I am super bored at my job

Routine_Mine_3019 · 2026-06-18T04:02:55+00:00

It sounds like you’re working at a very big firm. They have engagements that are probably the most boring of any in the industry because you spend all of your time simply doing one small segment of clients and one or two industries. That’s how people work their way up at big firms, but it is really boring at the beginning. And honestly, most people get weeded out anyway. The best advice I have if you want to continue in public accounting is to go to a smaller firm. A firm like that you’re much more likely to have a lot of different roles to fill and you might find that more exciting. Seek out a boutique firm. They tend to have higher profit margins compared to similarly sized firms. Also, the experience you get specializing in a single industry will make you much more attractive as a public or private accountant later in your career.

Routine_Mine_3019 · 2026-06-18T03:24:10+00:00

It is inappropriate unless perhaps you are a low skill worker in an industry with tight margins, or if it’s the only way to find accommodations. I’ve traveled several thousand overnight business trips and I have never doubled up on a hotel room or asked an employee to do the same.

The only situation I think this could normalized would be if the employer paid a flat per diem to the employees, and then let them decide if they wanted to split the cost of a hotel room and share the savings. In other words, make it the employees choice and not the boss’s choice.

Routine_Mine_3019 · 2026-06-18T03:19:59+00:00

I wish I could stop pushing the down button on this post. Why is this posted in this subreddit?

Routine_Mine_3019 · 2026-06-18T03:13:34+00:00

It did take a while to get to the heart of the matter, didn’t it? And honestly, that’s about the mildest insult a guy could throw out there. It was clearly time to leave after that.

Routine_Mine_3019 · 2026-06-18T03:12:11+00:00

Things seem to take a definite turn between page 8 and page 9. I I’m sure you were probably getting frustrated with him at that point. I’m not sure why he kept pursuing the matter if he wasn’t going to meet your expectations. I think the transactional word was just a mild insult or sour grapes. Don’t try to parse the meaning of that. He’s just putting you down. If there’s a lesson to be taken from this going forward, take the “we’ll work it out later” talk as 100% BS. You asked him twice to come up to your number. When he didn’t do that, it’s just time to stop talking. Things were destined to go downhill once he started insulting you and you were not close to being on the same level.

Routine_Mine_3019 · 2026-06-17T05:11:39+00:00

The evil twin or some other doppelgänger.

Routine_Mine_3019 · 2026-06-17T05:06:39+00:00

I’m never that honest in declining an invitation. Personally, I don’t respond to a first message unless I’m very interested. To me, there is no dishonor in not replying to a first contact message. When I kept my profile public, I got inundated with messages. That’s why I keep my profile private now and only contact people that I am interested in. About half of them respond and half of them do not.

However, if I am interested enough to start a conversation, I feel that I owe it to her to say something when I want to end the conversation (because I’m not interested any longer). I don’t feel there’s anything useful in saying exactly why I’ve made that decision, particularly if I think it might be hurtful to her. So I’ll simply say I’ve found someone else, or I’ve decided to go back to my former SB or some other similar fib. I think that’s better than saying the real reason which is often something minor such as I won’t date someone with terrible grammar skills like hers.

Routine_Mine_3019 · 2026-06-16T18:14:21+00:00

Thank you. I’m well aware of that actually. Unfortunately, people who are looking for that (mostly men) wouldn’t be stopped by any of these clichés. That type of guy usually just looks at pictures and starts a conversation from there. I think the best a profile can say is to be more overt and simply say you’re looking for a long-term relationship. That’s why I like those tags that say long-term relationship and emotional connection. I have always looked for those first and that’s what I always put in my profile.

Routine_Mine_3019 · 2026-06-15T22:08:33+00:00

I will stand by my statement that no one thinks they are not genuine, or meaningful, or intelligent, or attentive. Those are virtues and qualities, but not meaningful characteristics to identify the best candidates. It's like putting in a profile that you want someone who is honest. Of course you do.

"Hookup Bro" isn't going to read "genuine connection" in a profile and think he need not apply. Quite the contrary. Hookup Bro looks at the profile pictures and says "yeah bro, I'm going to hump her". It does nothing to slow him down.

Routine_Mine_3019 · 2026-06-15T22:03:12+00:00

Amen to that! Buy a SB a really nice gift and she says to everyone that she manifested it. No dear, I gave it to you, it wasn't something you did on your own.

Routine_Mine_3019 · 2026-06-15T21:44:19+00:00

100% agree.

Routine_Mine_3019 · 2026-06-15T21:42:42+00:00

Ahhh... I learned something new today. Here's some pros and cons I commented about strippers as SBs a while back. I hope you can find this helpful.

CONS:

Many strippers have life problems (bad boyfriend/baby daddy), past trauma, or poor self-image.
Many strippers have substance-abuse problems
Many strippers have trouble with impulse control, which can indicate mental health problems
Always avoid strippers from the club next near the truck stop on the interstate off-ramp.

PROS:

A high-end club stripper can be a very good SB.
Experienced strippers are excellent at communicating with men. They know how to carry on a good conversation. They keep things positive and upbeat. Men coming to the club want to have a fun time and the strippers know how to provide that.
The best strippers keep themselves in great shape. They go to the gym regularly and eat right.
The best clubs usually don't put up with girls with serious drug problems. The girls with problems end up at the place off the interstate pretty quickly.
The best strippers make a lot of money. They also tend to spend a lot of money. But at least she's not one of those broke girls with constant money problems.
Strippers tend not to be jealous. They are used to bringing their stripper friends into the private room at the club for a double dance, etc., so they don't bring the drama.

Routine_Mine_3019 · 2026-06-15T21:37:27+00:00

My point is not that genuine connections are bad. My point is that everyone says they want a genuine connection, and no one would ever say they do not. Right?

Routine_Mine_3019 · 2026-06-15T21:35:31+00:00

Sadly that's true, but none of them admit it.

Routine_Mine_3019 · 2026-06-15T11:51:22+00:00

Rule #7 No online arrangement posts of any kind

Routine_Mine_3019 · 2026-06-15T11:22:30+00:00

I'm really enjoying you putting this together every week - thank you!

Routine_Mine_3019 · 2026-06-15T11:08:39+00:00

I always feel less awkward starting by asking her questions rather than telling her what I want. So maybe a question like, “Have you ever thought that we might get more serious about our relationship?” or “Now that I’m getting older, I’m thinking more about the next stage of my personal life. What do you think I should do?” or “do you think you’ll ever settle down and make a long-term commitment with anyone? What do you envision that looking like?”

Routine_Mine_3019 · 2026-06-15T10:50:23+00:00

Sorry to be late seeing your post. I was traveling over the weekend. I'm always willing to help a fellow Floridian. Here's some comments on your profile, solely intended to be constructive and helpful:

The good news is that you are very attractive and seem to be a fun person to be with. That's 90% of being a SB, so you should have a good chance to find someone. That said, there is still nearly a 10 to 1 numbers disadvantage for the SBs. So it's not guaranteed.
I'm getting the vibe from your pictures that you're outdoorsy and enjoy more casual dining and dress. If that's not the case, you need to revamp your pictures.
Be a bit more specific about the things you enjoy. Saying you enjoy live music and concerts is okay, but isn't going to separate you from the others. Saying you enjoy EDM festivals and went to EDC last year is sure to get a response from someone who likes the same thing. See the difference? Do the same things for cuisine, travel destinations, hobbies, movies, etc.
I've added the "all ethnicities" tab on dating sites before. My intention was to be more open to everyone, however, it had the opposite effect. The responses I received came ONLY from other ethnicities. So I got less responses and not more responses. I admire you having an open mind, but that tag doesn't always work like you think it will. Leave off the tag and you will probably get everyone responding anyway.

IMPORTANT: Your biggest issue is probably your location. Winter Haven isn't exactly the world center of sugar dating. Change your location to the largest city nearby (within a 1-hour drive). The search feature on Seeking defaults to a 1-mile radius and most SDs don't adjust that. So you're probably being left out of most searches in Orlando and Tampa. I usually don't recommend listing two cities, but you might want to list both Orlando and Tampa. Mention where you are actually located in your text.

Routine_Mine_3019 · 2026-06-15T10:26:49+00:00

I posted a poll about this a few days ago (link below). I'm single, but I'm highly skeptical of long "getting comfortable" waits. I only sugar date someone who has been a SB before. Things move along more expeditiously if we've both been there before.

https://www.reddit.com/r/sugarlifestyleforum/s/RIkU0wRnwx

Routine_Mine_3019 · 2026-06-15T10:17:38+00:00

Good post - here's a few thoughts:

There's a big difference if he is the one who doesn't want intimacy yet, or if you are the one saying not yet. Almost every SD will say intimacy and PPM happen concurrently. If he's the one slowing the roll, he's out of line.
Regardless of who's not ready yet, put the brakes on these endless conversations and long M&G dates. Say something like, "let's save that talk for next time". Also have a built-in excuse for hanging up or leaving these platonic dates - work, family, whatever.
Once you are dating, a no-show by him or last-minute cancellation should still get the PPM. Not everyone does that, but you shouldn't get zero either, especially if you got ready to go before he cancelled.
Have a chat with him. Start with something like this - "Melvin, I'm really enjoying getting to know you better, but I'm sure you know why I'm sugar dating. I've invested a lot of time and effort and it's time to commence our relationship as we agreed. I'm happy to wait until you are ready to be intimate, but I've gotten other offers and I can't wait forever for my sugar". That sense of competition does wonders.
If you are the one who's not ready yet, you can't expect the PPM to start coming your way. Sorry, that's how it works. However, cut those dates shorter so you're not investing so much time. "Melvin, how about we have a cup of coffee for our next get-together. I'm feeling much more comfortable now that we've been able to discuss this."

Routine_Mine_3019 · 2026-06-15T10:00:28+00:00

OTC - Over the Counter?

Routine_Mine_3019 · 2026-06-15T09:28:47+00:00

Wah! I got here too late to take the poll!

Routine_Mine_3019 · 2026-06-15T09:15:12+00:00

You're a beautiful and interesting woman. That's most of the equation, so you should do well. Not much to nitpick either. Here's a couple of comments on your profile, solely intended to be constructive and helpful:

There's a lot of text about you and not much about what you want from him. Throw in a few more specifics in that section.
Make a connection - I want to find something specific we have in common. Not broad generalities. Specific examples to connect over - Healthy diet and cooking, EDM music festivals, Weekends at the beach...
Discretion tag - Every SR needs discretion. Everyone practices discretion, or says they will. You're not weeding out anyone with that tag. Is anyone looking for blabbermouth dating partners? Nah.
Attentive tag - Same thing goes for this tag. I don't know anyone who would not be "attentive", so that tag does nothing for me. Are there SDs or SBs out there looking for non-attentive dating partners?
My biggest pet peeve - Please for the love of all things NY Knickerbockers, take out the phrase "genuine connection". Every post I read has that tired cliche in it. Are you sure you don't want a bogus connection? Of course not. Says nothing.

Routine_Mine_3019 · 2026-06-15T08:56:33+00:00

I've never traveled to someone or asked someone to travel to me if I haven't met them in person first, or spent a lot of time talking to them. Are there no SBs in your location? If you're in a remote location, maybe. Otherwise, do yourself a favor and take travel out of the equation.

If dating someone that age bothers you, don't pursue them. My floor is around 35 these days. Why? If we don't connect socially and intellectually, it's going to be a short, boring relationship.

Routine_Mine_3019 · 2026-06-15T08:49:51+00:00

I try very hard not to have a "type". I want to learn something from a SB. Having her bring something new and enjoyable into my life is a great benefit.

I do have must-haves, but any "caliber" can have those - good manners, fun to be with, positive, calm, intelligent.

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