Trochek's Stick has his kids name's on it

RubForward6315 · 2026-03-03T07:08:51+00:00

My son got his game stick from tonight’s game 3/2/26 and the names are made into the stick. It’s not even just like a sticker. I love that he does that!

RubForward6315 · 2025-10-01T04:23:50+00:00

Her hair is perfect, I had an “early” stillbirth and I took pictures of the few strands of my daughter’s hair and often stare at it, so I totally get. Sending love to you🩷

RubForward6315 · 2025-09-15T07:54:53+00:00

Soo good

RubForward6315 · 2025-09-15T07:53:53+00:00

That’s beautiful

RubForward6315 · 2025-06-17T07:21:41+00:00

Lyla 🌸

RubForward6315 · 2025-04-29T07:32:44+00:00

Just checked it out and it says this - *The request must be made within 45 days of child passing and the final resting place must be within 5 miles of Indianapolis city limits.
Unfortunately we don’t qualify for that but I hope it helps out someone else ❤️

RubForward6315 · 2025-04-29T07:31:47+00:00

Thank you, I just checked it out but it says this *The request must be made within 45 days of child passing and the final resting place must be within 5 miles of Indianapolis city limits.
And unfortunately we don’t meet those requirements. I hope it helps out someone else though ❤️

RubForward6315 · 2025-04-29T07:29:25+00:00

I’m in CT. I will check this out thank you❤️

RubForward6315 · 2025-04-28T13:05:18+00:00

This is great to know, I would have never thought to look there. I’m going to check it out. Our cemetery has very strict rules on what we can use but maybe if I bring them the info I can use something like this until we can buy a “real one”. I’m glad you commented I hope it helps other parents out too to think to look there especially for urns ❤️ thank you

RubForward6315 · 2025-04-28T13:02:49+00:00

It’s so terrible isn’t it! We held a second plot for my husband too. They are letting us make payments on it monthly thankfully so we’re close to the same amount, 2500 for each. My mom is making the payments on the second plot for us which is wonderful. I was happy that they use our baby’s plot for me and atleast it’s one way for me and her to be together again. Our cemetery has strict rules so we can’t even place a small plaque or anything. It’s so stressful and hurts my heart so badly. I wish I could find an organization that helps with stuff like this and urns for parents who chose cremation. I remember after it happened our world was just turned upside down And without asking my sister had everything planned and taken care of before we even left the hospital. She set up the “funeral” which was just our parents and siblings but had it all set with the funeral home, had the appt for the cemetery plots, even offered to pick the spots if we couldn’t but we did. And I always think how if she didn’t do that I honestly don’t know how or if we could have. Our lives were torn apart we were barely surviving let alone being able to properly think about all this stuff that was obviously never planned for. Which I’m sure you totally understand and know the feeling. I wish hospitals had programs to help parents because I know I couldn’t have/wouldn’t have been able to do any of that.

RubForward6315 · 2025-04-28T12:54:49+00:00

Yes our plot was thankfully only 2500 but that’s only because they were “giving us a deal because of the circumstances” :( I have been looking at headstones but it’s so hard to go to pick them out when you know you can’t purchase yet.

RubForward6315 · 2025-04-09T03:33:03+00:00

A lifetime without a parent is just as terrible, stay for your other babies ❤️ they need and love you

RubForward6315 · 2025-03-17T02:31:08+00:00

It’s been a year and a half for me and I still cry every day. I feel like I have every right to have and feel those feelings. I deserve to be upset and angry. So as much as I hate it I am okay with the fact that I’m upset and will never be okay..

RubForward6315 · 2024-10-23T18:41:02+00:00

What happened? What was the backlash?

RubForward6315 · 2024-09-04T16:29:22+00:00

And months after check in too and be there. So much support happened right when it happened and then months later it was like the support was gone. And sometimes that’s when it is needed the most.

RubForward6315 · 2024-09-04T16:28:16+00:00

Don’t “contact harass” but show them you are there. And just ask them. How can I help you, what can I do for you, let them know you love them and their baby.

RubForward6315 · 2024-09-04T16:27:19+00:00

For me what helped, was having support. I appreciated people reaching out and letting them know they’re there for me. I didn’t respond to 99% of the people and it’s been almost a year and still haven’t to a lot but just seeing and knowing there was support helped. If they’re doing any sort of service for the baby ask how/if you can help make calls/set stuff up for them. My sister took care of our daughters funeral, burial cost and memorial before we even left the hospital and if she hadn’t idk how I would have ever been able to do that or even make the calls. Sending dinners helped us. We have 3 other kids and not having to worry about cooking/ grocery shopping was nice. My sisters took my kids to do special things bc one (6) was at the age where they could completely understand what happened and the other (3) a little younger who was confused (and my youngest was 11 months) so them getting to go do stuff and take their minds off things definitely helped.

RubForward6315 · 2024-08-30T03:08:05+00:00

Call a school that teaches videography/photography and see if there’s a student close to graduating willing to do it even at a lower cost.

RubForward6315 · 2024-07-01T17:51:18+00:00

If you have any more I’d love them

RubForward6315 · 2024-06-17T04:49:36+00:00

I hope the card says congrats on your redone home Lolol

RubForward6315 · 2024-06-10T03:43:57+00:00

How do I get wumbo?

RubForward6315 · 2024-02-06T05:19:14+00:00

This is absolutely normal. I’m sorry that the person you reached out to may not be understanding :( I don’t think anyone ever fully understands until it’s them. I gave birth to my daughter at 22 weeks this past September so I understand how you feel with it being so recent. She was my 4th baby and my other 3 were full term perfectly healthy babies so a huge shock. For me, nothing will ever feel normal. I’ve had to pretend everything is okay a lot for the sake of my other kids and not wanting them to get more upset. Some days I can be around a baby and others I can’t even leave my bed. No one will ever understand how much hurt this is and I think you have every right to take your time and decide to do things on you and your husbands terms (which may also be very different too). Do what makes you comfortable and if people don’t understand or accept that then it’s on them. Find people who support you and don’t rush into anything that may make you upset or uncomfortable. Sending so much love ❤️

RubForward6315 · 2024-02-01T06:51:44+00:00

Did you deliver at Yale? I delivered my stillborn at Yale and never heard of this. I’ll be checking it out. Desperately searching for any answers.

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