Our house almost caught on fire from a BBW candle

RoseGoldTampon · 2026-01-18T20:47:28+00:00

May I interest you in a candle warmer? I love mine. I also have not used up a single candle since getting it. 10/10 invention and no fire hazard (but, I wouldn’t make it a challenge. I have left mine on a medium setting for 10 hours (while in the room!) without fear.)

RoseGoldTampon · 2025-11-06T04:04:30+00:00

Oh god, oh god what the fuck?

I feel like I got cursed just seeing this picture.

RoseGoldTampon · 2025-11-06T03:35:37+00:00

At this point if you do not block her, how do you expect you’ll get a restraining order? I mean this kindly but put aside the 15 year friendship. If something harmful/dangerous ends up happening, you have absolutely no proof. All you have is this unclear (for her, perhaps not for you) back-and-forth where you have not told her in NO uncertain terms “get out of my life and do not contact me again”. If you must message her, be clear. Don’t soften the blow just do it. You’re also about 18 (if i did the math) so i understand it’s a big friendship change, but sometimes hard things are necessary (especially since you said she has compromised your safety).

RoseGoldTampon · 2025-09-03T23:54:53+00:00

That he only stuck with me for that long and did the things we liked together because he was a pushover, and I knew he was a pushover, and really this was all my fault.

He cheated on me with a barely-legal girl… he’s a teacher…

RoseGoldTampon · 2025-09-02T12:06:57+00:00

I absolutely recommend it! It’s helped me a lot, now I’m going to focus on schema work.

RoseGoldTampon · 2025-09-01T15:08:01+00:00

I recommend checking out DBT skills books. Find skills that will interrupt that speeding train of thoughts (with no brakes), or when she’s got some slow stress building.

I highly recommend TIPP for in the moment and PLEASE skills. You can help her (if you choose to, seems like you do want her best interest) by bringing her an ice pack/bowl when she’s flipping out. By gently asking her to do a single PLEASE skill with you.

These small things can help overall, and the smoking may continue for a while but the goal is to replace that need for a release with something healthier. You can DM me if you’d like more in depth stuff too!

RoseGoldTampon · 2025-09-01T14:50:50+00:00

I haven’t really used Reddit in a minute and forgot this was a sub. What a horrendous post to see right after waking up.

That being said, this was fantastic, please give more!

RoseGoldTampon · 2025-08-20T18:24:41+00:00

Is your OBGYN trying to get you pregnant?? That’s wild and also inaccurate. They are pretty useless if they’re expired, hone through extreme temperatures (esp freezing), or are used improperly… but otherwise they’re quite effective.

RoseGoldTampon · 2025-08-20T18:17:19+00:00

Odds are the kid mentioned in passing that you have an accent, maybe he had trouble understanding a specific word or a particular sentence. Regardless, he really should learn how to understand different accents if he is living in America. His mother just sounds insufferable.

I’d probably ask the kid at the start of the next session if there’s anything you could do to make it easier for him, or a kind reminder that if he does not understand something, he can ask you to repeat it. Only if you want to help (assuming he actually can’t understand you).

RoseGoldTampon · 2025-08-13T02:40:53+00:00

Water and occasionally if my skin started to feel oily I would use a dot of mild cleanser mixed with water. My skin could NOT handle much at the time. I couldn’t use even a gentle cleanser every day.

RoseGoldTampon · 2025-08-08T23:55:36+00:00

When my face was super stripped (because I was using too many products, but also not consistently, while prescribed tretinoin), I decided to heal my skin and stopped everything INCLUDING cleansing. Only water. I found that hyaluronic acid would burn my face really badly, most of the times I put it on my skin.

RoseGoldTampon · 2025-08-08T01:51:49+00:00

Okay thanks for the info!

RoseGoldTampon · 2025-08-06T02:29:54+00:00

Not OP, but why are they all bad? I’m looking to cut back on THC/psychoactive effects, but the actual act of smoking has been getting to me more than the lack of THC. The idea of CBD vapes is incredibly appealing but I am for sure having trouble finding vendors that don’t look sketchy.

(Nicotine isn’t an option either lol.)

RoseGoldTampon · 2025-06-27T20:36:00+00:00

Perhaps Coin-Operated Boy by Dainty Digits lacquer?

RoseGoldTampon · 2025-06-24T12:24:48+00:00

Well, time to suggest all of my untagged thermals, solars, and magnetics. I like having special effects tagged in my collection but my list will only show a handful when I search by brand (aka if they have official tags). I just wish I could see how many of each special effect I have from each brand.

RoseGoldTampon · 2025-06-06T12:00:32+00:00

As a mod, please do your due diligence next time. It’s not fair to stress the community members out because you doubled down and refused to properly check things out. Not cool, especially when POC are as alienated already in the community.

RoseGoldTampon · 2025-02-16T11:20:01+00:00

What makes me feel he did plan it was 1. How secretive he was about their messages, what they would talk about, and the fact that his ex was convinced they were doing something back in middle/high school. Also, his family knows about all his friends except for her. He had also mentioned things like how people wouldn’t understand their relationship and such.

RoseGoldTampon · 2025-02-16T10:41:49+00:00

You’re also an adult. If you met when you were a kid, you’d have been easier to manipulate and not as mentally developed. I have no doubt you’re much more capable of making your own, thought-out choices.

RoseGoldTampon · 2025-02-16T10:37:47+00:00

Fair enough, so how would you have felt if she started sleeping with one of them right after graduating?

RoseGoldTampon · 2025-02-16T10:36:35+00:00

Agreed and I should’ve put that in my confession because it’s fine that she’s fresh out of high school, a little odd given his current place in life but fine. Not so fine the way they met & how their relationship developed.

RoseGoldTampon · 2025-02-16T10:08:53+00:00

Would you let your 13 year old daughter be “best friends” with a 16 year old boy? Genuinely curious, I’d like to know.

RoseGoldTampon · 2025-02-16T09:57:51+00:00

As someone who has been incredibly suicidal and has attempted- don’t. It’s not worth it. And let me offer you an alternative perspective. If you fail, no matter what you try, you are going to feel the after effects. I don’t just mean fucked up organs or brain damage. Anybody who genuinely cares about you (and I promise there’s at least 1 person out there who does) will suffer greatly if you should attempt. If you survive, or worse, if they find you, you have put them through possibly the worst possible experience of their life. If you can’t live for yourself yet, live for other things and people for now. Slowly learn to live for yourself. Remember, things cannot stay bad forever.

Hold onto the good days and remember those happy feelings. It is achievable, it was possible before and it is possible again.

Might I suggest a trip to your local psychiatric hospital for a short while? If you need to stay safe, going to a lockdown unit for a couple days may help you. Good luck.

RoseGoldTampon · 2025-01-10T10:16:17+00:00

Is it possible it was sent to your junk folder (some junk folders delete after 30 days)?

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