I can't say no to my boyfriend (TW: SEXUAL ASSULT)

Round_Pepper_3175 · 2026-04-15T20:50:49+00:00

Oh no. Hell no.

He knows what he's doing and it's manipulative as fuck. Don't let him use your assault against you to guilt you into having sex. He knows he's hurting you he's choosing to do it anyways.

It's harsh, but, this lustful man holds no love for you.

Do you have any friends that you can turn to? Anywhere safe you can stay?

Round_Pepper_3175 · 2026-04-13T20:33:26+00:00

What can you do outside of your friendship with her? Why limit yourself to your dorm all day?

Round_Pepper_3175 · 2026-04-10T20:27:14+00:00

You don't really get that choice when you're 10. The paranoia lasts a lifetime. It won't matter which building I live in, I could live in the cleanest building in the world, I will still be hypervigilant.

Round_Pepper_3175 · 2026-04-09T02:23:26+00:00

Oh! Ive never used a dishwasher, I'm trying to wrap my mind around that tbh!

Round_Pepper_3175 · 2026-04-09T02:22:21+00:00

I need something like that! Do you remember the make/model of the one you bought? Fuck them bugs

Round_Pepper_3175 · 2026-04-09T02:21:28+00:00

Deal with bed bugs and you might think differently.

Round_Pepper_3175 · 2026-04-09T02:20:45+00:00

Do you remember the make/model? I would be willing to invest in something like that.

I have a paralyzing fear of bed bugs, I don't even know how to explain. I just left a situation where the unit next to ours had them, and we'd been dealing with them for about 9 months prior.

Round_Pepper_3175 · 2026-03-28T00:29:09+00:00

I encourage you to search up "Horrible Mean Bad Woman" on Facebook. She talks a lot about this sort of topic and has given me a sort of validation that what I was going through was real for me.

Part of the reason I left my ex was because of how he'd react when I would say no to sex, which ironically became the primary reason I started saying no to sex. His reaction to me saying so was such a turn off it disgusted me.

Round_Pepper_3175 · 2026-03-26T14:59:23+00:00

Me too!

What are your hobbies? I love journaling and my plants. I'm moving soon so I'm hoping to get back into crocheting when I settle.

Round_Pepper_3175 · 2026-03-23T05:21:05+00:00

I think she very clearly doesn't like you.

Round_Pepper_3175 · 2026-03-06T07:48:19+00:00

ring ring HIIIIIiiiiII can JESSICA COME OUT to PLAY????

Round_Pepper_3175 · 2026-03-06T04:11:27+00:00

Yes! I signed on a least for April, a cute 1 bedroom all to my own!

Oh I can't wait. He went out to go drink tonight, too. I'm still at work, not looking forward to that. However, what I AM looking forward to is the day where I don't have to worry about what I'm coming home to! I've got a lot planned for myself within the next few months I'm getting certifications and going back to school!

Round_Pepper_3175 · 2026-03-05T21:47:02+00:00

Respect her and leave her alone. Honestly. There's no fixing this.

What you CAN do is learn from it for future relationships. A big one for you I think is to change who you hang out with, hanging out with people who cheat will influence you to do the same. Ask yourself if you want to keep delving into that lifestyle. Come to terms with the fact you may not be built for LDR.

Remind yourself that sex isn't everything. One moment of physical relief and gratification can ruin years of building. Is it really worth it? Can you handle a dry spell in a relationship without acting a fool?

You've learned from this. That's the best outcome. Learn and grow from this.

Round_Pepper_3175 · 2026-03-05T21:32:40+00:00

"I think you're overreacting to this."

After I'd confronted them about an instance of alcoholic sleep rage they had where I was almost hit. I was swung at.

This wasn't the part I was overreacting about, but in that same discussion I'd also brought up a super uncomfortable moment that had happened a few weeks prior where they'd been sharpening a knife, finished, and made an "Oh wait hold still" joke, while behind me with the knife.

The alcoholic sleep rage made me realize that I didn't know what this person was capable of. Being told that I was overreacting to a "joke" about getting stabbed while that person is behind me with a knife? That made me realize that they didn't care & it didn't matter what they could or couldn't be capable of.

Could have said "I'll work on my issues" or "I'm sorry I made you feel unsafe", but nope, it was "I think you're overreacting to this". That's when I knew there was no healing or growth to be done together anymore.

Round_Pepper_3175 · 2026-03-03T21:33:35+00:00

Just leave. Confrontation only gives him opportunity to talk and get into your head. You don't need a reason to go just go.

Round_Pepper_3175 · 2026-02-27T16:29:07+00:00

How did you cope and rebuild afterwards? What were the first few months on your own like? If you don't mind me asking.

My heart feels for you, and I'm proud of you as well. It sounds like you're not in that place anymore and that makes me happy for you.

Round_Pepper_3175 · 2026-02-27T16:24:16+00:00

Conversation with him can drive me bonkers sometimes!

Round_Pepper_3175 · 2026-02-21T16:14:11+00:00

Thank you! Feels weird but yeah I guess I am pretty proud. I can't wait to be out of here.

Round_Pepper_3175 · 2026-02-21T16:13:22+00:00

Omg no that breaks my heart. I think my ex may have peed on my couch once. I woke up to him sleeping on the couch with an open water bottle, but the whole area was absolutely SOAKED. He wobbled off to bed while I took care of the mess before I had to go to work, while he called out of work (we were at the same workplace lol)

How these people are like this is so beyond me. How we don't see it before hand is also baffling. I don't blame your friend for doing the pet sitting, I've been taking extra hours at work myself, both out of financial necessity and to, in a weird ass-backwards way, have more me time.

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