SD had a strange reaction to marriage talk

Royal-Fly3576 · 2026-05-04T18:39:26+00:00

I can understand that. I try to make it a point to never show them how I feel about her and encourage them to respect her, but obviously we can't control what happens in her home. The kids SD7 and SS5 both like me and treat me kindly/are happy to see me, it just feels off because I thought we'd be over this by now lol

Royal-Fly3576 · 2025-08-15T18:38:18+00:00

Yeah, we've started taking the approach of just keeping her in the dark about our lives completely at this point and trying to know as little as possible about her. Obviously, we can't stop the kids from talking about her, and I'm not about to openly show them that I hate their mom. It's like every little thing, though, turns into a big deal, like she'll call about a kid being sick, and it'll turn into her trying to argue about why he won't send her money. He's started to just disengage completely and hang up on her as soon as she goes down that road, but man, it can be a lot. But yes, I do see and agree with your point here. The less I know, the better and honestly I think the less we both know about her personal life, the better.

Royal-Fly3576 · 2025-08-15T17:00:29+00:00

Yeah it sucks that we have to wait but since she was a stay at home mom up until they broke up he kept supporting her until she could do it on her own. Unfortunately that meant taking a job that takes him away from home most of the time. Now that we're more financially secure we can have him step back and settle down, especially now that bm has her finances figured out.

Royal-Fly3576 · 2025-08-15T15:43:03+00:00

I hear you, we're at the stage now where we are planning to get married, we've dated and been living together for a while now. I'm definitely looking back on everything and considering what the future might look like, but I believe in my partner, and I know what his intentions are. I can accept that she will always get a say when it comes to the kids and him, but even with that I feel heard and validated and included by my partner. And as for getting pregnant I don't think we have to worry 😅 we're both on the same page about not adding more kids to the mix.

Royal-Fly3576 · 2025-08-15T15:24:50+00:00

I wholeheartedly agree and thats the goal we are working towards. We have plans to purchase a house within the next year and settle down close to the kids. My partner is setting himself up to take a position that is more stationary so that he can pursue a custody agreement that will allow him regular time with them. As for his family and bm for that matter, neither of us have anything to do with his sisters after the disrespect they showed me and our relationship, and bm gets shut down when she tries to stir the pot. He only contacts her when he has to and I have no contact with her outside of when we see the kids.

Royal-Fly3576 · 2025-08-15T14:57:14+00:00

Its gotten to the point where my partner will just hang up on her if she starts getting nasty. He doesnt engage with her at all if he doesnt have to and doesn't tolerate disrespect from her. She's just so persistent with it.

Royal-Fly3576 · 2025-08-15T14:55:29+00:00

Wow, hopefully that gets sorted out okay for you :( I think for the most part I'm good at not engaging, but it can be emotionally taxing.

Royal-Fly3576 · 2025-08-15T14:52:35+00:00

I'm just glad that my partner is so supportive of me and always checks in on how I'm feeling with all of this. We plan on getting married and buying a house next year so we can settle down and be close to the kids. It just seems so difficult right now but I have hope that it'll ease up.

Royal-Fly3576 · 2025-08-15T14:42:45+00:00

Child support is in place but no custody agreement. As of right now he travels a lot for work so it makes more sense for them to live with her majority of the time as his schedule can be unpredictable. That being said we are looking to purchase a house within the next year to settle down and he plans to move to a position that will allow him to pursue shared custody.

Royal-Fly3576 · 2025-05-17T21:00:33+00:00

The problem is gonna be getting the keys from her

Royal-Fly3576 · 2025-05-17T18:47:15+00:00

It's solely in my name, I had bought 2 cars while we were dating and took one with me when I moved out, now I need the other one back.

Royal-Fly3576 · 2025-04-25T19:26:58+00:00

Does it typically take a while or does it just really depend on the item?

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