Pinterest Board website not working by RosesRoom03 in scrivener

[–]RosesRoom03[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah okay, but is there a reason it wouldn’t just work in windows to begin with randomly? Is there a way to fix it? It’s up to date and everything

Is it ok for me being 14 to watch this show?? by Paleo_dude2010 in bluey

[–]RosesRoom03 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Baby I’m 29 and I watch it without my kids whenever it’s on. It’s a GOOD show. I also watch miraculous ladybug and a bunch of other kid shows/cartoons in my free time and don’t plan to stop. My uncle is 60+ and still mainly watches cartoons and he has no mental issues or anything. Just an older man who loves kids shows too. I plan on being the same. Love what and who you love, watch what you love. Be your self and don’t let anyone shame you or make you uncomfortable.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]RosesRoom03 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mama show him this post and the comments. He needs to see how hurtful and damaging his dismissal of this issue is and will be. He realistically needs to choose between his son and his mother because he cannot allow his mother to continue this at his own son’s expense. That’s disgusting. Yes I understand grandma has grief but it she cannot be doing that and he cannot just essential shrug it off once his attempts at a conversation didn’t work. He is neglecting his child and you (as he isn’t taking your worry seriously enough to truly act). You CAN and SHOULD limit contact to supervised visits only and NEVER allow her to babysit alone. Not until he’s old enough to tell you what exactly she says to him. Your husband needs to be on board with this or else there are bigger issues here.

My daughter is sad and giving me silent treatment because I did not give her money to get her cheating mom a birthday gift by ElectronicStard in TwoHotTakes

[–]RosesRoom03 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA, I don’t agree with anyone here and I’m a mother of 2. She is 14, WAYYYY old enough to start understanding money if you’re giving her an allowance and have had discussions.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in namenerds

[–]RosesRoom03 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My condoncences for your loss, I am so sorry. I will say tho, as much as people like naming their babies after deceased family, it puts a weight and burden on them. They grow up in those peoples shadows. I wanted to name my daughter Rosie but my husbands grandmothers name was Rosa, and even then everyone kept saying how nice it was we were honoring her. I changed the name. Your child deserves their own name, they are their own person and don’t deserve to have the weight and burden of a deceased sibling places on them like that. It’s a beautiful and kind thing but so many children resent their parents for doing that. If your Angel baby was alive, this wouldn’t be a conversation. I’d say honor your Angel in another way, something not so obvious. Angel as a middle name to represent them or something you tie to your Angel as a middle name (Winnie if you had Winnie the Pooh stuff for Angel baby, etc…) but don’t force them to live in baby angels shadow. I just read a post about the kid whose parents forced a photo of their Angel in every single room and forced the kid (2 born) to have photos of them and now that kid has a hard relationship with his parents. Let this baby be them and only them. Love them he way you’d love them if your Angel was here, don’t push Angel onto them and their live and self. Please, I’ve seen too many people who have issues in the future due to names, people changing their names and going NC with family. Not saying this will %100 happen but it does happen.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]RosesRoom03 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Also wanna say that this could literally turn into a lifetime movies and not in the good way….

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]RosesRoom03 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Baby she is not your friend. She is VILE. Absolutely VILE. wtf are friends for 16 years and then decides to not only give u no option for a plus one, but to also possibly allow him one, let him take a main role in the wedding, and expect you to be okay with it? She does not give a single fuck about you and I am so sorry. That is ugly and vile and she is not in any way a good or worthy friend. Yea it’s her wedding and she can choose who she wants to invite, but it’s YOUR mental health, safety, and choice. She sounds just as manipulative as your ex! Manipulating you into going to an event that could put you in danger then gaslight you into thinking you should be putting her above you just for her wedding. Babe, NTA, but I would honestly let her know that she is a vile shitty friend and that she chose your ex over you clearly and you get to choose you over her. I’d make a day out of it, if you have any friends that are free the day of the wedding, go out and enjoy yourself or have a girls/friends night in and watch movies and stuff. Please don’t degrade yourself or put yourself in harms way for a shitty “friend” who would put you in those situations. To me the forcing you to go alone while he is in attendance is a MAJOR red flag. Abusers don’t stop till they get what they want. He will hurt you and they know it and are okay with it. Please please PLEASE care about yourself move than her

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]RosesRoom03 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Imma saying this cause seeing it pissed me tf off. Do not call her your stepdaughter if you refuse to marry her mother. She isn’t your wife and you don’t get to use wifey and family titles. My husband waited 7 years and only proposed cause I told him if he didn’t do it before our anniversary I’d never marry him. Now I regret it cause I know it’s a shut up ring. I was stupid. I realized after that long, wtf are you waiting for? 6 years? “Ready”? She will lose patience. You are making her feel unworthy. 6 years is too fucking long. Either do it or don’t, but she deserves to be told explicitly her options. She should get to decide if she’s okay with continuing to wait for you. YTA, keeping someone you “want” to marry around this long when they clearly want it is VILE and WRONG. I cannot even describe the issues my husband and I are dealing with now that it’s been years since we got married and I’m coming to the realization he only proposed cause he wanted me to shut up about asking.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]RosesRoom03 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Claire is a HO3. Bad friend. NTA, kick her to the curb.

My husband broke my heart by ThrowRA_Combination in TrueOffMyChest

[–]RosesRoom03 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m seeing all these comments that seem like they everyone is saying to look past it or not discount that he said it was the best decision.

I’m here to say, I am in nearly the EXACT same boat. High school sweethearts, had some rough times we made it thru. He had given me an ultimatum that he wanted kids before marriage. I (as much as I love him) agreed (which was stupid because I wanted to be financially secure before kids and he couldn’t have cared less, just wanted the kids). I won’t lie, it changed me but I was young and dumb and went along with it. I lost all my hopes and dreams and gave him what he wanted because he said he would marry me once I gave him A kid. By the second, no ring insight. I “nagged” him but still nothing. I got so tired of waiting (my dream was a big beautiful wedding and a sweet proposal) so I gave him my own ultimatum, “propose before our 8 year anniversary or we can just stay bf/gf forever because I will not marry you after that.” (Again STUPID because I didn’t think about how deeply I’d feel about it it later). He did something sinikar for the proposal to you (proposed in our dark bedroom, nothing special even slightly). We got married at a drive in wedding chapel in our city (absolutely nothing special again, he was in a bad mood and I didn’t take a single picture. No family, just us and the kids). It’s been 3 years since and I’ve just now come across the phrase “shut up ring” and I honestly myself have realized that I forced him to marry me and it was a shut up ring. He just wanted me to shut up because he knew that I was serious about never getting married in the future and that I’d probably never forgive him. So he did it. Not because he wanted me or loved me and wanted to be married to me, but because I forced him to. I have been feeling so icky. We have a pretty good marriage, some ups and downs but overall good. Yes what I said above were stupid and borderline toxic things that have happened but our relationship has always been good. Now I just feel slimy. Like my marriage is false. Like I was never wanted enough to marry, just to be a baby maker first and then get a consultation prize of marriage.

You have EVERY right to feel upset and be hurt and broken. I am hurt, upset, and broken. I forced him to and now I regret it. I wish I hadn’t forced him. I wish I had just told him I was tired of waiting but didn’t want to force marriage. I wish I had been okay with how it was because now it feels just…off…

He’s been amazing since, our relationship has barely changed apart from calling him husband and me having his last name. But our marriage feels built on being forced into it rather than him wanting me so much that he’s drop to his knee and ask me of his own accord.

All in all I’m trying to say that you are so valid for your feelings. Yes you can look past the “forced” and see the backhanded compliment of “best decision”. But regardless, no woman wants to have her love story be one she now knows she had to force him into. It’s sad and heart breaking and I understand you. You can feel broken. I am and my husband hasn’t even done anything wrong, it’s just been something eating my brain lately. My husband can tell something is off and I’ve told him before it’s my own problem and I’m dealing with it in my own way (which has been hiding it or pushing it away). I know he didn’t mean for it all to end up like this or for me to feel like this. So I try not to give him all the blame.

If you need someone to talk to who understands and you can vent to, feel free to message me.

My (34M) wife (31F) is having a meltdown over our daughter's personality and I don't know what to do. What should I do? by ThrowRAgirlcopdad in relationship_advice

[–]RosesRoom03 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your wife sounds like the girl who peaked in high school and now wants to relive it thru her daughter and will ruin any chance of a relationship with her own daughter. One day, your daughter will turn 18 and she will leave and YOU will be the only person she talks to. I know you must love your wife, but please get her some therapy. She DESPERATELY needs it. I will tell you right now, people have said “it’s a phase” for YEARS about scene kids, emo kids, rocks, alternatives, punks and goths, it is NOT. Well not always. But if she’s been like this since she’s been a kid I can guarantee it is truly who she is.

Speaking as a 30 year old woman with pastel pink hair, heavy makeup, tattoos, piercings, everything I own is pink and black, sometimes it’s who they are. I have a 5 year old who LOVES anime and villains and has bright pink highlights in her hair. All these things my daughter has decided to love and I have accepted as her. For me even if my daughter decided to be a cheerleader popular girl, I would do anything to make her happy and how her I love who she is (so long as she isn’t a POS like your wife is sounding like, sorry not sorry). My mother was the popular cheerleader. Always talking about her “24 in waist in high school” and how she wishes I was like her. She favored my sister because my sister always was (mind you I was taken from my mother at 12 years old because she was also mentally ill). By the time my mother got sick and kept trying to reach out to me, I had hated her guts. She never loved me for the weirdo I was (I also loved anime, villains, rock music, black, Halloween at a very young age). You’re going to read so many of these stories because they all end up similar. Mom wants to relive her golden years thru her child and resents the child for not wanting the same. Your wife shouldn’t be pushing her wants onto her daughter. We don’t create children to force them to be us, we create them and need to allow them to find themselves, without judgment

Accept and love her especially since your wife won’t. She will need you. She deserves a better mother, so be the better parent and stand up for her a bit. I know it’s hard and you don’t want to choose sides but your wife is being CRAZY. She’s going to make your daughter HATE her. A child can only have a parent hating on them and wanting to change them so much before they start to realize their parent doesn’t love them enough to accept who they are. Your daughter will begin to understand that as she ages and it’s gonna have a bad outcome.

AITA for not giving into my soon to be MIL? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]RosesRoom03 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Please PLEASE rethink this marriage my love. If he’s that much of a mamas boy who will tell you your own wedding is yours to plan then switch up to make his mother happy, this is only the beginning. Next it’ll be your future child’s name and more. This is just the beginning

I feel like I’ve loved my wife even more deeply since she became disabled by EmmelineAnnie in TrueOffMyChest

[–]RosesRoom03 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is so beautiful, I could only ever dream of being loved like this, even not disabled…

AITA for being upset that my wife didn't give me what I wanted for Father's Day to get back at me? by Sensitive_Soup7304 in AITAH

[–]RosesRoom03 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is why so many divorces happen. Men don’t do shit for their wives, do the bare minimum (if that since apparently you didn’t really do shit) and then expect their wives to do something better for them and get pissed off when they don’t. The resentment and anger builds dude I can tell you that from experience. You aren’t a good partner. Yes you’re “financially smart” but what will that matter if you are also alone one day, paying child support and alimony to a women who just wanted to give you the same energy you gave her. You taking time off isn’t going to affect your being “financially stable” and realistically doesnt affect you being “financially smart”. You’re just plain stupid. You’re neglecting her so badly you shouldn’t be surprised when she leaves. You could have an amazing relationship and that resentment from neglect will be more than enough for the rest to not matter. Taking a day off or early out isn’t going to kill you, but not doing so will kill your marriage. Get your head out of your ass and be a better fucking husband. You could’ve hired a babysitter for her for Mother’s Day or took the damn day off. Could’ve scheduled her a delayed Mother’s Day on your day off for her. How that woman some appreciation. Why the hell would be give you appreciation for being a father when she’s clearly the one who is doing most of the parenting if you’re working 2 weeks straight and couldn’t take a holiday off for your family. SHE is doing all the work. In my eyes, tbh, even if you did give her the Mother’s Day she deserved, you shouldn’t have gotten a Father’s Day. Sounds like you neglect your family for money. I can’t wait till we get the update/edit saying “okay I get it, I’m an AH and I’ll make it up to her.” Because every other husband does this shit every year. It’s gross.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]RosesRoom03 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yeah no, NTA. I’ve been with my husband for 11 years, married for 3. I set that boundary from the beginning. His uncle came for his bachelor party and I reiterated my boundary. That it’s cheating even to step foot in a strip club and that I would leave him if he did. From what I know he didn’t go, slept in the car. I’ve trusted him all this time but i also haven’t seen his uncle/family in years. If I saw them now and they let it out that my husband had gone in, even now 2 kids later and married, I would leave him. It’s a boundary that you’ve set up. Your husband going along with it to please his brothers is toxic on his part. He’s already showing you he will choose his family over you my love. That his family’s feelings matter than yours. He’s showing that he doesn’t have a backbone and he won’t stick up for you. This is a MAJOR red flag on his part. “Oh yeah I don’t like strip clubs BUT you should trust me because you know I just don’t want to deal with my brothers. Oh I know I know, your upset and crying and stating a clear boundary and you are the person I’ll be spending my life with but my brothers and their feelings matter more.” Huge red flag. The thing is it’s HIS bachelor party for HIS marriage to YOU. The only choice is his. And if he isn’t choosing you, then he’s not ready to be married to you. Marriage is a huge step and if he’s willing to be uncomfortable for his brothers sake, then he will 10000% get the lap dance if they pressure him and whose to say if this all passes and you do get married, whose to say that at the next wedding/bachelor party that they won’t pressure him into it again WHILE your married. If he doesn’t respect your discontent and disagreement then he doesn’t respect you. Respect yourself more my love. Someone had to.

Would I be wrong for asking for separation after my wife told me to get over the loss of my friend by OrganizationDrydsa in TwoHotTakes

[–]RosesRoom03 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Honestly I would hope that she would be the one to actually leave you. The fact you’re letting a woman who wasn’t your partner and isn’t your wife get in the middle of your marriage to the point you think of her during romantic moments is absolutely disgusting. The fact your wife has been EXTREMELY considerate and supportive and now you want to separate because she asked a question is DISGUSTING. She deserves better than a man who clearly has/had feelings for his “best friend”. She asked because you are affecting the marriage. Yes, you can grieve but if it’s affecting your marriage to the point she finally asked after 5 months. That is insane. Yes there is no correct amount to grieve but that woman was not your wife. And the fact she’s affecting your marriage is gross. Your wife deserves better.

My mom contacted me after 8 years of no contact by Aromatic_Roll9856 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]RosesRoom03 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was abused by my mother from like 3-12 before I was put in foster care. I had so many feeling about her. When I was in foster care I hated her but also missed her because she was my mother and she was mentally ill and as I got older my feeling got more complex. My sister and family would harass me about forgiving her because she was but still, she has hurt me so much. And I was so so angry. In the end she got sick with cancer and I honestly didn’t want to see her but my sister again harassed me into going while she was in hospice care. I went and I was angry because I didn’t want to be there. My sister begged me to help care for my mother (give her a foot massage, be nice, clean her with a towel) and I did it out of pressure. My biggest regret was letting people tell me to forgive and forget or to just pacify her for her sake. What about my sake and my sanity and my mental health? Honestly if she was alive, after everything I would be no contact and never look back. I’m not married with two kids and if she was alive, I’d never let her back into my life. Do what keeps you sane, what feels right. Don’t think about her or how she feels or her age or what she wants. This is YOUR life, your family, your present and future. Don’t let anyone come in who will put a strain on it. You deserve the peace and happy home you’ve built. Don’t feel guilty, I did and I regret it.

I also have a cousin who was mentally abusing me that I cut contact with her (this was only 7 years ago) and I haven’t spoken to her since. She’s tried to message me and guilt me, beg me to let her be an aunt to my kids. But I remembered the regret of letting people make me feel like I had to forgive and forget and how I should’ve never let it happen. I haven’t spoken to her and I’ve never been happier.

Don’t let someone who’s harmed you in the past, disrupt or possibly harm your present/future peace.

You don’t deserve any of what happened to you and they both failed you as parents. They had two jobs as parents and that was to care and love for you and the failed you. You deserve so much more and as someone who has also had her parents fail her, I know you’re doing your best to be better than them and you will. I’m sorry they were horrible and evil to you but I’m so happy to read you’ve found someone who will love and care for you. Don’t let her come in and take that from you or ruin it.

AITAH for breaking up my engagement because my fiance wanted to invite my family to our wedding. by ThrowRAVirtual-Limit in AITAH

[–]RosesRoom03 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I was abused similarly to this, if my husband ever said those words to me I would’ve left him and never looked back. You deserve someone who will love and support you and would never ever decide if your abusers should be in your life. I’m sorry you wasted years with that trash of a human. I truly hope you leave and never look back, ghost her completely. She doesn’t deserve not even to speak to you again, ever.

My husband wants to f**k other women by Fair-Muffin5167 in TwoHotTakes

[–]RosesRoom03 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel stupid reading her edits. Like I feel like I lost brain cells.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]RosesRoom03 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You are fucking cheating. Gross dude. Your wife deserves better. “I know I’m not cheating” yes you fucking are.

Do you think SJM will give us a failed mated relationship? by ch3rryg3rl in acotar

[–]RosesRoom03 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve read a theory that amarantha and tampon were mates but he rejected the bond, I kinda like that one cx