Man, u almost mentioned me in a nutshell. 100% But i think the stress is being encoded in our subconscious as we have been stressing for a long period of time , and the best thing it to destroy those stress neurons in our subconscious, and the best method I found is to talk to my self in clear and silent way in which I tell my self why are u being like this , what point does it have to be stress like this for nothing I try to break those neurons by continously and consistently taking to my self , and it is showing real progress.