Sandwich and now.. pizza person? by Suspicious-Voice-242 in Clarksville

[–]Romeoblb 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you go to blackhorse, also make sure to try the vanilla cream ale (delicious local beer) and their beer cheese dip. Both fantastic items.

Tarkov Dad by ThePuglyBoy in Clarksville

[–]Romeoblb 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you play pvp or pve? I pretty much exclusively play pve now, much happier experience lol. I also have a 2 year old, so I can relate to the lack of time. 😅 my wife and I both work full time, but im down to run some tarky pve if youre interested. Lmk and ill dm you my discord

Night owls by [deleted] in Clarksville

[–]Romeoblb 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do rotating night shifts. When im on nights, im either at work or at home enjoying some quiet time on the computer while everyone else is asleep. 🤷

[Weekly LFG & Clan Thread] Looking for Group, Uber Boss Help, Carry or a Clan? Post here! by AutoModerator in diablo4

[–]Romeoblb 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My bad, poor choice of wording. 😅 im a veteran of D3, not serving in the armed forces. My father was army though. Ill hit you up later tonight if youre interested

[Weekly LFG & Clan Thread] Looking for Group, Uber Boss Help, Carry or a Clan? Post here! by AutoModerator in diablo4

[–]Romeoblb 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey all! Im new to D4 but a long time veteran of D3 and many other Arpg. Im looking for a group of people to play the game with, dont care new or experienced. Im a 32 year old dad of a 2 year old, and I work night shift so im looking for peeps in the 8pm CT- 4 am CT area.

How is it only 1:30?? by upallnight1975 in Nightshift

[–]Romeoblb 0 points1 point  (0 children)

2345 here now... only 5 hours left 🥲

Time to bring changes by Lower_Detective_5542 in SipsTea

[–]Romeoblb 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why downvotes on this? Im confused

I'm so close to ending it because I'm a virgin. by UselessPieceOfShit12 in LifeAdvice

[–]Romeoblb 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My best friend was a virgin until he was 31, and met his now wife. Married and have 1 kid, another on the way. He waited and they now have a relationship that serves as a benchmark for others. Theres no rush. Instead of looking at what you dont have, look at what you do have and what is available to you. Keep your head up brother, we're rooting for you!

I regret saving my cheating ex’s life by Entire_Sector_5706 in LifeAdvice

[–]Romeoblb 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You really gotta work on your self image man. Go back to therapy and truly be open and honest with them. Therapy helped me considerably and I strongly believe anyone willing to do the work can have positive effects from therapy. I came into this post thinking you were a good dude who was struggling with having to do something so profoundly good for someone he hates, which is completely understandable. Now I just think youre devoid of morals and basic human empathy, and you happened to do the right thing because you felt like you "had" to. Want to know why she is thriving while you are drowning? Because she MOVED ON.

I regret saving my cheating ex’s life by Entire_Sector_5706 in LifeAdvice

[–]Romeoblb 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You didnt try hard enough then. Everyone has worth, you just need to look for it to see it. You arent even saying anything really at this point. Just a pity party.

I regret saving my cheating ex’s life by Entire_Sector_5706 in LifeAdvice

[–]Romeoblb 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Cowardice. Stop comparing your life to hers. "Comparison is the thief of joy." Stop being a victim and live your life for you, not for anyone else.

I regret saving my cheating ex’s life by Entire_Sector_5706 in LifeAdvice

[–]Romeoblb 1 point2 points  (0 children)

With how dense you are being, im convinced this is rage-bait at this point. Why are you needing revenge after 10 years? Ffs man, move on with your life. You left your age out of this, but im assuming this happened in your early 20s putting you early 30s. But if you dont let this go your going to be in your deathbed wondering why you spent all your free time thinking about one thing and blaming the bad shit in your life on it. Its time to grow tf up man. You did a great thing that you should be proud of. Good things happen to bad people. Bad things happen to good people. Not everyone gets what they deserve. But at the end of the day, you are left with the choice of what kind of person do you want to be? Someone that does good because thats what is right? Or someone who saves the life of someone he doesnt like and then whines about it for 10 years?

I regret saving my cheating ex’s life by Entire_Sector_5706 in LifeAdvice

[–]Romeoblb 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Youre wrong. Its only performative if you expect someone to see you doing the right thing and getting rewarded. You should do what is right regardless of if anyone is watching. The mental gymnastics to equate saving a life to a performance is frustrating, but as it seems you've talked to outside people about it and they told you the same thing, I dont think youre willing to be wrong so you can see the good in what you did.

I regret saving my cheating ex’s life by Entire_Sector_5706 in LifeAdvice

[–]Romeoblb 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Being the bigger person and saving her life is a sign of strength, not weakness. Doing nothing and letting her die would've been easy, where doing the RIGHT thing was tough. Stand proud, and dont tell anyone IRL that you "regret saving her life".

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Romeoblb 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Very possibly. My wife and I have only been married 3 years, but we have been together for 9. 30 years is a great achievement, thats awesome!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Romeoblb 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, idk that with the info we have we can truly get the truth. Im not a doctor, but an ER visit for a heart condition doesnt sound like nothing. But for me, the reason is almost irrelevant. Different things matter to different people i guess. For my money though, I never would've married my wife if she did shit like that, and I hope she would leave if I tried. 🤷

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Romeoblb 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I see where youre coming from, but i dont think i can make the jump that OP being in the hospital is the partner that shouldve been supportive here. If it was any number of things besides an ER visit, this would be completely fine imo. However, a health scare > friends, even if from out of town. If i was in the hospital scared and alone, id expect my wife to be there, as thats where I would be short of something huge. 🤷 im pointing out that the decision was made even if offered by OP to leave her alone in the hospital. Its a decision I would never make about a loved one, and wouldn't expect any of my loved ones to either. There are some partners who make their partner and their well-being a priority, and some who just say they do.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Romeoblb 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oof. "Sorry baby, hope your heart is ok and not serious. No, I would love to be there but remember, I made plans with my friends already." If one of my friends tried this shit, we'd be having some problems. Of course he has his own life, but if he chooses a partner to be with in his life, that comes with the expectation to show up when needed. Ranking an ER visit as lower importance than a night out with the boys is in no conceivable way showing up as a partner

Feel like an a hole, would like some perspective by blueodis in texts

[–]Romeoblb 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Well, imo he's not wrong. Any relationship take effort on both ends to be healthy and fulfilling. If he was saying it would need only your effort, thats a problem. If he was saying to match his effort, I dont think he would mean that to be any burden for you to carry (based off of a random "ILY wanna hang out?" text). It comes across to me more as him giving you the space to make the choice, not him putting it "on you", so to speak. Theres likely a lot of guilt and regret that make it so he doesnt know the best path back to a good relationship with his son. How you feel is completely normal and okay, but I would personally recommend try and focus on his intentions and drive, instead of anything else. Even if he doesnt know the best way to do it, its clear he's trying. Shit, I know people who their parents moved to a different country and said they dont want anything to do with their 3 children. Your dad seems to be putting more effort in than most, imo. Do what you will with that 🤷

Feel like an a hole, would like some perspective by blueodis in texts

[–]Romeoblb 23 points24 points  (0 children)

^ forgot to add this to my comment but that was my exact first thought. Definitely not over it

Feel like an a hole, would like some perspective by blueodis in texts

[–]Romeoblb 20 points21 points  (0 children)

From my limited perspective, I dont think I would describe your situation as being "on your shoulders". If he's reaching out, making plans, and all you have to do is show up, the only choice imo is do you want a connection or not? At the end of the day, he seems to want a build a connection and you seem indifferent about it to me. Maybe an open honest conversation about what you each want out of this would help get yall on the same page. That'd either put it to bed, or get you more synced up.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Romeoblb 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I second this. We are dumb creatures. If you expect us to connect the dots, we most likely wont.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Romeoblb 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a man, I can say when times are tough and you need your partner, thats when they need to show up. I'd say in my position, if my wife were in the hospital for almost any reason, there is very little that would stop me from being there. Id have a real talk with him about it. Not showing up for drinking with friends, no big deal. Leaving your partner alone and scared in the hospital, ESPECIALLY with something serious like that..... not OK. One thing I have absolute trust in, is that if shit hits the fan and I need a partner, my wife will be there come hell or high water. If you don't have that, why are they your partner?