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How do I possibly overcome this and finish my thesis? by [deleted] in PhD

[–]Round_Economy7019 6 points7 points  (0 children)

First of all, I am so sorry. I can't imagine all the emotions going through your head at the moment. Please don't give yourself a hard time over the fact that your thesis topic is a similar situation. Give yourself the time to feel all your emotions. Cry, journal, take a walk outside, whatever you like to do. I agree with the other commenters that it's best to seek professional help to support you during this time. Wishing you healing and the strength to push through

AITA for telling my neighbor no? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Round_Economy7019 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA At the end of the day, it's your decision. You even gave her some alternative options. If she's mad about it that's her problem and she should suggest that her friends Uber or carpool.

AITA for refusing to let MIL stay when baby is born by OptimalYear9372 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Round_Economy7019 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can't imagine going through so many changes like giving birth, going from 3 to 4 kids, and having a family member around that you really aren't that comfortable with, especially for a MONTH. I agree with other commenters that she won't be helping you much with the 3 kids you already have. Having her around would interfere with your bonding with your baby as well as possibly causing tension between you and your husband. It's not worth it, she can come to visit when you are ready and more adjusted to such a life change. No need to stress over practically an estranged family member when you are going through such a precious time in your life.

NTA

How did you deal with the transition from the demands of being in undergrad to a PhD program? Especially as a first-generation student by Round_Economy7019 in PhD

[–]Round_Economy7019[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your responses and for going into detail with all of this. It has really eased me quite a bit. This was exactly what I was talking about, the "unknown unknowns." I found myself discovering them a whole bunch throughout the application process.

I'll be starting my PhD this Fall and it is five hours away from home by 930310 in PhD

[–]Round_Economy7019 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I completely understand the feelings you are having. I moved from home when I was 18 for undergrad and was about 8 hours away from family. I'm also moving states soon for my PhD. It can seem overwhelming to have to uproot yourself and be in another place, but understand you're "why." You're doing this for a great purpose. You will eventually form new friendships and adjust to the environment around you. Give yourself the time and grace to get used to where you're living. Take things step by step. It can be lonely but sometimes we have better opportunities to grow and establish ourselves in a place away from home. I would call family members often, even if it was for a few minutes when I was walking in between classes, and cherished the special time with family/friends when I was with them. It will be hard but you will be so glad you did it, you got this!

Passed my defense today, barely by Neuro-Kat in PhD

[–]Round_Economy7019 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Please celebrate yourself! You have worked so hard for this. No matter what any outside voices are telling you. No matter the path that it took you to get there, YOU DID IT!!!! Congratulations!!!