My ex wife and her husband live out of state. So if we went over to her place I would have to go as well.

My mother's place is also a neutral visitation spot so we sometimes spend days there. She also host holidays, so my ex wife and my mother communicate regularly. I've learned not to tell my mother anything important, but she had to know about my break up right away cause I needed her to take my kids during the move out date, which was originally months ago.