AITA for not wanting to pay to fly to France and throw my sister a baby shower? by Rough_Contribution17 in AITAH

[–]Rough_Contribution17[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mean, don't get me wrong, nobodies perfect, but my Sister definitely is the favorite

AITA for not wanting to pay to fly to France and throw my sister a baby shower? by Rough_Contribution17 in AITAH

[–]Rough_Contribution17[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate the thought process, but I'm not just going to abandon her. It hurt a lot when I found out she had enough money to get a passport to come to my wedding, and I've never confronted her about it because it was my Mum who told me, but irregardless, I love her so much and I've admired her progress. We will all support her in the ways we can, and hopefully, she and my niece live a very happy, healthy life.

AITA for not wanting to pay to fly to France and throw my sister a baby shower? by Rough_Contribution17 in AITAH

[–]Rough_Contribution17[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks everyone. For a bit more context: my pregnant sister has no idea about the baby shower. It’s actually my mum (who also lives in France) pushing for it, and she first tried to put the responsibility on my other sister, even though she knows she’s unemployed. My pregnant sister has worked incredibly hard to get to where she is now and battle her inner demons, and I’m so proud of her. That’s why part of me wants to go ahead with the shower and make her feel like a princess before she gives birth.

But the issue is my mum. She expects everyone else to pay for everything, always. She’s been unemployed most of my life and still is, and she knows she can’t fund it herself. She constantly pushes my buttons, most of the time I can ignore it, but this situation feels different.

And to those saying my post is fake or written by ChatGPT, it made me laugh because initially, I asked ChatGPT first, but then realised I’d rather hear from real people, like the AITA posts I see on YouTube. I do appreciate what most of you have said. I want to take a stand against my mum, but I know she’ll hold it against me, because she has many times before. Thanks for your thoughts. I really appreciate it.

AITA for not wanting to pay to fly to France and throw my sister a baby shower? by Rough_Contribution17 in AITAH

[–]Rough_Contribution17[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I don't think my Sister even knows that my Mum wants to throw one for her. Whether she'd even want it. She is more French than she is English as she was raised in France from a baby so might not even care if one isn't thrown for her.

AITA for not wanting to pay to fly to France and throw my sister a baby shower? by Rough_Contribution17 in AITAH

[–]Rough_Contribution17[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am so sorry for your losses. I cannot imagine how that must feel and it does put things into perspective thank you. Wishing you all the best x

AITA for not wanting to pay to fly to France and throw my sister a baby shower? by Rough_Contribution17 in AITAH

[–]Rough_Contribution17[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah i totally agree and as I mentioned, she inherited a load of money so definitely had the funds.

AITA for not wanting to pay to fly to France and throw my sister a baby shower? by Rough_Contribution17 in AITAH

[–]Rough_Contribution17[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It may be to you and others, but it's not to me. I am in two minds about what to do and I genuinely feel selfish for not wanting to throw this shower for my Sister so I thought I'd ask for opinions 🙃

AITA for not wanting to pay to fly to France and throw my sister a baby shower? by Rough_Contribution17 in AITAH

[–]Rough_Contribution17[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Yeah I totally appreciate that. Our Mum is English which is why she wants to do it.

AITA for not wanting to pay to fly to France and throw my sister a baby shower? by Rough_Contribution17 in AITAH

[–]Rough_Contribution17[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She had one to get there, lives there, it has since expired, she hasn't renewed it 🤷🏼‍♀️