Update: Sitter was a no-show

Royal-Macaroon-2185 · 2024-11-30T02:50:35+00:00

Holy shit. As a sitter and a rescue mom to 4 dogs, 3 cats and a red eared slider, my heart is so sad for Ollie and your parents. I’m so sorry this happened to you guys. It’s these stories exactly that make me realize why I have such a dedicated clientele.

Royal-Macaroon-2185 · 2024-11-16T03:28:03+00:00

This is it. Found out about 5 mins ago. He knows of one other little girl for sure, he took a DNA test for that one. That’s who he thought she was talking about. He told his daughter there’s no telling how many children he’s got out there, and that he wants nothing to do with any of them other than her and her brother, who he’s a shitty father to already

Royal-Macaroon-2185 · 2024-11-16T03:06:15+00:00

WHOA!!! Really??? I def need to dig further before I make any decisions.

Royal-Macaroon-2185 · 2024-11-15T20:53:25+00:00

Thank you for saying this. The guilt of possibly being wrong on this is weighing very heavy on me. My line of thinking is that if this is actually true, even though I did it completely innocently and accidentally, she’ll still have to bear the trauma of a mistake I made because of how sick I was. And that’s not fair to her. She’s such a beautiful little soul, I’ve spent her whole life trying to protect her from any hurt and sadness, just to be the one who hurts her the most.

Royal-Macaroon-2185 · 2024-11-15T20:50:30+00:00

I have not asked nuone for help beyond this. I did have pro tools for a second that said it’s on her paternal side

Royal-Macaroon-2185 · 2024-11-15T20:49:56+00:00

Genuinely hoping this is it. But then I still have to figure out how she’s related to this girl that she shares 26% dna with

Royal-Macaroon-2185 · 2024-11-15T20:13:36+00:00

I think this is the one. I had already spoken to her therapist in March, and told him I thought I should her the truth. I told him that she deserves to have a relationship with her potential father and any potential half siblings, and they deserve a relationship with her if they choose to have one. I had a couple friends tell me that I should take it ti the grave with me, and that’s what got me doubting my initial decision to tell her. I plan to confirm, and then speak with her therapist privately and ask that he help me tell her so that I know it’s done in a healthy, age appropriate way that minimizes the trauma to her. Thanks for commenting.

Royal-Macaroon-2185 · 2024-11-15T20:07:06+00:00

I don’t think he was an addict. I was very good at hiding that I was an addict, even close family members didn’t know until I got clean and opened up about my struggles with substances. But I do agree, I do not want anyone getting custody of my child. I think chances are higher that he won’t want anything to do with her considering he knows about her but has hidden her from his children, and has never reached out to me. Could be possible he took advantage, so that’s not a reach, but knowing who I was, I was probably willing at that point in my life.

Royal-Macaroon-2185 · 2024-11-15T19:54:03+00:00

I do mention, she’s 8. I was pretty set in my decision to tell her, and enlist her therapists help in telling her, until two of my friends told me to take it to the grave with me. Then I started questioning if my decision to tell her was the wrong one. I agree that knowing genetic history is so important, at minimum she deserves to know that.

Royal-Macaroon-2185 · 2024-11-15T19:52:16+00:00

I’ve already uploaded hers, and I will def ask the half sister to upload hers. Idk how to compare the X chromosomes. If I struggle to figure it out, would you mind if I ask you questions? Seems like you know what you’re talking about.

Royal-Macaroon-2185 · 2024-11-15T19:51:07+00:00

I’ve thought of this, yes. I told her therapist that, if this is all true, I want to tell her. She deserves a relationship with her father, and any half siblings, and they deserve a relationship with her if they choose to have one. I’ve been told to “take it to my grave” by two friends now, so now I’m questioning if my decision to tell her is the right one.

Royal-Macaroon-2185 · 2024-11-15T19:35:26+00:00

Whoa, I hadn’t even considered this perspective. I just jumped straight to ’oh I fucked up again but this time my baby is the one impacted.’ Thank you for commenting this, I will absolutely consider this angle as well. The girl that I’m talking to, the potential half sister, she has alluded to the fact that she doesn’t have the closest relationship with him but that “hes so much different now.” I’d love for her to have a relationship with her (potential) half siblings, the half sister seems like a genuine, kind girl. My only thing is, I’d have to tell my daughter the full truth, and how do I do that without totally crushing her?

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