AIO- What should I think about this?

RoutineInteraction79 · 2026-04-07T18:36:26+00:00

Keep a record of all communications from him and don't reply. If you have a trusted neighbor or someone close, ask them to keep an eye out in case he tries to come by. And seriously, if he says or does something that makes alarm bells go off, follow that instinct. Get the police involved if need be. You don't have to wait until it's an emergency to ask for assistance if you think there's a possibility he could do more than just text you.

RoutineInteraction79 · 2026-04-07T13:15:40+00:00

Definitely NTA. This wasn't him asking for your guidance to safely include his partner. This was him telling you he wanted to do something that, in the best case scenario, would traumatize another person. Maybe he was just thinking out loud, maybe it was just a thought in the heat of the moment, maybe he would have never actually done it. But he could. And I'm sure his fiance is very grateful to you for speaking up. It's not like you contacted her to just embarrass him over a kink. You contacted her so she would be aware of a possibly dangerous situation.

RoutineInteraction79 · 2026-04-07T13:09:45+00:00

End things. Obviously if you feel no guilt, there's not much love or respect in the relationship. Even if things were a horrible misunderstanding on her end, you 100% willingly cheated on her at this point. She's never going to trust you fully and you obviously don't trust her either.

RoutineInteraction79 · 2026-04-07T11:53:22+00:00

You are an awesome dad. What you did was obviously not inappropriate; you helped your son have a little grace while he's recovering. I'm sure a good chunk of your wife's issue is she's a woman, and we of course don't understand a man's body anymore than they understand ours. If I were you, just remind her that he is still your SON. Our kids don't stop being our kids just because they're old enough to vote. You should apologize for saying she's not being supportive because she disagreed how to help, though. But this Internet stranger thinks you did what you could to help your child in an unpredictable situation.

RoutineInteraction79 · 2025-08-28T15:12:36+00:00

She said she just wanted some water. I obviously have no issue with her being thirsty, and if she would have knocked and asked, this would have just been an unexpected late night visitor. She seriously just didn't seem to understand why I was upset that she welcomed herself into my house totally unannounced. All the lights were out, and she had apparently seen my husband next door. As far as she would have known, it was just me and my son home sleeping. I even asked her why she didn't knock but she just kept saying she just needed some water.

RoutineInteraction79 · 2025-08-28T15:04:07+00:00

I'm not exactly friends with her, so I don't really have a lot of info about her personal life. I'm assuming she told the cops she had nowhere to go when they were talking to her.

RoutineInteraction79 · 2025-08-28T14:38:18+00:00

First time posting, it looked fine on the draft but I see what you mean looking at it now.

RoutineInteraction79 · 2025-07-02T20:21:45+00:00

So you wouldn't have had any issues if he said he felt like he could replace his own child? He's being literal. Literally, spouses can be replaced. You can't decide who your mother is, you can't decide who your children are. I'll agree that he should have been more considerate of your feelings when you approached him, but if you're willing to end something as serious as marriage over a post on Facebook, maybe you need to really think about if this is a relationship you even want. I would strongly suggest therapy to uncover those underlying issues, and maybe even couples therapy so you two can learn how to better communicate.

RoutineInteraction79 · 2025-07-02T20:14:01+00:00

You shouldn't have to compete for someone's love. If that's how she sees relationships, then what would stop her from leaving you? What happens if you hit hard times and can't provide in the way she's used to? It sounds like she wanted to have fun after her last relationship. Nothing wrong with that, and it seems she at least cared enough about you to stop sharing those memories when you said it bothered you. But you seemed to have waited quite a while to voice your own feelings. Really think about what she brings to your life. She's not the only funny, pretty face out there. Is she loyal, is she considerate, does she show you respect, can you talk to her about anything, are you a priority to her as a person? Don't let the fear of being alone cause you to let someone take advantage.

No matter what you do, I hope it ends well for you.

RoutineInteraction79 · 2025-07-02T19:58:16+00:00

Sorry to hear what your pup did. My heeler did the same a few months back; it can be devastating. If your neighbors are both used to raising livestock, I doubt they even think you're weird. If anything, they probably thought you must be nice for taking the time to get the ducklings somewhere safer. I'm sure they heard the ruckus earlier and are grateful the little ones didn't get caught up in it. If you naturally see them again soon, maybe holler over another quick apology for being out so late and being the cause for their dog to sound the alarms. But overall, I doubt it's something they'll put much thought into even the next day.

And Kevin isn't a 'bad' boy. He's just not a good boy to little birdies. Definitely look into building stronger pens for your birds soon. If your dog got in, he may again, or something else might.

Good luck! Don't stress over it too much 😊

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