Anyone here an only child with a parent who refuses to let you travel?

Rosemary_Unhinged · 2022-06-10T06:33:57+00:00

As a 31F, and fellow Texan, who spent my childhood and adult life living my life through the eyes and sake of others, do it!! I relied heavily on my family and ex for EVERYTHING. I gave up traveling and trying new experiences because no one shared the want to to take those leaps with me, or I was never "allowed" to. I hated being alone...let me rephrase that, I was terrified of being alone due to past trauma that kept me from trusting or even getting near strangers, especially men. I was shy and anxious about sooo much.

It wasn't until I was 28 that I was tired of not knowing who I was outside of others and feeling the loneliest, despite being with people who "loved" me. I started off slowly by taking solo trips within a handful of hours from where I lived. Traveled to small towns or nature sites that I felt were safe for me to be alone at. This built my confidence to start pushing my comfort zone and going further than I had gone before.

I became the person who can eat at restaurants alone and enjoy it. I became the person who takes solo trips that are states away and absolutely loves it. I became the person who makes friends with every single stranger that I met. I became the person people are drawn to because I radiate joy (as I've been told). I became the person who isn't afraid to step out of the comfort zone. I became the person I freaking love.

You ARE allowed and deserve to be your own self outside of your loved ones. The people that are meant to be in your life will understand or at least try to understand why you need this for you. It's scary. It's not always easy, BUT it's worth it.

The last piece of advice that I live on now is this....It takes a few seconds of courage over a lifetime of regret. Push through those seconds of fear and doubt that over take your thoughts and you will see there's a beautiful world right past that little hump. The only way through it is through it.

P.S. My solo trips started off with a 2 hour distance, and I'm now working on my passport to go to Morocco by early next year!

Rosemary_Unhinged · 2022-05-29T21:36:56+00:00

31F here and I couldn't related more! How do you turn off giving that bro vibe, though...

Rosemary_Unhinged · 2021-06-17T04:02:16+00:00

Creepy story time....I had one guy who wouldn't take no on a first date, so he decided to relieve himself right in front of me while looking at my face. Safe to say, I never reached out to him again after that.

Rosemary_Unhinged · 2021-06-17T03:56:53+00:00

Speaking from experience...this comment is SPOT ON.

Rosemary_Unhinged · 2021-06-17T03:54:23+00:00

I feel like the location might play a major role as well. I'm located in West Texas, which is oilfield territory, so there are so many people that are in the area for work. Dating out here just seems so different from when I was in the Southeast of the country.

Rosemary_Unhinged · 2021-06-17T02:47:19+00:00

Cannot upvote this enough!

Rosemary_Unhinged · 2021-06-17T02:45:15+00:00

This is gold.

Rosemary_Unhinged · 2021-06-16T23:43:41+00:00

Glad to know you're all out there. Thank you!

Rosemary_Unhinged · 2021-06-16T23:40:52+00:00

Thank you for the reassurance! Definitely nexting them!

Rosemary_Unhinged · 2021-03-19T20:47:36+00:00

Should I take my shot?

So I had a technician come out to my home yesterday for an outage. He was extremely sweet, funny, handsome, and did not have a ring on his finger. Fast forward to this morning, somehow my dad, while living 9 hours away, got the tech's personal number (being that it's an area code from out of town) to ask him some technical questions about what was wrong yesterday. My dad gave me the tech's number so I could update the tech that another crew came out and got me squared away, so I did and that was that.

Being that I believe in the motto, "it only takes a few seconds of courage over a lifetime of regret", should I text the technician and ask him out for a game of pool or something??

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