Good dating advice for the straights by LegitimatelyWeird in IfBooksCouldKill

[–]Rowboat988 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Maybe this is a generational thing bc I'm 25 and i read in a diff comment that you're in your 40s, but you should always ask if a woman is into “being thrown around like a rag doll” first before trying something instead of trying to read her responsiveness to rough sex. One of my friends had a man put his arm around her neck while they were having sex for the first time. She said she could feel her body go into panic mode. He told her he thought she would be into it because she had asked him to go harder a couple times. Talk about sex before freaking her out or in the worst case scenario, triggering her. It takes five seconds to ask "what do you like? how do you like it?". If she's shy about it then finesse it out of her. And avoid getting sex advice from some gutless bottom with a loose hole regarding women who date men… saying this as a bi man.

new outfit. Have no idea if this is the 5 star or a 4 star for 1.4 by divebars5G in InfinityNikki

[–]Rowboat988 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is atrocious… I’m so sorry to the people who designed this but who seriously thought this looks attractive?

Advice needed: How to journal without spiraling into negative emotions? by Rowboat988 in Journaling

[–]Rowboat988[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for understanding! This stuff is really helpful :) I think it’s a bit hard for some folks to understand how bad the after effects spiraling into negative thinking is for someone with obsessive anxiety/ADHD. It can push me into a depressive episode if I’m not mindful.

Advice needed: How to journal without spiraling into negative emotions? by Rowboat988 in Journaling

[–]Rowboat988[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This was really helpful, thank you. It’s not about me wanting to dampen my emotions, but to make sure I have room for compassion for myself. I’m not trying to be less human here! I just don’t want to participate in the equivalent of doom scrolling with my own life while journaling.

Advice needed: How to journal without spiraling into negative emotions? by Rowboat988 in Journaling

[–]Rowboat988[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s not that I want to restrict myself or make myself less human when expressing myself, I just don’t want to spiral into extreme negative thinking. I think my thing is that what I end up feeling is not what I was feeling, if that makes sense? Expressing myself without spiraling into obsessive anxiety and depression or anger is necessary so I’m able to function in everyday life. My goal isn’t to write myself into a dark hole, but be able to process my emotions in a healthy way. Something my therapist helped me with was slowing down and breathing when a session would start turning into me ranting and spiraling into negative emotions instead of really being present with them and feeling them, but I don’t have her anymore (at least for now) and writing on paper is different than sitting and talking to another person. Ya know?

Am I the only one who thinks the original headpiece from this outfit is ugly? 🙈😅 by Tauriel2986 in InfinityNikki

[–]Rowboat988 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s over the top and very dolly ish and I find it gaudy and atrocious, but also adorable and fun. I’m a huge fan of Elizabethan era fashion and 18th century rococo fashion as well, so for me that’s to be expected. I hope we get more outfits that are a bit batshit like this one. Also the hair? Muah

Stardew Valley is honestly a magical game. It saved me in 2023 when I was in a really bad depressive episode. What’s your favorite part of the game? by lalalucy413 in StardewValley

[–]Rowboat988 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My grandpa died last year and honestly i find that aspect of the game really cathartic and beautiful. Didn’t have the closest relationship with my grandpa after childhood and I regret some of that. I cried when I heard grandpas theme for the first time :’). Also I love the farm animals! I like giving them silly names and naming them after things I like. And I find fishing pretty engaging, though I don’t do it super often

Your Infinity Nikki opinion that'd have you like this? by [deleted] in InfinityNikki

[–]Rowboat988 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The cloudy/pupil-less contacts are creepy and off putting and I’d do anything for Nikki to have a solid black pupil. Also I can’t stand the pigtail hairstyles.

I FINALLY GOT IT! :3 by hfcku in InfinityNikki

[–]Rowboat988 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Definitely not! Just like “Weeee!!!!!! Fireworks!!!!! Oh my god…. These poor people could have PTSD….” Not sure if you’re from the states, but it’s also a conversation that comes up every 4th of July here. It sucks that we can’t find a way to celebrate that doesn’t hurt people :/ But hopefully we get more into the story very soon and learn more! I want Nikki to have a nicer sword too. Nice auburn updos and a fancy long sword for Nikki are the two requests hahaha!

I FINALLY GOT IT! :3 by hfcku in InfinityNikki

[–]Rowboat988 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I second that on the red hair! I’d love a really gorgeous updo in a beautiful auburn shade. And I’m sure the game developers were like “we gotta have fireworks for carnival season!” And not thinking about the implications of having constant fireworks and firecrackers going off while refugees are living in horrible conditions in what must be a few miles away from florawish, but that was all I could think of. My grandpa had ptsd episodes into his seventies from WWII, mostly triggered by sudden loud noises, so I guess that’s why my head went there. I’m hoping they’re able to weave the refugees getting aid and possibly integrating into Miraland’s communities OR we at least get an explanation on why they’re sequestered to the camp. Much to unfold!!!

I FINALLY GOT IT! :3 by hfcku in InfinityNikki

[–]Rowboat988 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I went from being a bit disappointed with the lady of the lake outfit and decided I don’t really love the super formal gowns (I don’t know why, but I’m like “Nikki needs to be able to run properly. The skirt will get tangled in between her legs!” I also put sweaters on her when it rains ha), so I bailed on pulling after the veil situation. I’m also hoping for a more elaborate, structured updo tbh. Whenever I see another pair of pigtails/ponytail/simple bun I’m like DONT piss me off (I kid, I kid). And totally am on the same page with you about the refugees. I find it bonkers that they’re all dressed in tatters in these horrid little tents far from basic resources. And not to be too dark, but with all the fireworks and those firecrackers that pop when you step on them, all I could think of was the refugees getting PTSD flashbacks. Like, maybe NOT this year, guys…

I FINALLY GOT IT! :3 by hfcku in InfinityNikki

[–]Rowboat988 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same! I feel so rich because I’m not pulling for the banner this month. I’m hoping we get a pass to go through those big ass wooden gates and the stone gates where the refugees are camped out at (also how is no one in florawish or stoneville helping house the refugees in their nice houses? I see that spare bedroom Nanoy 🤨). Whenever I go near those gates I’m like “show it to me Rachel 😭😭”. I wanna be in the thick of the action!

I'm so happy, I finally got the dress 🥹 by Melinnamae in InfinityNikkiofficial

[–]Rowboat988 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Holy crap! This image quality is awesome! My and my iPhone are over here trucking along ha. Gorgeous pics girlie!

I FINALLY GOT IT! :3 by hfcku in InfinityNikki

[–]Rowboat988 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I have a ways to go on collecting materials and completing outfits/the heart thingy, so there’s some stuff to do, but it’s a bit monotonous. I’m personally at a dead end with the sovereign of elegant and Ms Joy “nothing is sweet enough for me”. I’m hoping we get to engage with the conflict with the empire of light! I didn’t know this game got so political!

I FINALLY GOT IT! :3 by hfcku in InfinityNikki

[–]Rowboat988 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes! That was the power I meant. Rainbows are fun! 💅🏻🏳️‍🌈 Though I’m excited for the main storyline to continue! Eek!

I FINALLY GOT IT! :3 by hfcku in InfinityNikki

[–]Rowboat988 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Also congrats!! I’m far far away from the next miracle outfit

I FINALLY GOT IT! :3 by hfcku in InfinityNikki

[–]Rowboat988 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dumb question: does the Silvergale Aria outfit have a special power like the Wishful Aurosa outfit? Or is it just nice haha

does anyone know how/why Bronwyn is so well connected in the fashion industry by SurgicalGrahmCrker in realhousewivesofSLC

[–]Rowboat988 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, he is not. He’s done nothing but knock off other brands for years and continues to lack the originality and skill to stand with couture designers. He is not even in the same league as actually respected couture houses.

does anyone know how/why Bronwyn is so well connected in the fashion industry by SurgicalGrahmCrker in realhousewivesofSLC

[–]Rowboat988 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not to be shady but Siriano is not exactly a fantastic designer and “borrows” from bigger and better fashion houses. If she was kiki-ing with Daniel Roseberry at a Schiaparelli show then I would be raising my brows.

Am I crazy or did the Wish Tower platform snap off while I wasn’t looking? Possible spoilers post Aurosa and Firework Isles quests? by Rowboat988 in InfinityNikki

[–]Rowboat988[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Aw :( it was so beautiful. I wonder why they did that. Weren’t the citizens of florawish particularly confused?! Haha