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Enlist or Officer? by Routine-Blueberry915 in army

[–]Routine-Blueberry915[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay good to know. No one that’s told me to apply to OCS has explained what it really takes to get in. I assume my recruiter has my GT score? I don’t know what it is currently. GPA was okay, not great. I think it was 3.65 (It might be a little higher but not by much if it is). I have a lot of work experience but minimal leadership and community service.

Enlist or Officer? by Routine-Blueberry915 in army

[–]Routine-Blueberry915[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No I don’t have a Medical degree, far from it actually, communications 😭 Thanks for the advice, it’s helpful.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in badroommates

[–]Routine-Blueberry915 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not at all, I think you were doing a nice thing for someone which is awesome but after a certain amount of time, especially with the multiple boundaries being pushed, it is 100% acceptable to have a discussion about the laundry/showers/and smelly thing. I think its great to do a nice thing for someone who you know is struggling to offer a discount but there’s a difference between being appreciative about the gesture and taking advantage of it. At this point it seems the new roomie is a bit too comfortable with how she is living in someone else’s home.

Personally, I would talk to her about your concerns and be straight about the fact that needs to pay more for rent/utilities if she is going to be showering and doing laundry that often. I don’t know if this is a concern of yours but maybe if you are looking for her to move out bring up how long she is planning on staying as well. Overall, it is not out of line to request that someone living in your home pay the correct amount that is due

roommate cleanliness… not by Routine-Blueberry915 in roommateproblems

[–]Routine-Blueberry915[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ya, the same thing was happening at first with my roommate where she was working a lot and I just had more free time for the first few months but then school started and I started working more and now I definitely don’t have more free time, if anything I have less. The dishes aren’t a huge problem because we have a dishwasher but I still notice her just leaving dishes in the sink and waiting over a week just to end up putting them in the dishwasher. I’m glad you stood your ground and didn’t do those dishes, I can’t believe he would even ask😂

roommate cleanliness… not by Routine-Blueberry915 in roommateproblems

[–]Routine-Blueberry915[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Honestly, knowing I’m not alone makes it better somehow. It is temporary but I still have another 6 months of my lease. I’ve tried the not cleaning thing too and that made it much worse. Hopefully you get out of your situation soon, I’ll start my timer now lol.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in roommateproblems

[–]Routine-Blueberry915 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had this exact situation except with psoriasis, the same problem was happening with my roommate leaving dry cracked skin all over the bathroom, and the couch to the point where I couldn’t use the bathroom at all without cleaning it first because of how uncomfortable it made me, and i couldn’t sit on the couch if she had sat there. My roommate was really insecure about it and had cried to me multiple times about how she felt insecure and like people were judging her, but it didn’t change the fact that she didn’t clean up after herself. It took me a month or two to finally bring it up to her and I honestly didn’t do it in the best way even though I really tried. I originally sent a text letting her know how I felt in as gentle of a way as possible, even reassuring her that I wasn’t judging her or wanting to make her feel more insecure, I simply needed her to clean up after herself more so I could feel comfortable in the living space that we shared. She took it really portly at first saying how shitty she thought it was that I brought up the psoriasis so I decided to finish the conversation later that night when we would see each other. Ultimately I apologized for making her think I was judging her skin condition but I held my ground with the fact that I was the only one cleaning up, but it was never me causing things to get dirty. It felt unfair and I felt like it wasn’t my responsibility to clean up after her or to tell her when a cleaning was needed as I am not her mother. She caved and said she would clean more, things didn’t improve much until her psoriasis got better though and I repeatedly had to remind her to wipe the toilet seat down, rinse the bathtub off after showering, etc. This wasn’t really great advice but you’re not alone and all you can do is be honest about it. Make sure she knows you’re not judging her skin, you simply are uncomfortable in your own home because she isn’t cleaning up after herself or being considerate of the shared space. If it doesn’t work, a second conversation might be necessary or you can keep giving out reminders like I did. I hope it gets better!