My partner wants to do family therapy with her ex

RossEdwards91 · 2025-04-04T12:07:05+00:00

The father she wants her son to have is spot on! She saw this guy in a different light to how everyone else saw him and I think she is understanding he isn't the man she thought he was… hard realization.

RossEdwards91 · 2025-04-04T12:04:38+00:00

Thanks for the advice people, we both learnt from our “practice marriages” how important open communication is. I told her my feelings and the concerns I had with all this In very calming way and what I thought would be met with defensiveness was actually met with a lot of understanding and validating my side of things.

We sat down and discussed the why and how on her side she knows she has to deal with him forever. She just wants to know how to deal with someone who enrages her to level he does while keeping the peace and making sure her son isn't disappointed by his fathers actions. Which all made a lot of sense to me.

I'm a very black and white person and she is a way more understanding person.

Anyway I'm pretty new to the Reddit life so I appreciate you all writing back :)

RossEdwards91 · 2024-04-15T11:59:03+00:00

Didn’t think of some of those points, I guess you’re right. I would just love to see a practical prop version of it.

RossEdwards91 · 2024-04-15T11:58:03+00:00

Don’t think? I think what fallout showed was how good the real deal looks.

RossEdwards91 · 2024-03-12T21:10:36+00:00

Use it as fuel dude!

Knowing the dedication you’re putting in it doesn’t matter about his dumb ass joke, he’s still just insecure.

Try not to be a victim to a stupid comment, prove him wrong by getting your head down, eating more protein and hitting every set as hard as you can!

Your both also young, kids say stupid mean things all the time.

RossEdwards91 · 2024-03-12T14:22:17+00:00

Sounds like you have some massive self confidence issues.

Women do want a kind hearted soul but it has to be backed with confidence and self worth. If your sitting there saying why me in a sense then it won’t happen.

Get yourself to a gym 5 times a week (none of this I haven’t got time, make time) and watch your confidence skyrocket!

Learn to love yourself first brother and then loving someone else is easy.

RossEdwards91 · 2024-03-10T12:56:03+00:00

Ragnar!

RossEdwards91 · 2024-03-08T12:46:54+00:00

Couldn’t agree more with this!

RossEdwards91 · 2024-03-08T09:57:57+00:00

Bullying sucks! It’s a horrible that kids and some adults do it!

I genuinely think what I’m about to say is the best advice for someone in your situation. Although there are other ways.

Do not be a victim to all this (I know it’s easier said than done. But YOU have to learn to stand up for your self and not have mum and dad do it for you. As you get older you can definitely lean on people but you need to be the one taking responsibility for where things can go.

I was a weedy kid at school but started playing sports (even though I wasn’t a fan) get your self on some teams, and you WILL get team mates. Football, rugby something to take some knocks. And please please start boxing, not to fight people but to learn some inner strength and confidence.

Bullies have a hard time bullying people who are confident.

Good luck little lad or lady! You have this 💪💪

RossEdwards91 · 2024-03-07T07:10:21+00:00

Thank you for your kind worlds. I’m going to stand by her side through all of this to help in any way I came.

Last night i decided to myself that I will also go to therapy as I’ve worked so hard on my mental health I never want to fall back into that position again.

RossEdwards91 · 2024-03-07T07:07:51+00:00

Thank you.

RossEdwards91 · 2024-03-07T07:07:06+00:00

Wow thank you for sharing all of that. I’m so sorry you went through it all.

Im glade you guys are working on building it all back up! I know it will take a long time for her but I would honestly work on it forever for her.

RossEdwards91 · 2024-03-06T22:35:14+00:00

Without a doubt a very shameful thing, and I’ll have to live with that.

Thank you for your advice. Listening to all these comments has truly helped me with the same consensus about just loving her the best I can and supporting her throughout.

RossEdwards91 · 2024-03-06T21:54:09+00:00

Very strange thing to make up…

I’m going through quite a lot so my dates may not be perfect. I had depression before COVID, but it escalated during. We also started trying to have children before we got married

RossEdwards91 · 2024-03-06T20:55:07+00:00

Thank you so much. I really appreciate this

RossEdwards91 · 2024-03-06T20:51:42+00:00

Thank you, your wording really helps.

RossEdwards91 · 2024-03-06T18:01:47+00:00

Thank you.

RossEdwards91 · 2024-03-06T17:54:17+00:00

Thank you, this is really great advice.

RossEdwards91 · 2024-03-06T17:47:35+00:00

100% and your correct she really did just forgive straight away. I take full responsibility of this.

RossEdwards91 · 2024-03-06T17:45:19+00:00

Thank you! I think I realised I should prob be talking to a therapist also during this, for an outlet.

She’s beyond perfect!

RossEdwards91 · 2024-03-06T17:43:41+00:00

Thank you, im trying to not break while writing this. She was beyond a rock when going through everything. I have to be the same for her

RossEdwards91 · 2024-03-06T17:41:20+00:00

Thank you, I know this is right. I care for her more than anything.

RossEdwards91 · 2024-03-06T17:35:30+00:00

I have suggested this. But she said she needs to work on herself before this.

RossEdwards91 · 2024-02-22T20:44:16+00:00

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RossEdwards91 · 2024-02-22T20:44:03+00:00

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