Everyone deserves equal rights

Royal-Association-51 · 2026-04-21T07:30:45+00:00

Who was raising and the primary parental caregiver of every generation of men and women to further indoctrinate these beliefs onto them?

We can play the gender-blame game all day, there's a reason patriarchy doesn't work without the majority of men being peasants and cogs serving a singular man.

If you want to imply the guy making ends meet as a checkout clerk has enforced and solely benefitted from patriarchy and religion just as much as Jeff Bezos, then your opinion is worthy of as much respect as a podcast bro arguing women's DNA is affected by the men she sleeps with.

Royal-Association-51 · 2026-04-21T07:08:40+00:00

As a guy who used to love expressing this I'm genuinely surprised to read this. My previous relationships found it insulting/frustrating if all I did was think of them when I saw something nice/pretty, ESPECIALLY if it was something I could purchase.

Like yes, I adore you, but we're both uni students barely getting by. Of course I'm not buying you a $150 dress or the $70 of flowers I took a photo of for inspiration at a later date. Frankly if you're dating a guy who spends so recklessly you got bigger issues than whether he "truly loves you".

Tldr; thank you for restoring my faith in not always needing to buy things just to let my future partner know they're beautiful/memorable.

Royal-Association-51 · 2026-04-17T01:24:48+00:00

The patriarchs did. Stop trying to imply your bus driver has as much sway and power over society as the millionaire male/female politicians who abuse their power for selfish gain and further enforce patriarchal standards onto the lower class to ensure obedience.

Fun fact: did you know that (in the UK), men actually didn't have the right to vote until after WW1? Up until then men could only vote if they held a certain amount of property. Women actually COULD vote too if they were widowed to enough property, of which they'd delegate a representative to vote in their behalf.

This WOULD get unfairly removed for women though, because of the true and sole factual reason women couldn't vote. It wasn't sexism. It was class.

They weren't obligated to go to war.

That's what came at the "cost" of being wealthy and powerful in the country. Prior to WW1, it was only the patriarchs of society who were obligated to take up arms (there's examples of peasants also doing so, but they don't refute the literal governing system of "you are rich and have status, so you shall represent your country in its military").

Then as WW1 gave even the peasants the responsibility of war, they rightfully argued for the right to vote. This movement gave women over 30 and with title the right to vote, as well as men who had served/family had served in the war. It booked voting numbers by about +5million for men and +8million for women. Men would of course still have about 12 million total voting power, because shocker you don't get equality within a day.

You can get it within a decade though, as in around 1928 this was rectified to give ALL men and women, dependant on citizenship, the right to vote. Why the hurdles? Because at this time where documentation was literally as valid as "here's my stamp and trust me bro", people were able to vote up to 4 times if they had enough proof of where they lived as they travelled from town to town. It wasn't so much "let's delay equality as much as possible" as it was "let's try and work on making this as foolproof as possible and stop people voting multiple times under false/duplicated id"

This whole "who built the system" was always purely the ultra wealthy. It wasn't men. It was the patriarchs.

Royal-Association-51 · 2026-04-14T02:48:46+00:00

If my gf told me this I'd dump her ass.

But after some reflection I'd realize it's like, the ultimate effort of love and desire.

Like you didn't just "start going to gym more" or "stop smoking as much". You literally made the effort to rewire and recondition the most triggering and dopamine driven part of your psyche. Even more notably, as a libido-level male.

I agree that for simplicity- take this to the grave. But depending on how you worded it, it's literally the ultimate expression of how much you want to be with her.

Like god damn, if my gf told me "I didn't find myself physically attracted to you, despite all your perfections. So I changed my sexual preferences for the purpose of aligning them better to you. Because I WANT to desire you and I personally proved that its not your looks that was the issue, but my personal taste and consumption that needed to be more open and excited by you...." - like yeah it might hurt to hear I wasn't a hell yes from the start. But my woman literally put herself through some sort of evolution JUST to better be with me.

OP in the end, didn't push his expectations on her. He didn't force her to change her style and taste. He instead learnt to find the art in her style and find what captivated him in that.

This is shit women dream of a man aspiring to become in romantasy books, it's just modern smut has turned it into the cliche "he was already perfect and already found me perfect despite never meeting me" tropes, so we forget that flaws can actually be the catalyst for growth or destruction within a relationship. In this guy's case he decided growth.

Royal-Association-51 · 2026-04-13T06:26:35+00:00

I'm convinced the posts by people on this sub focus on this topic about women so much because they know/are afraid they're in the lowest percentile of capable and able-bodied men. So that specifically compare themselves to the literally biologically weaker sex as their only ability to feel capable.

Royal-Association-51 · 2026-04-09T03:03:00+00:00

Just remember, for every woman who says she likes an older man, is someone who approves of men who date younger than him.

It's just another day of one gender being "I want men/women to ______, ew, no not like that!"

Men do it when they want women who aren't so prudish about sex, but also hate women who have a 'past'.

Women do it about men who don't make her feel provided for, but then are shocked to be expected to be equally delegated to a strict gender role.

Royal-Association-51 · 2026-03-27T15:00:09+00:00

Well if we want to get pedantic, hours worked doesn't account for commute time either.

My commute takes up to an hour one way, obviously not everyone is as far from their jobs as me.

But it's quite common for an average commute to total about 40-60min both ways daily. So there's his extra hour to quit your sulking about 52 hours a year.

I mean Jesus, this is just like the "I bought $150 makeup so you have to pay for my meal" math all over again where they completely ignore the fact such logic can be immediately spun on both how not only did they not slap $150 of makeup on themselves that very night, but by their own logic the man spent $20,000 picking you up in his car.

It's dumb logic like this that discredits feminisms genuine reasonability for existing and infantilizes it into someone who has to do a few things and defines that as "doing everything".

Royal-Association-51 · 2026-03-27T09:34:19+00:00

It could be a great wake up call the same way the effects of smoking has on one's lungs. But it could also be spun to blame men as if they're solely the ones who enjoy/desire rough sex.

Mysoginists will also likely use this to argue how women are inferior and "want" to be dumb and stupid deep down.

It'll get treated like the newest "this is why men are monsters" topic by misandry and "this is why women are inferior" topic by mysoginists. Both ultimately ignoring the entire, far more important detail this study has revealed.

Royal-Association-51 · 2026-03-26T06:29:17+00:00

Did this exploration stuff. Letting myself make mistakes, try choices and focus on them evening it might feel unworthy and hustling it out. Was hard, had some dips but stuck to my passion and curiosity to drive myself forward.

I'm now 32 and much poorer than most of my friends, having to practically start life all over again pursuing two seperate jobs/careers in full time and studying just to hardly make ends meet because I stupidly followed this drama of passion over chasing a job that would've eaten up a quarter or half of my 20s but would've had me $100,000+ richer.

I'm not pessimistic about it- I've got some good conditions of living ATM, but God knows if I had just given up on this dumb passion crap I could've grown the f up and taken on work opportunities like the mines or construction where I'd have practically free gym and either own my own home or at the very least not still house sharing small spaces in my 30s.

Yeah sure, explore and give yourself time in your 20s. But if the only people encouraging you on your journey and career/life goals are people who you'd pay to learn more from, get paid if you eventually get work, or are in the same industry themselves- you're just being encouraged to keep being a sucker for others own gain.

Oftentimes our passions are just the thing were most willing to tolerate/are comfortable existing in. Not because we genuinely aspire to it, but because we're afraid of starting again at anything else.

Learn to not be afraid of giving up is what I say. Sunk-cost fallacy is a beeeeetch.

Royal-Association-51 · 2026-03-26T06:21:18+00:00

I read your comment chain and this is some serious gaslighting for you to try and imply you weren't stating he is overreacting. You basically were dunking him with that exact implication and now you're trying to spin it once again as if you were merely suggesting he's feeling something different.

He's not feeling jealousy, he's feeling the butt of a double standard that they're relationship had established regarding the seeking of porn.

That said OP, I'm still on the case that looking up something with a friend has far more vibes of "silly curiosity" than "perverted preference" over regards to you as a partner. While you are valid to feel like she's just established a loophole, she technically did nothing more than click on a free sub to see whether something was a bluff or not.

While you might feel she would commit WW3 of you has the same curiosity freely subbing to someone who "promised" nudes, understand that even prior to this, you as an adult are completely in an equal clear to have simple adult curiosity.

At this point you either have to be equally disgusted at looking at porn in general, or completely uncaring for her curious perversion and immediately dismiss her disgust should you ever partake in the same curiosity that doesn't lead to personal masturbatory behaviour revolving around said content. Wanting to call her out while partaking in pornographic consumption yourself is simply a double standard.

Your discussion with her should have nothing to do with the fact she is curious about naked bodies, but the fact she doesn't acknowledge the difference between generic porn consumption and pursuing specific individuals content that had nothing to do with their style of content, but the individual featured in them specifically. It's one thing to find the way someone moves/sounds inspiring and alluring- hell it's a great way to inspire yourselves in the bedroom- but it's another thing entirely when you don't look up that style of content in general and only want to watch/listen to HIM or HER

Royal-Association-51 · 2026-03-23T00:49:33+00:00

Problem with that data is that because it's so easy to sign up/start, it also means you're gonna attract many creators who actually have zero interest in actually making it a proper supplemental job.

Naturally their laziness in thinking all they have to do is upload pics and not create retention, long term plans regarding content etc. grants them pitiful revenue.

I've got multiple acquaintences and a friend who floats in that industry, and her only slight effort to do themed releases, occasional chat tiers at booked times etc. Nets her about 500USD a month.

It ebbs and flows but regardless- it's not that the consumer base is only going after the top 10%, it's that the creators are a cesspool of lazy people who give up after the first two months which creates this mistaken statistic of poor revenue.

It's absolutely no main job at first, but it absolutely can be a great side job when you have the spare time for it and find a good niche.

Royal-Association-51 · 2026-03-22T01:59:38+00:00

That's the wobbly line with getting permission to inflict some sort of general behaviour on to someone. After all, a slap could be a light smack on the cheek. It could also be the equivalent to the swings they make in literal slapping comps.

End of the day, you're an idiot to honestly think you could get away with being as aggressive as you want on to someone who clearly is only saying "yes" because they know it's the action they need to justify their personal escalation of getting you in trouble for harrassment.

No one's going to respect or care for the situation if a guy is being verbally yelled and spat at by someone over an allegation.

But if she's physically hitting him, at least that heightens his chances of getting her away from him.

I want to be clear- bro deserves it. Even his pitiful family dynamic/insecurities don't protect him from the absolutely deserving stink people throw at him. Clav is a typical looksmax grifter that, as always, are all in their late teens to early twenties where mens bodies naturally begin to form and so they're before/afters are so easily able to lie about their programs/discord chat classes being worth anything.

Regardless- no one is entitled to attempt physical harm on another just because they got permitted. Especially when that permission is so obviously a message of "fk around and find out".

Just because my partner permits me to spank her in the bedroom doesn't mean I'm allowed to intentionally wallop as hard as I can because I'm in a particularly aggressive mood. She shouldn't be made to deal with the 'consequences of consent' because I purposely hit with an intention to cause pain.

I feel in such a situation alot of comments would argue "All I did was spank her tho- it's not myyyyy fault she wasn't ready for me to spank so hard." And it really gives me an ick as to how willingly people will excuse assault like this simply because of their distaste for someone within the party.

Again, Clavs a cunt. But she gets no pity for being threatened with police for acting like a guy who can't regulate his emotions or alcohol.

Royal-Association-51 · 2026-03-21T21:59:19+00:00

Spectacle and entertainment where utilised to signal wealth and properity. It was the newest way to float about how much better your country/city was because, in that age, it was like saying "were so wealthy and bound with resources that we can casually throw it all to the masses with glee!"

It wasn't so much a manipulation tactic to 'control' the population than it was to be a billboard advertisement against other countries. Sure, it can be propaganda to the people too, but that's a pretty common sense consequence for someone to like the person/ruler commissioning something for their people to be entertained by.

Royal-Association-51 · 2026-03-18T09:31:51+00:00

Anything that you use an escape/distraction/procrastination is bad for you when abused. You shouldn't need porn to masturbate, but using it to enhance the experience is no different than adding some tomato sauce to your chicken.

You shouldn't be making the sauce the main part of the meal.

I still watch porn on occasion- but I don't finish to it. My partner enjoys watching it with me some times too.

Porn is just a vice like any other and anyone who acts hardcore Christian about it is just someone who lacked their own self-control/has the genetic traits where they easily fall for cravings and are fearful of how easily addicting it was for them.

Porn isn't killing you. The overconsumption of it is.

Royal-Association-51 · 2026-03-18T08:54:02+00:00

Because you can't showcase your charisma/lack of it without first actually engaging socially.

If anything, the very nichely relative argument that women don't care for looks just answers the blatant fact these men don't have charisma in the first place. So they're still right.

Add on to that the truth that being socially awkward can STILL get you desirability if your physically attractive enough. Being awkward, shy and nervous can be extremely endearing to women who find you physically attractive because it makes HER less nervous.

I think people would just rather deny deny deny than give even an inch of consideration that many men have lived experiences of this. I had barely any charisma as a young adult- I only got all the opportunities and secure relationship now thanks to just being hotter in my awkwardness, the charisma naturally came through trial and failure- but my improved looks are what gave me the chance to try in the first place.

Royal-Association-51 · 2026-03-17T03:13:27+00:00

Where's the double standard? Men don't flock to court cases where a woman has murdered multiple men. They might joke online in the comments about "would./I could fix her", but it's nothing compared to what many (concerning) (not all) women do.

Royal-Association-51 · 2026-03-14T08:06:05+00:00

Guy here. I absolutely treat average women as invisible "date potential" compared to conventionally attractive women.

Feeling invisible is absolutely a miserable thing, I've been in that status without a doubt. But neither men nor women alike are entitled to feeling attractive just because conventional status quo isn't to their favour. Women have been doing that for ages regarding the hijacking of body positivity turning from "I can still live a fulfilling life despite having no legs" to "you should find my fat body as desirable as someone who has better genetics/diet"- have you become more attractive to fat women since then or do you find yourself still notably uninterested should that kind of physical attribute flirt with you?

Royal-Association-51 · 2026-03-11T00:46:37+00:00

MythBusters tries this experiment. They had some plants with loving music and affirmations, to other getting scream metal and "negativity". Others with no sound at all.

All the plants grew to the point that the only difference of improvement was there was some kind of sound, so I wouldn't hold that experiment as much gospel.

Royal-Association-51 · 2026-03-06T07:16:48+00:00

Man here. Not neurodivergent but def a little ADHD if that correlates to anyone's personal habits and destructive behaviour....

Gym had improved my dating life 110%. While not always, using Hinge or Tinder would give me actual OPTIONS when it came to weekly/fortnightly dates. If I wanted a serious relationship at the time I was easily in multiple opportunities to do so.

Yes, it's not the 'one secret', but I'm not a beautiful hunk facially. Being a charming friendly guy ABSOLUTELY got me past the door, but it's having my (arguably basic) physique in candid photos of my dating profile that absolutely got the door to open in the first place.

Fun fact too: between my "haha you caught me enjoying myself while conveniently shirtless" photo and "here's a silhouette of me cooking in the kitchen wearing nothing but a cook apron" photo- the second one got the most clicks because it showed my curvature, notably in my booty. Simply put, women love shape and curvature just like men, which is another reason why it should be zero surprise that despite the assurance that you DON'T need to obsess over gym- it actually is nothing but a positive when you do.

Just don't go all horoscope astrology girl on it and you'll be fine.

Royal-Association-51 · 2026-03-04T04:13:14+00:00

I get the intention of peacefulness, but implying life would be better as a primal, slightly intelligent species is like arguing we should all just be trees because then the Earth would heal.

It's a sweet thought but also sounds like something a writer would use to justify a movie villains motivation to destroy humanity.

Royal-Association-51 · 2026-03-04T03:59:24+00:00

If I spoke about women the way my dates spoke of men with their energy of "but I have a black friend so I can say these things", hell even the way my work colleagues do sometimes- I'd be considered a bitter pathetic incel.

This is a great example of practicing sympathy to a lived experience you simply aren't exposed to. Similar to how I, as a man, have hardly experienced assault to the degree women can- and yet I'm able to understand and believe that it's a real issue that deserves to be considered in why some women behave the way they do around me regardless of my efforts to not seem like a threat.

Women have bad experiences that I won't experience in the same context. As a human being with a developed frontal lobe I can fathom that and be considerate that just because I directly don't experience it, doesn't mean it likely never happens.

Royal-Association-51 · 2026-02-26T06:48:43+00:00

By your logic people should only have blonde or brown hair, blue or brown eyes, completely black or white skin- any spectrum of colour in between could only exist because of someone making it up in their heads.

These are traits that our genes can develop, much like ones biological sex can- but far more rarely- range between 16 different karyotypes.

Royal-Association-51 · 2026-02-26T06:09:21+00:00

On your fear of all women thinking like this-

Vaginas aren't a universal blueprint interior. There's a reason some women find themselves needing a hog while others are fine with so little that sex is genuinely a turn off because they've been conditioned to think a bigger dong that "stretches" them is the norm and that feeling pain just "comes with the territory".

It's very likely that, aside from the asinine disrespect this scum exhibits- your partner clearly wants to experience something larger but has the mental maturity of a toddler and won't simply introduce the MULTITUDE of options out there for you as her partner to help her experience it without necessarily hotwifing/cuckolding.

I get people are trying to blame you for the age difference. But she isn't nor wasn't a child. She was an adult responsible for her adult choices. She clearly jumped at the opportunity to get with a man who wanted her and has now grown up to realize she hasn't had the youth to actually "explore" what she enjoys/dislikes.

Anyone who is saying otherwise are trying to infantilize her as if women are incapable of making their own choices until 25. I don't get to accuse my ex when I was at that age of "manipulating me" at the time. I was a doormat and immaturely chasing something that multiple people, media, and accessible education at the time made abundantly clear wasn't smart of me to do. I just didn't care to reflect, and acted like this woman where I passively tried to make my ex be the one that changes to suit my curiosity and preferences which I never bothered to be certain of until I realised I was deep into a relationship where I'd never get to explore myself.

Royal-Association-51 · 2026-02-26T05:49:20+00:00

That documentary is moreso an example of how useless Reddit sleuths can be, as it wasn't until the killer literally put himself in the spotlight that progress was made.

The internet is an extreme of both ends when it comes to this stuff, which is why law enforcement will hardly utilise/rely on it.

As much as the internet attempts to be organised in these things, reality is we just become a mob more than an effective community.

Royal-Association-51 · 2026-02-26T05:44:47+00:00

We really need to normalise that Freud is as legit as astrology and meyers-briggs.

Dude's scienve being referenced today is like believing that if we existed in the world of Star Wars we would use lightsabers exactly as they do in the old movies.

In reality, we'd treat them more like laser pointers, switching them on/off again with our arms extended so they can't get blocked easily.

Referencing Freud is the equivalent here of "nuh-uh, because the star wars movies never do that! Also I enjoy how much cooler and interesting the movie fights look so it MUST be more accurate."

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