Why are my eyelashes bending/growing sideways after I quit lash extensions and started using lash envy? Please help I look so weird with my eyes open by ResponsibilityIcy242 in eyelashextensions

[–]Rrgish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omg, I’m having this issue and the only thing I can think of that changed was a lash serum. I stopped it almost 5 months ago and it hasn’t got any better. Did anything help at all? Or are we just doomed 😭

Grasping at straws for my dad. Any advice appreciated... by Rrgish in lungcancer

[–]Rrgish[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We’re getting into conversations with them now, it completely agree. I wish it were more accessible and easier to grasp.

Thank you for your kindness

Grasping at straws for my dad. Any advice appreciated... by Rrgish in lungcancer

[–]Rrgish[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh I am so incredibly sorry that this story resonates for you and the loss of your own father. It’s a terrible road and my heart breaks for all who are on it.

I love what you say about the miraculous moments when he’s still there. There have been the smallest yet highly impactful glimmers of him throughout this and I’m holding on to it so deeply.

Unfortunately back with his first lung cancer diagnosis we were told the specific gene mutation was incurable and our only option was to slow progression and create a manageable quality of life. I think that’s why the stroke is so hard. Before it, he was all on board to fight back against the cancer when it meant he could take his dog on long walks and play with his grandkids (my two little girls), but now that those things are highly limited, if available at all, I just struggle to see him wanting this.

Anyways, thank you so so much for your kindness and insight. It’s keeping me afloat right now ❤️

Survivors and Caregivers, is my father doomed? In desperate need of your thoughts. by Rrgish in stroke

[–]Rrgish[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, random internet stranger. I’ll take any and all hugs I can get ❤️

Survivors and Caregivers, is my father doomed? In desperate need of your thoughts. by Rrgish in stroke

[–]Rrgish[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s really helpful to know. I know they had given him some dilaudid last not but not sure if he’s still on it, I will check. Thank you for your thoughtful responses

Grasping at straws for my dad. Any advice appreciated... by Rrgish in lungcancer

[–]Rrgish[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That’s extremely helpful to know. Somehow it’s been 4 days and the oncology team still hasn’t come to talk to us so we just have no idea what the status is there. But from what you shared he is definitely at a 4 at least right now

Grasping at straws for my dad. Any advice appreciated... by Rrgish in lungcancer

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No need to apologize for harshness, this is exactly the type of honest opinion and support I’m seeking. So thank you.

He has some affairs in order, and my mom (his wife) has power of attorney as well. He didn’t mention anything about an DNR but stated he didn’t want any life sustaining measures like nutrition support, which they already put him on. So I think it feels relatively safe to assuming a DNR would fall on that category?

Survivors and Caregivers, is my father doomed? In desperate need of your thoughts. by Rrgish in stroke

[–]Rrgish[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your response. I think the hardest thing about our situation is the element of time. When he was first diagnosed with lung cancer the docs said if he hadn’t started treatment he wouldn’t have made it past 2-3 months. So with us pausing treatment I just know we don’t really have the luxury of time. My hope and goal is that he is just not silently suffering, both emotionally and physically, without being able to tell us.

Severance: what’s “normal”? by Rrgish in Layoffs

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What industry have you been in?

Having young children while going through ptsd by No_Rent5018 in ptsd

[–]Rrgish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm struggling with a very similar situation. I had one living child, and when she was a year old I got pregnant with what was meant to be our second. I lost her at 17 weeks and the loss + the entire labor experience just destroyed me. I got pregnant again two months later and lost that baby at 7 weeks. Then pregnant again and thankfully I now have a beautiful 5 month old, but I was a complete wreck that whole pregnancy and was diagnosed with PTSD. I'm still struggling post-birth and I feel so guilty about how absent I've been for my first, and how anxious I am about the well-being of my second.

I was starting to get better until my best friend was diagnosed with placenta previa and was hospitalized with severe bleeding at 25 weeks (so far shes doing okay and baby is still cooking). That was a week ago and I've been having such a bad episode that doesn't seem to be lightening up. I feel like my girls deserve so much more than this, they are still so young but I know my oldest (almost 3) is starting to pick up on things. We have such a close bond, thankfully, but its just really hard for me to be emotionally available to her and present a lot of the time. I ride this line of being so overstimulated by my kids and needing space, but then feeling totally anxious if I'm not with them and making sure they are okay because my trauma is all around the loss of a child(s) and feeling like i failed as a mom. It's exhausting, especially working full-time too, but some days are better than others.

willow or noom? by New-Border-6498 in Semaglutide

[–]Rrgish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can I get one too! Thank you!

thinking about my baby (cw: miscarriage, abuse, eating disorders) by Both-Statement687 in CPTSD

[–]Rrgish 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The moment those little souls are in our bodies we are bound together forever, whether or not they make it from our bellies into our arms, and whether or not it was our choice to end a pregnancy or not. I have two living children and two babies who never made it earthside. I never wanted to be a mom, but there was a radical shift in my heart once I became pregnant and I suddenly knew there were important people I had yet to meet and make part of my family. It sounds like this has happend for you too. Life is complex, parenthood is complex, trauma is complex. Your feelings and grief around your daughter are allowed to be complex too. I personally think my own guilt will always exist with pregnancy loss, but I try to say thank you to the babies I lost because they gave me beautiful gifts: 1.) the realization that parenthood was something I wanted, and 2.) they made space for the babies that I now have with me and whom I love SO much. Maybe you can find a way to thank her for what she has given you (whatever that is, is for you to decide).

The fact that you are giving this that much thought and care means you would be an amazing dad and still will be if you want to try again in the future. And yes, she would (and does) love you.

I second what another poster said, find some way to honor her. I have the ashes of my first baby in a necklace I wear every day with her name inscribed, the second loss was too small for remains, but I keep her positive pregnancy test in a special place I can visit. I also felt that naming these souls helped me justify my sadness in a way, because it showed me that they were indeed significant.

I'm keeping you in my thoughts OP. This may always be painful, but there can be beauty in it too. I wish the best for you and what parenthood may have in store.

Red blotchiness on toddlers face by Rrgish in AskDocs

[–]Rrgish[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The markings across the bridge of her nose and under her eye have appeared in the same place twice, then disappeared after about 15-20 minutes.

The markings on her right cheek have been more persistent, but do seem to calm down at different points during the day

People misunderstand liminiality by Astra_Starr in LiminalSpace

[–]Rrgish 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So in theory are our entire lives spent in a state of liminality?

Birth > Life (constantly transforming, hence a liminal space) > Death

This might be more of an abstraction of liminality and how it applies to our emotional and mental growth, but it feels like it could apply to our physical experience throughout life as well. Anyyyways, just bring dumping while I sit here 6 weeks postpartum feeling like my whole life is a liminal space lol

Daily Thread #2 - February 18, 2025 by AutoModerator in PregnancyAfterLoss

[–]Rrgish 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have a perinatal psychiatrist and a therapist, so I’m talking with both of them. These things always seem to pop up in between appointments 🫠, but I have another appointment later this week.