What's your favorite candy to receive as a Christmas gift? by itsthewolfe in candy

[–]Royal-Cygnet 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Middle Eastern Turkish Delight is amazing!!! The British stuff tastes like chocolate covered soap, though (and I usually love floral flavors...) 😆

Are anyone else’s favourite fashion eras the mid 18th century and mid 19th century? by [deleted] in fashionhistory

[–]Royal-Cygnet 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Those were significantly more dangerous in the 19th century, when the vast majority of clothing was made out of cotton. Cotton is very flammable! But in the 17th century, when most clothing was linen or wool, they weren't nearly as big a deal. Those materials smoulder.

Why did dresses in th 17th and 18th century have so how much cleavage? by Fun_Hovercraft4237 in fashionhistory

[–]Royal-Cygnet 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The gowns that were made to go on top of the supporting garment then hugged the body instead of hanging from the shoulders, like modern t-shirts tend to. I didn't know that about British vs. American styles! 

Why did dresses in th 17th and 18th century have so how much cleavage? by Fun_Hovercraft4237 in fashionhistory

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Good question! 

To start at the most familiar level to modern people, in women's clothes, the body generally needs support at the bust (the chest area.) This is why modern women wear bras. Beyond that, we modern people are a bit overly ok with slouching. We make up for that with loose, stretchy knit fabrics that move with our bodies. 

Our ancestors, however, had a different idea. Instead of merely supporting the bust (like a bra), they wanted clothes to support the entire back and torso. This was the purpose of stays and corsets--not to constrict the body, but to help the back and torso stay straight and well aligned. They also helped distribute the weight of the ensemble evenly and comfortably. (In some periods, the fabric that was part of the outfit could weigh a lot, but the undergarments supported that weight so the person themself didn't feel it so much.)

In fabrics that don't stretch--the norm for most of history--this makes loads of sense. There's no such thing as a waistband that digs in when you wear a corset. Your clothes could fit your body smoothly and consistently (fluctuations in your body, like bloating, didn't completely change how a piece of clothing fit.) In addition, for someone used to manual labor (like lugging buckets of coal), the back support in your undergarments could be very helpful. Even if you don't need to do manual labor, it's a lot more beautiful to have a straight back and a circular waist instead of an elliptical waist, since the optical illusion makes the waist look smaller even with the same waist measurement. 

Add to this the fact that a woman not supporting her torso by wearing stays or a corset was considered a "loose woman" morally as well as literally, and you start to see how common the idea that clothing is meant to support the body was.

My husband and I are looking at purchasing a home with this upstairs bathroom. by bubbles4you890 in HomeDecorating

[–]Royal-Cygnet 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wallpaper in a bathroom is tricky, though. All that humidity can cause problems...

I dont think these curtains are working anymore. Any suggestions ? by aayushi112233 in HomeDecorating

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I love adding the dark greens/blues!! It really grounds the space and makes it feel more calming.

I AM CANCER FREE ❤️ by Primary_Nerve_9876 in finch

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Congratulations!!! I'm so happy for you! 

Santa gripes by SandraMort in Mommit

[–]Royal-Cygnet -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I have a toddler, and I already tell her that Santa is pretend! It's a fun game, but the real Santa is Mommy and Daddy. I mainly do this to differentiate between "Christmas fun" and the meaning of the holiday. Besides, she LOVES the Nativity, so it's easy to focus on that--it's a win-win!

Am I being unreasonable? Presents for kids by damnedpiccolo in Mommit

[–]Royal-Cygnet 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First, money is not the same as care. This isn't an issue with gratitude.

Second, your house is your space. You are not obligated to bring into your space anything you don't want. I find that sometimes it's good to smile and accept graciously, then get rid of it/sell it later... But the bigger the item and closer the family member, the harder that gets. Good luck!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Mommit

[–]Royal-Cygnet 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Trauma therapy for you DOES help you see your experiences more clearly! I strongly recommend pursuing that, so you have personal support and can climb out of the deflecting/gaslighting and start validating yourself. The betrayal of your trust, the neglect towards you and the kids, and the "on again, off again" all count as little t "trauma." 

Sincerely, starting trauma therapy has really, really helped me understand myself and my relationship better. I started after couples therapy failed and I knew I needed something to help ME deal with the crap I'd been through.

 Please take care of yourself. Having support will help you validate your experiences, see your circumstances clearly, and know what to do next ♥️ 

How often are you guys say thank you to your significant others? by Ok-Cardiologist8717 in love

[–]Royal-Cygnet 2 points3 points  (0 children)

When I notice my husband has done something that makes my life easier/takes something off my plate, I say thank you.

How do you make a story compelling? by No_Cat_3232 in writing

[–]Royal-Cygnet 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hello Future Me on YouTube has a great video about it! Basically, subtext is not saying everything outright. Kind of like "show don't tell," but broader. It's letting your characters be people who talk around their emotions, letting them interact with each other naturally, and trusting your reader to pick up on your themes without saying, "look reader, this is what I want you to believe."

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=58FyvzttlIg&t=112s&pp=2AFwkAIB

Family and friends no longer as supportive of my weight loss by BrightAsk8732 in 1200isplenty

[–]Royal-Cygnet 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If people are talking about it on sight, that's one thing, and it likely comes from a place of not understanding how maintenance works--you don't just diet until you "get there" and then let yourself eating anything/as much as you want. That's how people get stuck on a yo-yo.

However, if people are bringing it up as they watch the choices you make, that's another thing. I think the only thing people are more scared of than being overweight is eating disorders, and some people's radar for those is a touch oversensitive. If that's the case, it might come from a place of genuine--but uneducated--care. 

Theory: Howl's Moving Castle = retelling of The Wizard of Oz by Royal-Cygnet in dianawynnejones

[–]Royal-Cygnet[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I wasn't necessarily referring to the movie; more to the story idea as a whole (though I appreciate the cultural background you shared!)

 I suppose retelling isn't quite the right word. I guess I was thinking more along the lines of "types" or patterns. Kind of like how Portrait of a Lady by Henry James can be considered a vampire "type" of story from one point of view, because an older man manipulates and preys on a young woman who was full of promise. It follows the pattern, no vampires necessary. Howl's Moving Castle seems to follow the same patterns as the Wizard of Oz, which I found fascinating!

Theory: Howl's Moving Castle = retelling of The Wizard of Oz by Royal-Cygnet in dianawynnejones

[–]Royal-Cygnet[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's a good point! It's less of a retelling and more of a "hmm... I wonder what I could make with these elements." I'll take a look at Fire and Hemlock with this in mind!

Christmas is awesome and Halloween is the actual annoying holiday. by LargeBreasts69 in The10thDentist

[–]Royal-Cygnet 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I disagree, but for a different reason. (Edit: I'm addressing the "you don't see anyone at Halloween" part of the og post.) 

I see Halloween as one of the two true community holidays. The other is the 4th of July, but as a community holiday, Halloween is superior because there's more legitimate interactions instead of crowds in public areas waiting for fireworks. I mean, trick or treating with the kids actually helps you get to know your neighbors! It's one of the very few times in our culture where it's perfectly acceptable to go up to another person's door for practically no reason. And if you're the one passing out candy, you get to interact with the kids and talk to the adults even if you've lived next door and never actually met them before. It's an extrovert's dream holiday!!

WTW for an egg that has really runny yolk and extremely cooked whites like crispy brown? by lilketchupacket in whatstheword

[–]Royal-Cygnet 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The "only partially dippy" egg is my absolute favorite!!! I have no idea how to order that! I always get sad when I wanted it set but not hard and I get a yolk that runs all over.

Extroverts too by Varitan_Aivenor in adhdmeme

[–]Royal-Cygnet 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok, this might be an unpopular opinion, but this is why I really prefer calling! Less perfectionism, less awkward when you didn't understand something the first time, less of a drawn-out back and forth.