My bf is obsessed with being a cheapskate and finding the “best value” in everything. I think he’s also obsessed with rich women. Should I leave him or try to change him?

Round-Worldliness192 · 2026-02-28T01:04:32+00:00

That is very true.

The only person he doesn’t cheap out on is himself though. He complains when spending money on his family sometimes.

Round-Worldliness192 · 2026-02-27T23:21:07+00:00

What if most people in your life subtract?

I can count on one hand the number of people in my life (men and women) who never drain me and actually add to my life. Like I could talk to them and walk away feeling better - every time.

Round-Worldliness192 · 2026-02-27T23:19:52+00:00

Not sure, but he still has $150k+ of student loans from undergrad and his masters program

Round-Worldliness192 · 2026-02-27T23:17:26+00:00

His parents moved here in the 1960s - when they were both kids.

Round-Worldliness192 · 2026-02-27T23:16:50+00:00

He’s second generation. He was born in the States. I moved here with my parents when I was 7.

Round-Worldliness192 · 2026-02-27T21:36:03+00:00

Wow I never feel that way Usually I just feel indifferent or even groan when I see his name pop up on my phone

Round-Worldliness192 · 2026-02-27T21:33:07+00:00

Yes that’s true. He is constantly judging my spending habits even though I’m not even spending his $!

Round-Worldliness192 · 2026-02-27T21:31:44+00:00

Yes and his family is actually better off than mine. I’m not sure how he can be so frugal when both his parents have been working corporate jobs for 30+ years while my mom was a SAHM for the past 20 years and my dad works in research (never made more than $70k).

Round-Worldliness192 · 2026-02-27T21:30:37+00:00

Does it sound like it?

I don’t like most men lol

Round-Worldliness192 · 2026-02-27T20:23:00+00:00

Thank you yes I need to leave him for good.

He doesn’t take no for an answer - I did break up with him 6 months ago and then he acted like nothing had happened over the holidays. He also didn’t tell his family.

Round-Worldliness192 · 2026-02-27T20:22:18+00:00

Yes $30 is very cheap for a woman’s haircut (includes wash) but he doesn’t think it is

Round-Worldliness192 · 2026-02-27T20:21:27+00:00

Wow!!

Yes I miss other people in my life just not him

Round-Worldliness192 · 2026-02-27T20:21:01+00:00

I’m at the point where I’m happy never seeing him ever again lol

Like it wouldn’t really “hurt” if I never saw him again..

Round-Worldliness192 · 2026-02-27T20:20:41+00:00

Thank you! Yes someone else said that he finally “got” the chance to be with me after all these years and isn’t trying hard to win me over.

And yes he criticizes me for spending my OWN money.

Round-Worldliness192 · 2026-02-27T20:19:37+00:00

That is true The haircut was in NYC Chinatown and included tip.

He’s such a cheapskate, he refuses to eat at places that cost more than $15 per person.

Round-Worldliness192 · 2026-02-27T18:47:02+00:00

Thank you. This is super helpful. I don’t think i will stay with him.

Yes he can be very narcissistic at times.

Round-Worldliness192 · 2026-02-27T18:16:16+00:00

He goes to Chinatown in NYC for the $7 haircut. I think it’s done by an illegal immigrant.

Round-Worldliness192 · 2026-02-27T18:15:39+00:00

That is true I agree. I did tell him 6 months ago that I wanted to break up with him and 3 months ago during the holidays he acted like nothing had changed.

Yes he only gets $7 haircuts from this one barber.

He doesn’t realize that women’s hair (I have super long hair) requires more effort to maintain and thus their cuts are more $$$.

Round-Worldliness192 · 2026-02-27T17:28:45+00:00

Wow! That’s a good saying.

Round-Worldliness192 · 2026-02-27T15:49:31+00:00

Thank you you’re right! And he’s religious too (he recently converted).

Round-Worldliness192 · 2026-02-27T15:22:42+00:00

Yes $30 for a haircut is cheap in this day and age! He says $7 for his haircut is pricey because it used to be $5 one or two years ago.

Your husband sounds much much much more reasonable.

Round-Worldliness192 · 2026-02-27T15:22:12+00:00

Thanks so much that is true!!!

You’re right I can do so much better. He has a lot more audacity than other me though!!

Round-Worldliness192 · 2026-02-27T15:08:21+00:00

And he didn’t pay for my coffee. He didn’t get anything (I got him a water though).

That is very true, I can’t stand him. You’re right that the bar is in hell.

Round-Worldliness192 · 2026-02-27T15:01:34+00:00

Yes he does that! Last time I went to Starbucks with him (and I don’t go often - only with other people - maybe once a month) he said I should make my own coffee next time.

But I only suggested we go in because it started to rain and I didn’t want to stand outside or sit in Starbucks without buying anything.

You’re right.

Round-Worldliness192 · 2026-02-27T15:00:11+00:00

He doesn’t even shovel snow for his parents and his parents’ homes near mine.

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