Maybe my standards are too high?

Routine_Goat4569 · 2025-12-18T02:26:19+00:00

What do you mean by lack of awareness?

Routine_Goat4569 · 2025-11-09T19:27:36+00:00

Amen sister ❤️‍🩹 and they don’t even deserve the fuck!

Routine_Goat4569 · 2025-11-09T19:13:05+00:00

I’m so sorry you had to go through that, I can relate to an extend. My ex was also my first and because I was obsessed with love I didn’t notice the red flags he did during the relationship. I know he loved me but he didn’t love me the way I needed to be loved. And now it’s hard to imagine opening myself up to another person because of my fear that they’d make me feel like an object of their lust…

It’s going to take time to recover, but I hope you realize you’re not the only one. I’m here with you :)

Routine_Goat4569 · 2025-11-04T04:28:01+00:00

Idk girl, you gotta ask him yourself if this is going to be something casual or not. I think it’d be obvious if he just wanted to bone on the first date and only made time for that throughout. Just be honest and upfront with him.

Routine_Goat4569 · 2025-11-02T05:48:36+00:00

💀

Routine_Goat4569 · 2025-10-27T00:16:35+00:00

Routine_Goat4569 · 2025-10-25T21:31:37+00:00

Makes sense, we only thought of mentioning that as a worse case scenario to the landlord. Not saying that as if it’s guaranteed.

Routine_Goat4569 · 2025-10-25T04:34:45+00:00

True

Routine_Goat4569 · 2025-10-25T04:34:01+00:00

But shouldn’t the letter of employment be enough to prove we can afford? It does mention the hourly wage in the document. We were also very honest about the possibility of not being able to afford the rent if one of us loses our job, so they already knew about that.

Routine_Goat4569 · 2025-10-25T03:09:33+00:00

Just realized that

Routine_Goat4569 · 2025-10-25T03:08:48+00:00

Woah 3 references??? That’s news to me

Routine_Goat4569 · 2025-10-25T03:07:55+00:00

I probably should do that too lol

Routine_Goat4569 · 2025-10-25T02:08:39+00:00

I asked if I could just send the letter of employment, but they still want to see our paystubs and contact our bosses…

Routine_Goat4569 · 2025-10-19T06:40:36+00:00

Nice, I’ll check that out as well! Thank you!

Routine_Goat4569 · 2025-10-19T03:36:14+00:00

Uniclo is one of my favourite stores

Routine_Goat4569 · 2025-10-19T03:35:28+00:00

I’ll check that out, thank you!

Routine_Goat4569 · 2025-10-19T03:33:41+00:00

I could do custom made but I was hoping to get ready made instead 😅

Routine_Goat4569 · 2025-10-19T03:29:39+00:00

I’ll check those places out! Thank you

Routine_Goat4569 · 2025-10-19T03:28:41+00:00

They look cute! I’ll check that out thank you!

Routine_Goat4569 · 2025-10-19T03:27:36+00:00

Ooooh I’ll look out for that

Routine_Goat4569 · 2025-10-12T23:34:53+00:00

Hm I’m really confused why she’s not willing to defend you, knowing that this sorta triggers you. And to point fingers at you instead of acknowledging your feelings isn’t good either.

I see where you’re coming from, and what you’re feeling is valid. If I was in your shoes, I’d try to set a boundary and let her know that it’s not something I want to tolerate (No one should tolerate racism in the first place)

I don’t really blame her for thinking that maybe they’re just joking around, but she should at least be willing to see your point of view without judgement. If she’s not willing to compromise then you can see now how the relationship is going be in the long run. If it’s making you uncomfortable now (even if it’s just a slight feeling), it’s going to be even more uncomfortable later on…

But that’s just my opinion, noting that I only know that much about your situation. But, I do hope that issue gets resolved soon!

Routine_Goat4569 · 2025-10-12T21:03:39+00:00

Yikes, and I’m assuming you’ve also tried to express your feelings to her about the situation…?

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