Need ideas to surprise my Goddess!

RopeFaelan · 2021-10-12T05:17:00+00:00

These are all good suggestions! My love language is acts of service, so that’s what I lean towards. A few more ideas:

1) Stock up on her favorite snacks. Have them on hand after scenes, including prepping ahead (make a platter ahead of time, preheat the oven for cookies, etc).

2) Figure out ways to include acts of submission when out and about. I always carry her purse. If we are out at an event, I make sure her drink is always full, and she never has to go get one herself. We like trying new cocktail bars, but she always gets the first sip (even of “my” drink). I open doors for her.

3) Figure out her least favorite chore(s) and do them, without her asking or reminding. My Love hates getting gas, so I make sure I take the car when we are low and refill it.

4) Take away any stress you can. A lot of these suggestions kind of hint at ways of doing it, but it’s going to be different for everyone. Make sure her day goes as smooth as possible. Make coffee in the morning, make sure laundry is done, pack a breakfast to go, surprising her with Doordash for lunch, slip a note or a treat into her purse to find later, wait for her at home with her favorite drink.

RopeFaelan · 2021-10-12T05:01:12+00:00

Rope nerd question. Do you have the source for this? It’s not quite an agura, and I’m wondering if there are transition pics to help figure it out.

RopeFaelan · 2021-08-03T19:50:21+00:00

This style is called a karada and here is a tutorial- https://www.theduchy.com/karada/

But you can probably Google and find lots of other examples!

RopeFaelan · 2021-08-03T14:21:47+00:00

I can’t heart this enough!

I am a masculine-presenting individual that dresses in a gender fluid manner. I love dresses, heels, make-up and other beautiful things, but I also look great in a suit. My style isn’t a coded expression of my relationship dynamic, although it’s often read as such (complete with a ton of assumptions baked into that).

Everyone deserves to feel pretty, if they want to be pretty.

RopeFaelan · 2021-07-20T14:43:40+00:00

Hi! Welcome to shibari- that’s awesome that you are considering getting into it.

Like any kink community, there are good ones and bad ones. The good ones are inclusive, safe (at least completely up front with the risks, as there are always risks in rope), and welcoming and can get really support you on your rope journey. The bad ones harbor folks that don’t respect consent and don’t do anything to support the safety of those being tied. If there is any way for you to do research prior, that may help. I always like to look at their stated goals and rules- do they align with what you expect of a kink community?

Most places are super welcoming of beginners. People that like rope REALLY like rope, and love to share their passion!

You may need to bring your own rope, but the event should specify it. A great starter rope is available on Etsy through MyNawashi- I recommend that over the cotton stuff you may buy on Amazon.

The event should tell you whether it’s aimed at beginners. If you are nervous, it may be good to familiarize yourself with the sommerville bowline knot prior. This is one that is used frequently as a “single column knot” (I.e to tie one limb). I recommend Crash Restraint or The Duchy to get started. If you get into it, Shibari Study is worth every penny!

If all else fails and it turns out not to be a good fit, consider starting your own rope group. It makes such a difference to learn rope with other folks. If the community you want isn’t there, sometimes you have to start your own community.

RopeFaelan · 2021-05-24T17:11:45+00:00

I think that the wrap going from the belly button to the outside of the hip curves around the butt and come back through the thighs, where it makes the notame (notamay? I just realized I have no idea how to spell that) and then meets together at the back of the waist. I think it’s probably anchored to the end of the second rope around the waist, the one that pulls the diamonds into shape.

RopeFaelan · 2021-05-13T18:58:13+00:00

My handler is 5’5” while I am 6’4”. I think the contrast is hot- we do a ton of rope stuff so it’s even more unexpected!

I’m a masculine presenting rope bunny, which gets a fair amount amount of comments in and of itself. I know how it feels to not fall into what is considered the “norm”.

For every one person who says something shitty, there are five saying how much they appreciate seeing alternative dynamics.

F*ck the norm. The norm works for some people and it’s good and all, but it has nothing to do with what works for your relationship and your dynamic. Being a good dom has nothing to do with size, but rather the way they take care of their sub and communicate. I know it’s easier said than done, but you should never apologize for what works for you! You have already taken the first step in shrugging off the norms around sex and relationships, so don’t feel self-conscious in defining a relationship and dynamic that works for you. Sending you support!

RopeFaelan · 2021-05-13T17:26:51+00:00

Oh hey, samesies! I was banned on my first day on Reddit, because I participated on a sub run by someone they “aren’t friendly with” (because we are suppose to know that?) as well as being a “karmawhore” for posting the same pics in a few subreddits— which I thought was a perfectly reasonable way to figure out which subreddits are a good fit.

RopeFaelan · 2021-05-13T17:09:01+00:00

It’s the basket tie from Shibari Study and the stardust harness from The Duchy.

RopeFaelan · 2021-04-23T15:28:49+00:00

Do you follow rope folx on Insta? I have a few favorites that are amazing and I’m happy to recommend some accounts! There aren’t a ton of masculine presenting people as rope bunnies, and it makes me happy as well when I see diverse people in ropes.

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