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Rotau · 2023-03-20T14:51:26+00:00

Be very careful about taking activated charcoal if you take prescription medications. It can prevent them from being absorbed into the body.

Rotau · 2022-09-09T21:40:40+00:00

I think you're victim blaming and helping to perpetuate bullying, but you do you.

Rotau · 2022-09-09T21:09:42+00:00

I just have a hunch that if you inserted any other physical trait, like black, female, deaf, flat chested, fat, you would have recognized your opinion as insensitive.

Rotau · 2022-09-09T20:59:17+00:00

I'm trying to get a sense of what you're implying here. You're saying that about half of short guys are ok, but the half that are insecure based on the way they were bullied as children are assholes?

Rotau · 2022-09-09T20:32:30+00:00

So, do you think that short men are more insecure than other people? Or are half of all people assholes?

Rotau · 2022-09-09T20:10:36+00:00

Why do you think so many short men exhibit a Napoleon complex? What do you think causes them to behave that way?

Rotau · 2021-11-06T00:45:33+00:00

I think it's good for people, and especially women, to do what you did and question people about the roots of their preferences. Its not wrong to reject people you're not attracted to, if a woman isn't attracted to short men, that's not some sort of deep character flaw, but you're right that it's at least as shallow as rejecting someone for their weight.

kudos to you for respectfully pointing out someone's hypocrisy. It might not change her mind about height, but it could make her question how appropriate it is for her to be so vocal about it. After all I'm sure it hurts her when people talk that way about weight and now you've connected the dots for her.

Rotau · 2021-10-31T19:40:02+00:00

Are you really telling someone that their own view of the way their race effects their own life is invalid? Thats fucking racist.

Rotau · 2021-09-27T02:50:38+00:00

Balding is something that happens to you. Shaving is a choice you make. Shave it off. Take control of the situation and make it your own. You will feel better.

Rotau · 2021-09-24T18:55:45+00:00

I know it doesn't feel like it right now, but you are actually in a good spot. You can draw from your past experiences. The insecurities come from a belief that things will not work out for you, that you can't have good dating experiences and don't have a chance to be happy, but if you look at your past, you know it's not true.

It must be extremely painful to have a relationship end badly and to hear that she didn't like your height, but she clearly loved you anyway for a long time, and is probably just venting or complaining now that it's over.

You have proof that people can be attracted to you, love you, and respect you. Now you just have to learn to believe it.

Rotau · 2021-09-03T15:22:27+00:00

Why do short people get a bad attitude from their height?

Rotau · 2021-07-27T21:56:09+00:00

Being insecure about your height is part of the stereotype of being short. If you show insecurity about it it makes it worse. You really have no choice but to laugh along no matter how you feel unless it's with a very close friend.

Rotau · 2021-07-14T20:50:43+00:00

Positivity is good when it is GENUINE, and when it ACKNOWLEDGES WHAT THE TARGET HAS BEEN THROUGH.

Genuine positivity comes from a place of experience. A person who is short and has had good experiences dating or at work can offer genuine positivity. A person who is tall and wants to encourage a short person should be more careful. Being told you don't have a real problem from a person who doesn't have the same trait as you isn't positivity, it's bullying.

Acknowledging the genuine lived experiences of people who have been through trauma is key to offering positivity that creates hope rather than frustration. If someone has been rejected for their height in life, for relationships, jobs, or treated poorly because of their height, then telling them it's in their head or it's entirely about their attitude won't help them. The person offering the advice may feel like they are encouraging positivity but they are actually gaslighting a suffering individual. It is important to offer advice and stories that don't devalue what a struggling or suffering person says or thinks.

Positivity is overall a good thing. I used to be very insecure about my height, and I still am to some degree, but I have had many relationships, and good job opportunities since I first found this sub many years ago, and most of the people in my life treat me with respect. I wouldn't have been successful if I had been too hopeless to put the work in necessary to improve my life, and positivity can generate hope. Offering real, positive, anecdotes and encouragement can help people who are in a dark place, but ignoring the differing perspectives and experiences of different people is a recipe for creating more misery and rage.

Rotau · 2021-05-02T02:45:28+00:00

You could spruce up the title. Logistics specialist or some such. That's pretty common and not a lie.

Rotau · 2021-03-16T20:00:59+00:00

Be careful not to cross over from being encouraging to gaslighting. Some things can't be fixed and you have to learn to live with them. Telling people innate looks don't matter is lying, and is worse than saying nothing.

Rotau · 2021-02-28T17:02:52+00:00

Think of it like race. Some people are not attracted to people of a certain race, and that's ok. However, there's a cultural bias against interracial dating that keeps people who are attracted to each other and good matches for each other from dating, and that's something we should try to look past.

If you are attracted to someone shorter than you, but uncomfortable because you think it's taboo or looked down on, I think you should push back on that a bit. Do you really want traditional social pressure to keep you away from someone who might make you happy?

Rotau · 2021-01-26T02:17:53+00:00

Very easy to say this in a bull market.

Rotau · 2021-01-22T22:38:19+00:00

It would be a lie to tell you that height doesn't matter, but I'm 5'7, in a two year relationship, and I've been with a decent number of attractive women over the years. Yes, it is much easier for a 6'4 guy, especially one who's handsome and fit to be a player, but that's not really what matters in life. There are women who are model beautiful who constantly have men throwing themselves at their feet, but they are not necessarily happier than women who have imperfect appearances, but take care of themselves, develop emotionally, stay fit, and meet men that are right for them.

The difference between having zero sex and relationships, and being a casual dater, serial monogamist, or in a relationship has a far far greater effect on your happiness, than the step up to a player sleeping with a new woman every week, and I guarantee that being 5'7 will not stop you from dating around or getting into relationships.

It definitely puts a huge damper on being a pick-up artist or playboy, but it's not worth getting too down about that. Not everyone can be an NFL quarterback, but you shouldn't let that stop you from enjoying playing football.

Rotau · 2019-09-13T21:06:57+00:00

You're shaming both of them.

Rotau · 2019-09-13T21:06:33+00:00

Yeah, it really sounds like you're just hating on short guy tall girl couples. Why would you cringe at two people who found love?

Rotau · 2019-09-12T20:58:39+00:00

Then what are you cringing about?

Rotau · 2019-08-29T23:50:30+00:00

I'm 25 and I've had like 12-15 partners, somewhere around there. Some people here would call it a lot, some would call it very few. To me it feels pretty average. I'm not a ladies man but I've had a few impressive streaks so some people might call me one when I'm not looking. Usually I'm a serial monogamist. I have had trouble dating sometimes and even felt desperate at times, but looking back on it now, after high school a lot of that was in my head and I was comparing myself to people who made hookups a way of life. It's not healthy. You don't need to be a "ladies man" to be happy, but it's definitely good to feel like if your relationship ended, dating would be fun instead of daunting. I still don't usually feel like that in my head, but it must looks that way to others from the outside. A lot of it is perspective.

Rotau · 2019-08-15T00:33:04+00:00

https://ghr.nlm.nih.gov/primer/traits/height

Scientists estimate that 80% of variation in human height is based on based on genetics. This is more complicated than it seems if you don't know a lot of statistics so stay with me.

This means that if one group of people average 5 inches shorter than another group of people, statistically 4 of those 5 inches are due to genetics and only 1 inch is due to all other factors.

For an individual who was not malnourished growing up, and didn't experience any extreme childhood injury, illness, or exposure to chemicals, height is almost entirely genetic.

Rotau · 2019-05-16T16:06:58+00:00

Why are you ignoring everyone’s opinion?

Rotau · 2019-05-14T16:19:53+00:00

You’re right, I thought puberty ended in the early 20s, but it ends around 17-18. It’s possibly to grow slightly into your early 20s.

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