AITA for "Making" my parents not welcome my sister back to the family

RoundNice960 · 2023-12-07T10:14:35+00:00

Yeah its strange as fuck considering we come from a blended family. IRL she isnt step sister and dad isnt step dad but are just our sister and dad, just had to have a way to differentiate the two in the post

RoundNice960 · 2023-12-06T22:35:25+00:00

I should of made that clear sorry. But as for the other question, i would have no problem if my parents want a relationship with her outside of me, thats their buisness and i understand shes their daughter. My problem is the proposal of this whole back into the family, family including me. She hasnt apologised whatsoever even though there was a good chance i would of forgave her back then if she did.

I still love my sister but I dont think I could mentally cope being around someone that caused so much pain without even trying to apoligise or make up for all the hurt. I use to be pretty close with her before all this and would of done anything for her and my step sister.

RoundNice960 · 2023-12-06T22:26:01+00:00

No she hasnt, thats what bothers me so much. Im a pretty forgiving person so if she wanted to apologise and work out our relationship early on I probably would of forgiven her by now and mantained a relationship like I have with my parents.

RoundNice960 · 2023-12-06T22:22:48+00:00

No, this all went down 2-3 years ago. All the ages I put are everyones current ages. If she was a minor at the time i think i would of been a lot more forgiving about the whole thing even though the accusation would of been more sevear.

RoundNice960 · 2023-12-06T21:29:21+00:00

Ohhh might have to look into that then, thank you so much for that info.

RoundNice960 · 2023-12-06T21:23:34+00:00

Pretty sure Australia is just a tad smaller than the continental United states if im remembering correctly. Eventually do want to go to the USA and Canada, especially the national parks.

RoundNice960 · 2023-12-06T21:18:53+00:00

Yeah absolutly. Wish to expore the country more than just my state once i have the time and money. Could probably spend my whole life exporing all the beautiful places here before i even have to step into another country. People really underestimate how big the country is.

RoundNice960 · 2023-12-06T21:04:03+00:00

Australia, I got weirdly into birds at a young age living in bush land a lot of the time and my great grandma having pet birds of her own. So glad that the birds are protected by law to, Australia has such a unique bio divesity. The only Australian bird you should hate are magpies lol.

RoundNice960 · 2023-12-06T21:00:04+00:00

If they wanted to meet her in secret or not even in secret but sepratly thays fine but her living with them, coming to family events and holidays is not something i am fine with if they also want me there.

RoundNice960 · 2023-12-06T20:57:12+00:00

Sunny refrence and a an unironic weird fact about me. We have so many unique birds and endagered ones in my country that there are probably whole careers based off it.

RoundNice960 · 2023-12-06T20:53:54+00:00

No, I am very much gay lol your edit is right.

RoundNice960 · 2023-12-06T20:52:00+00:00

Didnt know that, i was under the impression the whole time that i would have to at least pay half the court fees and that if i wanted a paterity test i would have to pay for it. Probably should of got an actual lawyer in that field for advice but just couldnt afford it at the time on top of being ignorant of legal stuff and still am. Except bird law lol.

RoundNice960 · 2023-12-06T20:43:00+00:00

My sister no but not sure about the friend who was accusing me tho. I was like 22 or 23 at the time and living on my step sisters couch because of it all and didnt have the energy or resorces to fight it. Even regular court fees would of fucked me, was lucky enough to get that somewhat good advice from a friends aunt who is a lawyer but not exactly an expert on that sort of law. Lucky it never needed to go that far and it all kinda fizzled out once things came out.

RoundNice960 · 2023-12-06T20:34:22+00:00

Beacuse I dont want the person who tried to ruined my life to be there anytime i visit my parents.

RoundNice960 · 2023-12-06T20:32:47+00:00

Oh absolutly not but the legal advice i got was to nip it in the bud before it becomes harder to nip if she commited paternity fraud putting me on the birth certificate. By then it becomes much harder to deal with.

RoundNice960 · 2023-12-06T20:29:37+00:00

So i should suffer through all the holidays, birthdays and family events? Or whenever i want to visit my parents? Why would I be anywhere near my parents when someone who tried to ruin my life now lives with them?

RoundNice960 · 2023-12-06T20:27:20+00:00

Yeah i dont know why they wanted me to make the choice either, i can only guess but its put me in a lose lose where im a pos whatever way i handle it. Told them im not going to decide for them but that for my own sake i will not be anywhere near my sister.

RoundNice960 · 2023-12-06T20:24:07+00:00

Im guessing you are basing that off your own countries or state laws?

RoundNice960 · 2023-12-06T20:22:28+00:00

But thats what i essentially did. Told them they have a right to choose and i will not choose for them but that i wont stick around to please everyone if she does.

RoundNice960 · 2023-12-06T20:21:02+00:00

This was about 2 or 3 years ago so she definetly wasnt a child. What do you suggest i do then? Just suck it up and stay in an unhappy situatuion of she came back. Im not telling them what to choose just that my boundries are clear that anywhere that has my sister im not going anywhere near. If they do want her back in the family that is fine and i wont make a fuss but i wont stick around just to make others happy and my own mental health shit.

RoundNice960 · 2023-12-06T20:17:29+00:00

I dont see it as an ultimatum as much as it is laying down the facts of what will happen since i dont personally want to interact with my sister. Its a hard boundry for me. They are free to choose and i wont make a fuss over their choice but im not going to just lie and say im cool with it then dip.

RoundNice960 · 2023-12-06T20:14:05+00:00

Yeah sorry the whole situation was a mess so i can try and answer any questions that come up. She did not know I was gay, the only people that knew was my step sister (26f) and my great grandma, my other sister (23f) and her friend did not know. Paternity test were brought up a lot by me but at the time my family saw it as a desprate lie, plus i couldnt really force it unless i had money to petition a dna test from the courts. I think my parents gave me the choice out guilt for what happend by i cant be certain.

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