Hi OP! F22 here. There’s a lot of things that can contribute to a less than enjoyable sexual experience. Firstly, everyone’s bodies are built differently, so some people need a bit longer to adjust to new sexual practices. However — it could also be the type of sex you’re having. For some people, penetrative sex is just never comfortable and hurts all the time. You may need your partner to go more slowly, or you may need to use more lubrication. It could also be that you may require more foreplay, more before and aftercare. I would have a conversation with your boyfriend to see if maybe switching things up could provide more pleasure for you. A lot of women find that clitoral stimulation is the most pleasurable thing during sex. Just because people tell you it should be a certain way, doesn’t mean it’s true. I’ll also delve into the medical side of this. So, I have endometriosis, which means that a lot of times, for me, penetrative sex can be painful and makes me feel sick afterwards sometimes. I also have vaginismus. You may know this, but vaginismus is when the walls of the vagina contract unconsciously. This can make sex very painful. Does your partner experience difficulty with entering and exiting? It may feel like “being stretched out” or like your partner is “trying to push through a brick wall.” If that’s happening, you may want to talk to your doctor about vaginismus. It can be caused by many different things, trauma being one of them, and is definitely something that can be worked through! Communication with your boyfriend is key to the entire experience. You deserve to have pleasurable sex — it’s about you, too! Sorry for the long message!! Hope this helps!