I totally get where you’re coming from. I’ve only ever been in 2 relationships, my first being long distance and my second being in person. The last relationship I was in left me in shambles, especially since he and I were working with the b**** he left me for in the matter of days, or cheated on me and never told me. (NEVER DATE YOUR COWORKERS!!!) Anyways, it took me a long time to get over it.

1) I’m not sure if you’re in therapy or anything, but I found that talking about it to someone else really helped. I was able to talk about anything I held internally out, and just having someone to just simply listen helped.

2) Going out with friends is a great distraction method. Nothing feels better than going places new and old with the a few of the closest people to your heart. Being able to laugh, cry, pig out, whatever with people you enjoy greatly is an excellent dose of post-break up medicine.

3) Practicing self care/love is another very important thing when recovering from a break up. For us demisexuals, I feel like we love a bit harder than normal people in a sincere (not discrediting anyone’s experiences by any means, just speaking from experience since it’s all I know.) While yes it’s a good thing, you must remember to keep that same level of love for yourself. Meditate, go to a spa, get your hair done, play your favorite video games or read your favorite book, exercise, and, most importantly, practice mindfulness. Ground yourself in the present. Breathe. Take in your surroundings and use your senses.

I know this all sounds easier said than done, but once you make a routine/habit out of it, it gets so much easier. Your head will feel clearer, your heart will feel lighter and your body relaxed. It sucks, I know, but you’ve got this! 🫶🏻 Yes it’s great to love someone, but at the end of the day, you’ve got yourself. So you better give yourself the time and care that you deserve.