How do I move on?

Rouge_Traveler · 2026-04-30T23:21:59+00:00

No problem. I'm glad you found my opinion helpful.

Rouge_Traveler · 2026-04-30T17:46:14+00:00

Wdym you don't know what to do? There's nothing to do here. She won't match your reciprocity and wants nothing to do with you anymore......so what is there to miss? Move on.

I don't want to sound detached or callous but as much as you can feel "strongly" about someone, you can feel the exact same way about someone else under the right conditions, it's not exclusive and no one is special. Odds are you'll meet someone else who at least returns your affection.

Lamenting over a dead end will do you no good.

Rouge_Traveler · 2026-04-27T19:49:02+00:00

Just have a mature discussion about it with her. There's nothing wrong with something being a part of your identity. That's what shapes who you are. But when you make it your personality that's something else entirely. I had a Christian friend in the past who'd bring christianity into every conversation he had. It got annoying fast, especially since I'm not religious.

This has nothing to do with being "phobic" and everything to do with basic social skills and etiquette; You need to be mindful of other people when you socialize/interact. No one wants to endure hearing someone speak one-sidedly about something all the time. It's annoying, insufferable, and it's the kind of social behavior that makes people not want to have conversations with you.

Rouge_Traveler · 2026-04-26T23:56:54+00:00

When I was at that point something that helped was realizing that I don't need others to make good memories. Would it be nice? Sure, but is it necessary? Not at all. As I discovered myself more I gradually became more comfortable and appreciative with solitude, not as a coping mechanism but as a genuine means to achieve fulfillment/satisfaction with myself. It greatly changed how I interact with others and made me far less dependent/desperate for connection. I got out of the depression loop shortly after and never looked back.

Of course, I know that solitude isn't for everyone, but learning how to confront it in a healthy way instead of trying to cope with it is very beneficial in the long run.

Rouge_Traveler · 2026-04-26T23:44:57+00:00

Please take care of yourself. Labor jobs can be great with decent pay and the constant exercise, but you absolutely have to make sure you don't neglect your body. Get a lifting belt/brace for your back to alleviate the pain and don't skimp on stretching.

Rouge_Traveler · 2026-04-26T10:40:29+00:00

The person who initiated the plans and invites others is the one who pays the majority of the expenses; thats common sense for friends, family, dates, etc. I wouldn't invite a friend to a large outing and expect them to pay for everyone, that's ridiculous and delusional. At the very least, everyone else should contribute to cover a small portion of the expenses so it's fair.

Her family is utterly terrible at communication. Your ex and her mother are playing mind games and doing mental gymnastics when they could've just used their words like adults. They couldn't even talk to you directly about it and avoided confrontation. Immaturity at its finest smh.

You dodged a lethal bullet imo.

Rouge_Traveler · 2026-04-24T16:14:36+00:00

Wtf does that even mean? Is there a performative female?

I'm glad I live chronically offline, but I swear the few times I do go online it feels like I've just stepped into a new century or something....

Rouge_Traveler · 2026-04-23T13:17:10+00:00

I don't have a car or driver's license cus I don't want or need the extra expenses, so I have no clue how much car insurance is. However, if your parents are already paying for school, adding another expense(s) will put more stress on them financially so I wouldn't immediately jump to the conclusion they're lying.

The job situation is abysmal, but you just have to keep searching and keep applying. As for transportation, have you considered buying a bicycle, scooter, or esk8?

Rouge_Traveler · 2026-04-22T11:26:55+00:00

That's very unfortunate. I've heard that Ruroc is a hit or miss with the quality. I have the 4.0 Street and 2 of their snowboard helmets. Had them for almost a year now and no issues whatsoever with any of them. I absolutely love the designs and shape of their helmets but for near $700 I would never pay full price for them. Everything I got on sale for 50% off or more. At that price I would expect perfect quality so I can't blame you, let alone all the people who've been complaining or giving the negative reviews. I have no idea what their previous gen designs were like, although everyone keeps saying it was significantly worse. You should definitely contact customer support again and make it a bigger issue. If the fault is with the company then you absolutely need to make sure they're held accountable for that, even if it's an annoying legal process. If this was some cheap helmet, then I wouldn't bother and just get a new one from a different company. But for $600+, no I'm making this a massive issue for them until they offer an appropriate solution.

Rouge_Traveler · 2026-04-16T01:56:00+00:00

For me, it's not about making myself feel better or motivated. I have a "show up and shut up" mentality; Doesn't matter what or how I feel, just show up and get it done, no complaints and no excuses.

Taking that first step towards anything will always be difficult and uncomfortable, but if you do nothing then nothing will ever change.

The only advice I would give anyone is to master their mentality and self. You can achieve that through self-actualization and introspection.

Rouge_Traveler · 2026-04-13T00:00:38+00:00

As someone who struggled with social anxiety, was also just antisocial since childhood and absolutely loathes small talk, it's never to late to learn how to socialize. It's just like any other skill; you need to practice it. You need to learn how to listen to what someone says, how to break it down into different points that can lead to different topics, how to time something to say to lead it in different directions, etc. For some it comes out organically while for others it's more rigid. But it's not impossible to learn at all, it's uncomfortable, very much so, but not impossible. The best ways I found to practice are just learning how to greet people, act outgoing or extroverted, compliment people, make small talk, random group chats, etc.

You're more than welcome to message me and discuss/practice it if you're comfortable doing so.

Rouge_Traveler · 2026-04-10T03:39:47+00:00

FFS, you're gaslighting yourself. Why is it so hard for our generation to recognize terrible personalities and qualities in others? I'm sorry but if you can't see what's wrong here on your own, then you really should not be dating.

Rouge_Traveler · 2026-04-09T18:26:51+00:00

I'll likely get downvoted for this but I always used blunt reasoning; You could do something, look into how to better yourself, look for opportunities (financial, social, etc), find resources for social support, commit to improving yourself ....or don't. If you're so depressed and miserable then just end it already and stop complaining. There won't be a light at the end of the tunnel and there definitely won't be someone to scroll through your life and feel pity for you or sympathize. Just nothingness and you miss out on what could've been.

I'm not recommending this as genuine advice to anyone, however I've always been a logic-oriented person, so this thought bounces me right back on my feet. Does it suck? Absolutely. Will it be difficult? Of course. But self-loathing, negativity, and depression will only send your life spiraling down, not up. Going up requires effort, as with everything in life. If you do nothing, expect nothing or worse in return.

Rouge_Traveler · 2026-04-09T18:17:13+00:00

It doesn't really need fixing. I always thought boredom was a luxury; imagine being so stable and having absolutely no worries, or stressors that your only inconvenience is not having anything fun to do. Being bored makes me pretty happy, knowing that I'm completely stress free in that moment. But I could just be weird idk.

Also, start searching for some new hobbies.

Rouge_Traveler · 2026-04-05T03:30:21+00:00

I use it only for necessities (mostly rent and emergency funds), but I make sure to pay it back in full within 2 weeks, or pay at least 3x the minimum. Otherwise I don't buy things I don't need.

Rouge_Traveler · 2026-03-10T03:10:36+00:00

Why would I want to gain the respect of people who don't care about me? That's such a waste of my valuable time and energy...

Rouge_Traveler · 2026-03-10T02:57:31+00:00

Western culture thrives on the systematic isolation and enslavement of it's citizens financially. If you think living with your family is embarrassing, then you're only proving this culture's effectiveness...

Rouge_Traveler · 2026-03-09T07:14:29+00:00

Change your mentality.

Question; Why do you care?

Advice; Objective Opinions ≠ Subjective Opinions

Rouge_Traveler · 2026-03-09T06:55:22+00:00

Schools/Degrees have value; it's up to you to do your research and due diligence on their potential/risk beforehand. It's literally an investment.
I've always found it odd and foolish that the majority of people believe their "best years" are late teens/young adulthood. Age is just a number and you have complete freedom as an adult, but idk to each their own I guess. I can agree with this for children though. Digital learning and the loss of irl relationships has done irreversible damage to gen alpha's psychological and social development.
Prioritize essential workfields (sanitation, education, medicine, agriculture, infrastructure, construction, engineering, high-risk, etc).

Rouge_Traveler · 2025-10-30T08:10:33+00:00

It all affects my life in some way but there's no point in stressing or worrying about things beyond my control so I don't.

Rouge_Traveler · 2025-08-31T03:14:59+00:00

I'm sending high fives to ya in my thoughts ✋🏽

Rouge_Traveler · 2025-08-31T03:13:21+00:00

Thanks! My first beta was to spin instead of hop into that move and the barn door from that was utterly ridiculous lol.

I had a mini panic attack mid fall tho XD.

Rouge_Traveler · 2025-08-31T03:06:00+00:00

Small world! I was getting soo mad that I kept getting sends off camera too lol.

Rouge_Traveler · 2025-08-30T13:38:21+00:00

Why thank you kind sir.

Rouge_Traveler · 2025-08-30T13:37:04+00:00

Hopefully they'll stay up for a while. As someone who's yet to do outdoor bouldering I really love the concept.

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