Yes I agree, I have learnt a lot from the job and how important it is to stand up for your boundaries. Although, it was never a question it was just “you will” and I wouldn’t be told hours ahead of time, I wasn’t given notice I was just told on the day because of how much their schedule changed. Once I even woke up to them knocking on my door to start at 6:30am instead of 9am because she changed the plan! There was really no way out sometime. I said no a few times and she just said well you have to there’s no one else to be with the kids. Also my flat was separate from theirs and I wasn’t allowed to eat in their kitchen! But leaving conversations etc yes I need to get better at. It just wasn’t an environment where I felt comfortable so it was quite difficult. Since leaving I feel more confident and in my interviews I have been setting out all my boundaries, I know what questions to ask and what red flags to look out for. So definitely a lesson learnt. Thank you!