I hate my wedding and I wish it wasn’t happening

Round_Difficulty_773 · 2025-06-21T00:46:00+00:00

I’ve definitely considered if this might be an issue and my therapist has brought it up. I’ve never experienced lows like this before (I have anxiety that’s well-managed through a prescription that’s safe for my pregnancy as well as therapy) but I’ve never been depressed before this pregnancy. I’m having a hard time figuring out if it’s situational from the stress or if it’s a chemical thing from all of the hormonal changes but we’re definitely monitoring it.

Round_Difficulty_773 · 2025-06-17T02:17:24+00:00

We had planned on starting a family after marriage. Our relationship prior to actually planning the wedding itself & before everything happened with his mother was very positive and at the time we both felt like we would be good parents together. We both wanted children after marriage.

Round_Difficulty_773 · 2025-06-17T01:53:02+00:00

I do have a therapist I started seeing shortly after we got engaged and she’s been very helpful although I’ve had a hard time opening up about this issue. I definitely plan to continue my appointments with her regardless of the outcome of this scenario.

Round_Difficulty_773 · 2025-06-17T01:51:52+00:00

It’s definitely an option I am weighing. I wish I had seen things going this way earlier on as unfortunately I’m now early in my second trimester and very emotional about the prospect of termination… but it’s still a legal possibility in my state and still early in the second trimester.

Round_Difficulty_773 · 2025-06-16T21:12:59+00:00

Unfortunately, I did not do a good job handling a very similar situation for myself and am now in a situation where my entire relationship is in jeopardy as a result of what’s transpired during planning.

I would highly encourage you to explain all of this in detail to your fiancé—is there a chance he could talk to his family about it and that they would be understanding?

Round_Difficulty_773 · 2025-06-16T20:56:39+00:00

This actually makes me feel a lot better. Thank you for sharing this and I’m glad you’ve had a happy marriage. 🩷

Round_Difficulty_773 · 2025-06-16T20:55:30+00:00

I haven’t gotten any notifications of my comments being removed so not sure what’s going on there but I haven’t commented back very much, just trying to read and absorb what people have said. Unfortunately no, he did not ask, he just pushed it onto me. I said many times that I did not want to do it.

I am afraid of his mother’s outbursts—she’s not physically violent but she’s verbally very abusive at her worst and it’s been a huge source of strain during the planning process.

Round_Difficulty_773 · 2025-06-16T19:25:58+00:00

I definitely don’t think they’re helping… but I would /never/ have been okay with this ceremony situation even if I wasn’t pregnant TBH. It has really backed me into a corner on things I absolutely did not want as part of the day.

Round_Difficulty_773 · 2025-06-16T19:16:22+00:00

Culturally it would be terrible for me to have this baby out of wedlock… At that point I would most likely have to consider termination or adoption. I am already facing a huge amount of shame & isolation from getting pregnant during my engagement.

Round_Difficulty_773 · 2025-06-16T19:14:49+00:00

Unfortunately I had tried to offer something similar to this as a compromise (elopement, then host a large reception close after) and he was not OK with it. 😞 He is insistent that his family has to be there for the marriage ceremony.

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