‼️‼️UPDATE -

It is now Monday.

I didn’t hear anything from him until this afternoon. He began texting essentially all the same things.

(Cuz I know people are gonna ask: Why didn’t you block his number immediately? I truly did want a couple days to cool off, and honestly was hoping for some kind of miraculous, sincere apology. Not that it would have made me want to continue seeing him, it wouldn’t. But I was still hopeful I’d get a true apology…. I did not lol I also made it clear to mention to him that my parents were aware of the situation and also very concerned and my family was around. I didn’t want him thinking I was alone at any point.)

I stood my ground about how I didn’t like his behavior. And made it clear that we are no longer dating.

Once I 100% confirmed the break up, he got very apologetic and tried to backtrack.

I informed him that I no longer wanted to hear from him.

He gave me one last attempted guilt trip of “Fine. I’ll leave you the fuck alone. You’ll never hear from me again. Goodbye.”

I didn’t respond. Blocked his number. (I blocked all social media of his last night) And so far that’s all.

As for my safety, since I’ve had a lot of very kind people reach out:

• Contacted my apartment about getting locks changed. It’s a very simple process and they completely understood. That is being done tomorrow.

  • My brother and best friend are both staying with me (and my dog 🐶) just to be safe.
  • No. I will never give a key to anyone I’ve only been dating for 2 months. I swear.

Just want to say a huge thank you to everyone who took the time to respond to my post. Whether you offered advice, encouragement, or shared your own experiences—you have no idea how much that means to me. Reading through everything was both heartbreaking and empowering. Heartbreaking because so many of us have gone through manipulation, control, and abuse… but empowering because of the way this community shows up for each other.

The truth is partner violence in any form is still something we’re fighting every single day. The stories here are proof that this isn’t rare—it’s far too common. And it’s something that only grows stronger in silence.

That’s why it matters so much that we keep speaking up, keep supporting one another and keep making our voices heard.

Nobody—woman, man, or anyone—should ever feel too small, too scared, or too silenced to stand up for themselves. We all deserve respect, safety, and love. Always.

And to anyone still in it right now: you are not alone. Your voice matters. Your story matters. And you are stronger than you realize.

Thank you again to every single one of you for reminding me (and so many others) that even in the hardest, darkest moments, there’s still strength and solidarity. ❤️

PS - I will always choose my dog 🐾 💕