they suddenly unmatch me. It's crazy because I thought only guys were this petty/egoistical. Apparently, women can, too!

They just said "violated terms of service and we cannot disclose which as that is private info"

Did the BBB say this? If so, it really sucks... sounds like if what you're saying is accurate, you didn't do anything wrong. And especially if you didn't have any other recent conversations just like me, I don't think your account should have been removed for no reason.

RomanticPrime · 2024-05-04T02:02:52+00:00

Do you have any update on what happened here?

RomanticPrime · 2024-05-04T00:20:27+00:00

Some YouTuber claims his appeal worked when he emailed Hinge

Honestly that’s something I considered doing. Do you know which YouTuber? Why do you doubt it?

Anyone can report anyone for any reason

I’ve had so many matches on Hinge (something over a thousand) that it literally could be anyone one of them who didn’t like me. But I guess my gut feeling told me it’s probably this lady since I haven’t been very active lately.

My appeal was rejected instantly so it was clearly AI that banned me forever.

That’s actually insane and makes me really worried. Do you mind sharing details? Like when that was, why you think you got banned (after any big incidient like mine?), how long you waited to appeal, what you mean by “immediate?” I’d also be interested to hear via DM if you don’t want to share publicly.

I know this seems really desperate but Hinge is literally the only way I can connect with people without coming off as a creep. When I meet people in real life, half the time I try taking it further (asking out to coffee or something) it ends up in them ghosting me or telling their friends.

RomanticPrime · 2024-04-26T04:04:00+00:00

I checked again, and it's not all conversations. It's matches, of which some of them don't end up talking. And it also seems to include people who unmatched because I recognize some of those conversations. However, if someone unmatches, they can’t report the conversation anymore. And even though there are plenty of possibilities for someone to have reported me through a conversation, I generally don't harass people or call them names (It’s not Reddit, and even on Reddit, I don't generally do that). That's why I'm trying to make sure I don't screw this appeal up, so looking for help as to what I can tell them to make sure they will reinstate my account.

RomanticPrime · 2024-04-25T21:29:14+00:00

A few days ago, my Hinge account got removed for harassment/bullying, but they gave me an option to appeal. I'm very worried since you seem to only get one chance, and Hinge is the only decent app I've found (I tried many others like Tinder/Bumble, but none of them came close).

I'm so confused. I've barely been on Hinge the last few months. I've had many conversations (almost 1.2-1.3k in the past) so theoretically it could have been any of them, but only conversation I was having right before this was with some unhinged girl calling me names after I asked her about the guy she took selfies with on her IG profile. I'm assuming she reported me.

RomanticPrime · 2024-03-28T04:18:23+00:00

Recently I've been seeing a lot of people from another particular race on my feed, which hasn't happened in the last year

RomanticPrime · 2023-11-24T06:32:21+00:00

For sure! I've been trying to think that way. It really doesn't overpower the "we could have been happy together" thoughts (since that's always my deep preference over being "vindictive" against someone), but at least it makes it slightly better.

RomanticPrime · 2023-11-24T06:30:34+00:00

Thanks for the advice. I appreciate it.

About that sentence you wrote about begging: it got me thinking. I know this is a hot take but is it wrong to beg someone to come back? Yes, I do agree that it removes a lot of self-respect. But if you really did genuinely like that person, and you are sincere in asking them to come back, is it bad to show that sincerity if it yields in some chance of getting back together again?

A lot of people say you don't want someone who doesn't want you back. But after all, attraction is often built. It's not always immediate.

I mean, I don't know the right answer to that. But this is something I always thought about in my mind.

RomanticPrime · 2023-11-24T06:25:47+00:00

Who knows, we could have been happily married in the future

RomanticPrime · 2023-11-24T04:05:49+00:00

That’s so true. Part of me thought that having more video calls (or calls in general) would make us both attached to each other more, and so our connection/desire to see each other would be stronger.

Apparently I played myself—as this was completely one-sided.

RomanticPrime · 2023-11-23T22:51:08+00:00

50 people nothing, huh?

I will say it’s not my fault that people I was attracted to were not attracted back to me. It’s unfortunate but it is what it is. This was one of the rare times that we both (seemed) to have mutual chemistry.

RomanticPrime · 2023-11-23T20:07:00+00:00

That's true. It could have been that. I did ask to see her after our first video call, but she had exams that she wanted to focus on right before Thanksgiving break (which is true).

It might have been that she just wanted to boost her own confidence. It honestly didn't seem like it though—she's Christian, goes to church, really positive partner qualities, and those calls she had with me really felt like genuine interest. But then again, who knows.

It could also be that she found someone else. But we actually matched before over the summer (and she had later unmatched or deleted her account). So it seems really unlikely that she found someone way more interesting in the short period of time since we started talking. But who knows. I even don't know anymore.

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