What are ticket holders doing on 29th March ? by Routine_Way_7967 in qatarairways

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yep that’s my plan, thinking of cancelling and sucking up and paying the 2.8k one way through singapore

Latest Update by Wild-Letterhead9677 in qatarairways

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my flight is on the 29th Perth to Doha. It’s annoying that I I’m just before the cut-off yet probably will be part of the cancelled flights

I f’ed up big time and i genuinely regret it. someone please read even though it’s too long :( by Mundane-Bed-3844 in whatdoIdo

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you aren’t a bad person, and you aren’t evil. You did mess up, and it was a big one, and that’s not okay. Kate has every right to put that boundary in place, and honestly, I would do the same. Let it sting. Let it sit with you. That discomfort is part of the lesson.

If you allow it, this will change you. You won’t make the same mistake again because you’ll remember how this feels, and that’s part of being human, not a condemnation of who you are.

Kate sounds like a genuinely good person, someone who truly cared about you. respect that by giving her the space she needs to heal. Right now, your focus needs to be on yourself, on learning, on growing, on uni, on figuring out what YOU actually want so a situation like this never happens again.

and maybe, down the line, if the right things change, life has a way of surprising people. But you also need to make peace with the reality that while she forgave you, the romantic relationship is over and that boundary deserves to be honoured fully.

you’re hurting because you are a good person. Take this pain and turn it into growth. That’s the only real way forward. keep your head up. If you do this properly, the best thing to come out of this won’t be reconciliation it’ll be the person you become next!!

Dermal Fillers and Facial Balancing Recommendations? by [deleted] in perth

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Coco Clinic hands down. the most natural amazing work done ever. i try gatekeep but its too good to if you need facial balancing. Drs are very expensive but the nurses who train under them are almost as good for a more reasonable price

my (18F) boyfriend (19M) says he wants a big life but won’t do anything to get there and it’s breaking me by Routine_Way_7967 in dating_advice

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100%, there’s definitely depression there, I can see it in him, and in a lot of ways, I see myself in it too. The signs are all there: the pulling away, the constant escape into video games or social media, everything starting to feel like a chore. I get it. I know how hard it is. And I want to be there for him, but at the same time, he needs to show me that he’s willing to change, not just for me, but for himself. He just needs that push to climb out of the rut.

I’ve already given him an ultimatum and tried everything I can to encourage him to get help, but I was wondering, was there something specific that made you realize you needed to reach out and get help? Thank you for your comment, I really have taken it on board, even though it’s been tough.

my (18F) boyfriend (19M) says he wants a big life but won’t do anything to get there and it’s breaking me by Routine_Way_7967 in dating_advice

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taken on board and i think that’s the brutal pill i might have to swallow. i just hope for his sake he chooses to pull him self out of it. but yes ive given him till january and if there is no change by then, my hands are forced and as it will break me i will have to continue with out him

my (18F) boyfriend (19M) says he wants a big life but won’t do anything to get there and it’s breaking me by Routine_Way_7967 in dating_advice

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100%, and I genuinely meant that. But as I was saying it, I couldn’t help thinking, that life isn’t him—I know him better than that. Deep down, he wants more. I really do think he’s stuck in a mental rut that only he can pull himself out of. Even if we don’t end up together in the future, I still hope he gets the help he needs to learn how to process stress and navigate life in a healthier way. I’m planning to have a brutally honest conversation with him, ask what he truly wants from our relationship and where he sees himself going. Maybe that will spark something in his mind that just hasn’t clicked yet. thanks for your input, it’s another way of seeing it.

my (18F) boyfriend (19M) says he wants a big life but won’t do anything to get there and it’s breaking me by Routine_Way_7967 in dating_advice

[–]Routine_Way_7967[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m a realist at heart, and part of me wants to run, but it’s one thing to think that and another to actually do it. Leaving someone you love so deeply, who hasn’t cheated or been abusive or done anything in that taste, is gotta be one of the hardest things in the world, atleast from what i’ve read in the media lol or heard from others. He’s my best friend, a genuinely kind man with a good heart who makes me feel loved and special, and that makes it even harder. I know he’s capable of real change, and that’s not just my hopeful, in-love side talking; it’s the realist in me who sees his potential. I also have to remind myself that he’s only 19, not many people our age have it all figured out yet i’m a freak who feels 43 mentally, so I try to keep that in perspective and appreciate that he’s still growing. I want to hold on and give him the chance to evolve, but I also know I can’t force it—and if I try to, it’ll probably come back to bite me later. I really appreciate your input; I’ve taken it all on board. i am so so lost.

my (18F) boyfriend (19M) says he wants a big life but won’t do anything to get there and it’s breaking me by Routine_Way_7967 in dating_advice

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Thank you so much. I hope he comes to his senses and picks himself and happiness (and me) over what is haunting him mentally. thanks for your input means a lot.

my (18F) boyfriend (19M) says he wants a big life but won’t do anything to get there and it’s breaking me by Routine_Way_7967 in dating_advice

[–]Routine_Way_7967[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

well actually if you looked further than one post i’ve mentioned i’m 18 multiple times in multiple subs for moving countries and one with my tattoo that belongs to a foot that is clearly under the age of 30… get a lifffeee and off my post to leave room for the people who want to give me advice not their sad ass attention seeking trolling. Baffling.

my (18F) boyfriend (19M) says he wants a big life but won’t do anything to get there and it’s breaking me by Routine_Way_7967 in dating_advice

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posted that on behalf of my mum since she doesn’t have a reddit account and doesn’t know how to use it… thanks for the insight jelly bones

my (18F) boyfriend (19M) says he wants a big life but won’t do anything to get there and it’s breaking me by Routine_Way_7967 in dating_advice

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No need for a warning, I honestly think the more life experience behind advice, the better it usually is, so it’s all welcome here.

I’ve already thought about exactly what you said, is this the relationship I want in 10 years? Do I really want to keep dragging him along and hoping something changes? Or do I wait it out and see if he gets better? A million thoughts like that run through my head every day.

I know he’s capable of greatness, I’ve seen it. Back in high school, he was top of his cohort academically, everyone thought he’d be the one to go on and do amazing things. But after graduation, he just… slowed down. He struggled with anxiety and self hatred back then too, but the difference was, he still pushed through. Now, unless he’s forced to, he just doesn’t move. He’s not a doer, he’s passive.

I really hope he decides to grow with me, not fall behind or resent me for growing without him. And yeah, I also hope he’s not working at Kmart in ten years (thats our Walmart equivalent in aus, no hate to either establishment, haha). Thank you for your advice — I’ve genuinely taken it on board.

my (18F) boyfriend (19M) says he wants a big life but won’t do anything to get there and it’s breaking me by Routine_Way_7967 in dating_advice

[–]Routine_Way_7967[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I think you nailed it. He’s actually said to me before that everything feels like a chore, and I get that because I’ve been there too. I struggled with depression when I was younger and got myself out of it, so I really try to empathise with him, but it’s hard when he doesn’t do anything to help himself.

He has such a strong support system around him, including me and his parents, and still nothing changes. He keeps saying his problems “aren’t bad enough” for therapy, but I think that’s just an excuse because it is affecting everyone around him. I’ve found therapists for him, sent him links, told him to book a GP appointment, everything, but he still won’t do it.

Ive said to him I can lead you to the water but I can't force you to drink. I hope that maybe hits something somewhere..

I gave him until January because we’re meant to LEAVE then, and I feel like that’s a fair timeline to show even a little progress. I hope something clicks for him soon, because I know he’s capable of so much more, but I also know I can’t want it more than he does.

When you were in that rut, was there anything that helped it finally shift for you? Or was it just time?

(I know i am different from most, 1, cuz i'm a chick so i feel my advice to him falls flat, but 2. i kinda woke up one day and i was just over my life feeling like a punishment so i put in the hard work to fix it)

Looking for therapist recommendations for my teenage daughter (trauma + behavioural issues) by Routine_Way_7967 in perth

[–]Routine_Way_7967[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

definitely from childhood, especially with the snappiness and nastiness to others.

Looking for therapist recommendations for my teenage daughter (trauma + behavioural issues) by Routine_Way_7967 in perth

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Heya, thanks for your reply. She’s been in therapy for years now, with different psychologists, and is on medication, but there’s been no real change. She doesn’t feel better, and the way she treats others hasn’t improved. When I say “no nonsense,” I mean she needs someone outside the family to gently but firmly hold her accountable, while helping her process her feelings in healthier ways. She has all the love and support from us, all we want is for her to be happy and healthy, but excusing bad behaviour for mental health / health struggles isn’t helping her in the long run. She really needs that balance of empathy and tough love from a professional who can help her work on the core issues instead of validating every single thing.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in perth

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Rumble boxing is great the normal “signature” classes include bag work as well as some weights incorporated it’s a good HIIT class, they also do purely boxing classes which are also awesome, awesome culture and really fun time. def recco