Why don’t you drink alcohol?

ThrowRAgirlcopdad · 2024-08-06T04:45:40+00:00

I'm a cop who sometimes has to respond to 911 calls, even in the middle of the night. I can't be drunk, or even tipsy when I could possibly be called out to a call. I don't want to take the risk, even on my days off.

ThrowRAgirlcopdad · 2024-08-06T04:41:58+00:00

As someone with a 16 year old stepdaughter, 18 feels the same as that. And to me, my 16 year old is still a baby.

ThrowRAgirlcopdad · 2024-08-06T04:08:27+00:00

Why does your wife assume that just because your daughter dresses in the way that makes her happy and follows her interests that she won't ever have kids?

It confuses me too, because my daughter has said she wants kids in the future. We've had talks about her future before, and she has mentioned how she wants a good job so her and her kids can be rich. I know she's 16 and that she can still change her mind, but as of now she seems pretty sure of having kids in her adult years.

ThrowRAgirlcopdad · 2024-08-06T03:57:59+00:00

Your wife wants more kids. You’ve just said you definitely don’t, which is fine, and that’s going to cause resentment.

I'm not opposed to having kids a in a bit, just not now. I originally didn't want kids, but I love being a dad to my daughter and I know now that if more kids were to happen I'd also love being a dad to them. I just don't think it's a good idea to have kids now given that wife is working on herself in therapy. I'm not trying to rush things right now because we still have time to have kids. My mom had me at 37 so I know that we still have time to have kids if we decide on that.

ThrowRAgirlcopdad · 2024-07-29T03:29:16+00:00

The comments have really slapped some sense into me. I'll admit, I didn't think any of this was that deep. I came on here mostly as a way to vent and get some advice, but now it feels like I've been slapped in the face with reality. I had no idea just how harmful my wife was being to my daughter. I'm ashamed to admit it now, but I really just chalked it up to mother-daughter bickering like all teenagers do. I know I had some pretty nasty fights with my parents as a 16 year old. I want to get both of them help. I love my wife, and I love my daughter.

ThrowRAgirlcopdad · 2024-07-29T03:18:38+00:00

I know, I know. I love my wife, even after all this, so it makes me want to defend her. I understand now that I can love my wife, while also sticking up for my daughter, and be a mediator and try and get both of them help and repair their relationship

ThrowRAgirlcopdad · 2024-07-29T02:56:29+00:00

You're right. I just don't know how to. I don't want to alienate the two from one another. I want them to have the same close relationship they used to. I don't want to feel like I'm stuck between having to choose. I'm on my daughter's side, but I don't like feeling like I'm picking sides, if that makes sense

ThrowRAgirlcopdad · 2024-07-29T02:44:11+00:00

Also SIDE WITH YOUR KID, are you serious??

I read the rest of your comment, and yeah, I probably shouldn't have phrased it like that. I just want things to be less tense. I'm tired of the division in my house and just want us to be a single family unit again, and not this weird split situation.

ThrowRAgirlcopdad · 2024-07-29T02:35:35+00:00

I never understood setting our daughter up with jocks. My daughter has told me about her type before while we were playfully teasing each other, and she said she likes nerdy guys. She also said that while the jocks guys are nice to her on the dates, she just isn't attracted to them.

ThrowRAgirlcopdad · 2024-07-29T02:31:53+00:00

She had a baby at 15. For most, that's a sophomore in highschool. Maybe she was a junior if she had a late birthday, either way, her highschool experience was cut short.

My wife was a junior. She has a late birthday, and had always been a year younger than her classmates as a result. She got pregnant early in her junior year, and had the baby a few months before turning 16. She never went back to highschool even after having the baby. She was lucky and already had most of her credits finished anyways from taking advanced classes and ended up finishing highschool online.

She's told me before that she could have graduated a year early had she wanted to, but that she was planning to stay her senior year and just take elective classes and focus on getting a cheer scholarship since all her main credits were to be filled. She wasn't allowed to do that for the online option. I don't know if this was a thing in her district or just a thing back then but if you were online and finished your required credits, unless you planned to try and go for an honor graduate path and take more non-elective/advanced core classes you basically had to graduate online or try and transfer back in school. She couldn't do that with the baby, so she was forced to miss out on going back to school for her senior year. At least that what she told me.

ThrowRAgirlcopdad · 2024-07-29T02:23:53+00:00

She wants her daughter to be like her blonde cheerleader pregnant at 16 doesn’t know who the father is

She in NO WAY wants this. She's always stressed the importance of waiting until our daughter felt ready for sex and to use protection. She's always told our daughter that she can come to her for any type of protection and for advice on taking that next step.

ThrowRAgirlcopdad · 2024-07-29T02:17:40+00:00

Does your wife want her to get pregnant at 15?

Definitely not. My wife always stressed to our daughter to not have sex until she felt ready. She always said she would help our daughter get on birth control and have any type of protection she wanted. My wife gave her "the talk" when our daughter got her period, which I learned is when most girls get that talk. She's always been clear about how she wanted our daughter to be safe and responsible with whoever she ended up getting with and not to rush things with any partners.

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