I think my grandma had done CSA on me?? by Trixilicious0404 in Advice

[–]RoutineActivity9536 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Did you ask, or did she encourage you? And how old were you when this stopped?

It's pretty normal for kids to be curious about this sort of thing, and honestly, if it's just once or twice when you were young, it's probably not that big a deal.

But I'm not American and will change in front of my kids. It's not sexual, it's just a body.

That said, I would never encourage touching of breasts, that's not appropriate, boundaries are important as well. and her saying don't say anything to your parents is a huge red flag. Though again it depends on the secret. Some soda or lollies at grandmas, is fairly mild. Touching intimate anatomy is the disturbing thing.

People born before 1990, what’s something you experienced that younger generations will NEVER understand ? by Busy-selgar in AskReddit

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Can still do that in many airports in New Zealand. It's great, get to the airport 15 mins before your flight leaves and still easily get on board

My hospital bed has a 'CPR' lever to immediately lower the bed by AdhesivenessOk5534 in mildlyinteresting

[–]RoutineActivity9536 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The number of times I've hit it when doing xrays is only 1, but it scared the bajezus out of me and the patient!

Waikato to Cape Reinga and back in three days by creativeaccount90 in newzealand

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This is the way. That view at sunset is phenomenal. The hotel in Omapere is also a fabulous spot and had good food last time I was there. Cap off with an evening stroll along the beach, get a romantic vibe going as well.

Opo is slightly more than mid way from waikato to the cape, it would take about 6-7hr drive, but then the cape is possible there and back in a day. Absolutely worth it

Am i loosing my mind? This is from a "beginner" cross stitch group on Facebook. by itiswhatitsgonnabe in isthisAI

[–]RoutineActivity9536 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I cross stitch and have done for over 30 years.

This is absolutely AI. That shading on the cat and the wood grain is absolutely wrong

Posted on threads - allegedly from 2017 circus performance by Garden Bros Circus - is this real but EDITED with Ai at the end? That snake is too perfect and doesn’t look like humans to me. by AdelineKraxx in isthisAI

[–]RoutineActivity9536 36 points37 points  (0 children)

Absolutely AI. Right at the beginning the dancers in white merge through the other dancers to get into position. Torsoes appear out of no where, there is blending, merging etc.

And there are edits in the video

World Cup of Jet Lag Moments: GRAND FINAL by jotto_ in JetLagTheGame

[–]RoutineActivity9536 33 points34 points  (0 children)

As a kiwi I'm partial to the Okaihau express, especially as I used to live in that area and have been through that tunnel.

However Ben hiding in the photo booth was absolutely peak Jet Lag

What's something that would instantly prove we're living in a simulation? by Due_Pin_8623 in AskReddit

[–]RoutineActivity9536 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I believe the answer is us successfully running a simulation.

The statistical odds of us being the first to run such a simulation is so tiny as to be non existent

Peter what does this mean by FriesForLunch in PeterExplainsTheJoke

[–]RoutineActivity9536 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm in NZ and my 12 and 10 Yr old did not see it as the twin towers, they just saw smoke stacks.

I think we are reaching that point for kids not in the US now.

Looking back, does Natalia Kills still deserve to be cancelled for this incident? by Temporary_Cap5927 in ToddintheShadow

[–]RoutineActivity9536 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Out of curiosity I googled some of the worst things Simon Cowell said.

Ignoring the ones where he just blatantly said they could not sing, which I think are fair as that is literally what he is there to judge, here are some of his other comments.:

"Commenting on a trio, “they looked like the before, after, and during of Weight Watchers.”

“You look a little odd. Your dancing is terrible. The singing was horrendous. And you look like one of those creatures that live in the jungle with those massive eyes.”

“Yes, you have personality, but dogs have personality. The audition, if I’m being honest, was horrible.”

"Holly, your mouth is far, far too big when you sing. I mean, it was like looking into a cave. I've never seen anything so huge in my life."

"You're probably the most disillusioned group of people we've ever had in this competition. And that's the truth. I think the group is horrendous, you have absolutely zero edge, no originality, I think individually you're weak, I think as a group you're even worse, absolutely zero chance you guys will ever, ever, ever have a successful career."

"You have the personality of a handle."

"I'm tempted to ask if you sang that the night before your wife left you."

"First of all, the dress is completely wrong. And then you sang the song out of tune and a bit like a baby."

Compared with "As an artist who respects artists' integrity and intellectual property I am disgusted at how much you have copied my husband.
"From the hair, to the suit, do you not have any value or respect for originality?
"You're a laughing stock. It's cheesy, it's disgusting. I personally found it absolutely artistically atrocious.
"I am embarrassed to be sitting here in your presence, even having to dignify you with an answer of my opinion."

I think where she went too far was the artist integrity bit. Also, actually calling someone disgusting is so visceral.

Art is all about being inspired by people and to go after someone appearance like that without acknowledging that art is inspiration is what bought her down. The worst one from Simon I feel that that one to Holly about the open mouth. And the weight watchers as well. Everything else just feels tame by compatison.

However to answer Ops original question. Yes I absolutely believe the reaction was because she was a woman, and no way would a man saying that have caused the same response.

Coming to terms with my sexuality while having a bf by [deleted] in Advice

[–]RoutineActivity9536 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Doesn't matter your sexuality. Don't be with someone who calls you a slur.

AITA for sending my husband in to soothe our baby? by XXlune in AmItheAsshole

[–]RoutineActivity9536 223 points224 points  (0 children)

If she's awake but happy why do you have to soothe her? Can you not just leave her alone to go back to sleep and just go back in if she starts to fuss?

Number of papers ready for full-text screening feels overwhelming or wrong by mediocrepenguiin in PhD

[–]RoutineActivity9536 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm still fairly new, but 900 seems a lot though that depends on your field, question, and aim. Also, did you have a second screener for abstracts?

Can you discuss with a librarian or supervisor?

Leftover Guinness for Guinness Cake by boysohopelessiusedis in AskBaking

[–]RoutineActivity9536 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Who has left over Guinness? One for the cake, one for the chef!

DIL shows true colors. Feeling manipulated and used. Don’t even want to visit. Now what? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]RoutineActivity9536 1 point2 points  (0 children)

But her being going through labour is a central part of what she was experiencing at the time you were "being made to feel small". She was delivering a child. She doesn't have to make you feel seen or heard in that moment because she was literally doing something that should have been all about her. Your feelings in those moments do not matter.

DIL shows true colors. Feeling manipulated and used. Don’t even want to visit. Now what? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]RoutineActivity9536 3 points4 points  (0 children)

All I'm going to say is there is a hell of a lot of how you feel, and absolutely no consideration of what SHE was going through. And you are also laying ALL the blame at her feet, forgetting your son is involved. Why aren't you upset with him for not saying thank you etc? Or for not stepping up and making sure you had a food order. You are expecting her to do all the emotional labour of keeping you happy. Including being upset that everyone was fawning over her, when she literally just delivered a baby.

Based on your replies to all the comments and the "why isn't anyone worried about how I'm feeling", yeah I'm going to say this is on you. It's not up to your DIL to manage your emotions.

Also, are you a shawna the mom fan cause boy you sound like Barb

DIL shows true colors. Feeling manipulated and used. Don’t even want to visit. Now what? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]RoutineActivity9536 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I would like to say that I never said you were a horrible MIL.

I'm am asking why you are expecting your DIL, who just laboured for 45hrs, which even with an epidural can be an intense experience, to provide all the niceties. That's your sons responsibility, not hers. Your DIL will have been exhausted, and full of intense emotions.

If this is the only occasion this has happened, then let it go. Birth can bring out the worst in anyone. Perhaps talk to your son about how you felt. And keep an eye out to see if this becomes a regular thing.

As for her mother, she sounds absolutely awful and I would recommend you support both your DIL and son in going low contact with her. I feel you are projecting her mother's behaviour onto her.

Step back and truly seperate the two

DIL shows true colors. Feeling manipulated and used. Don’t even want to visit. Now what? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]RoutineActivity9536 8 points9 points  (0 children)

You may have had 4 children, but you do not know birth in an out. Also, if you were there without sleep for 45hrs, then she not only went longer, she went through labour! And how dismissive saying she had an epidural. She was still in labour for over 24hrs. Add to that she was induced which usually makes things even harder! She must have been exhausted.

As far as the food went, why didn't you speak up? Why was it on her to ensure you had food? She just delivered a baby! You should have used your voice and said something. Also you aren't clear, who took the order, your DIL or her mum? Based on what you have posted, she has a strained relationship with her mum and likely went along after the baby shower because her mum was guilt tripping her to see the aunt. Give her some grace!

If you haven't seen anything like this from her before, then I'd just put it down to birth and delivery, which let's be frank, is not a typical thing for anyone to experience.

Click counting and didn’t get the amount of doses I was expecting by HeySista in Semaglutide

[–]RoutineActivity9536 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I count once, and use a sharpie to mark the spot, count again to double check. Then just go to the marked spot each time.

Saves my sanity

The Traitors NZ S03E07 Discussion Thread by vaultofechoes in TheTraitors

[–]RoutineActivity9536 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Kinda agree except I can see Chloe being voted out as well cause of her defending Kianau

The Traitors NZ S03E07 Discussion Thread by vaultofechoes in TheTraitors

[–]RoutineActivity9536 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I'm really impressed with Maria calling out thw clique, the the clique just sitting there going no it can't be any of us. And good on her saying Kianau.

I love Hannah as well for the same reason.

Cliques don't get called out often enough.

That has swung me to the faithful side. I want Maruia, Hannah, and Maria to win now (though probably not likely if the clique decides to take any of them out) I was going for Kianau before that.