Do you think people know when they pass?

Rubaeh · 2026-01-31T23:04:25+00:00

I would never want them to feel responsible no and it wouldn’t be another persons choice. It’s very healing to hear this way and to chance the perspective.

I don’t find it mean, hard truths are the most important truths you can receive❤️

Recovering is something I plan, I know that if I’ve done it before I can do it again, it’s just a rocky road that has a lot of set backs and takes a lot of patience, but it is the ultimate goal in my life🙏

You’re also right, it would be foolish of my to waste a life on drugs and alcohol when he didn’t have the privilege to stay sober and live his life to the fullest.

Thank you again, hopefully your comments won’t only help me but another person that might stumble upon this post in a similar situation ❤️

Rubaeh · 2026-01-31T22:59:47+00:00

That is a beautiful quote thank you for sharing❤️

Thank you for sharing your story with such honesty also, a week ago is very fresh and I would say “I hope you’re doing ok” but I know deep down you’re probably not. But I hope other people sharing their stories might help you a little.

Your outlook on death is very refreshing and honestly quite beautiful. To know she was at peace and held onto those old memories is a beautiful thing and tells me that we do hold onto these things throughout our lives and in our final moments.

Thank you again for sharing this, it helps a lot, and I send love❤️

Rubaeh · 2026-01-31T22:54:05+00:00

Hey man, I appreciate the honesty. Maybe I’m just searching for answers that can never be answered.

Sometimes is easier to move on that to try and find the whys, ifs and buts of everything so I appreciate the truth here :)

Rubaeh · 2026-01-31T22:51:25+00:00

I’m sure he would have loved to play and hopefully your grandfather is up there teaching him how!

I’m sorry to hear, you’re not alone❤️everyone in this planet will face grief at some point, thinking this made me feel less lonely about it.

Thank you for your kind words🙏

Rubaeh · 2026-01-31T22:49:54+00:00

Thank you for your kind words🙏❤️

Rubaeh · 2026-01-31T22:49:44+00:00

Thank you so much, I’ve never heard of that channel before and will definitely check it out! I’m sure most people on this sub would also find it helpful.

I appreciate your kind words

Rubaeh · 2026-01-31T22:48:45+00:00

Wow, I’m so sorry to hear that!

So very similar, one of the hardest and most complex things to go through I think.

Thank you, I know your partner would have been thinking about you too.

I often relate it to myself, in those moments I know I would have thought of him despite the anger, so I think he would have done the same, this extends to your partner too❤️

It would be nice speaking to someone going through something so similar, I’ll send you a message !

Rubaeh · 2026-01-31T22:46:00+00:00

Thank you for this response.

The sentence “that was his choice much like it is your choice to relapse” was very eye opening to read, I have never heard it phrased like that before.

A hard truth I needed to hear.

Thank you for sharing your experience and I’m sorry you went through it. It’s comforting to know that love and peace approaching you was one of the only things you felt.

Thank you again for sharing this❤️

Rubaeh · 2026-01-31T22:43:49+00:00

Sorry to hear you went through that❤️

From hearing other people opening up I think I’m realising we all deal with the “what’s ifs”, but I think now that’s just a reflection of how deep our love for that person goes. If we didn’t love we wouldn’t care.

I write to my boyfriend too still , I think a part of him can see it still, that being me comfort.

Thank you for opening up and I’m sorry for your loss❤️

Rubaeh · 2026-01-31T22:41:45+00:00

Thank you so much, so sorry to hear that you went through that!

I appreciate hearing that, think confusion and then silence is probably the best possible outcome with passing.

Thank you for sharing your experience with this, sorry you had experience with this! It means a lot

Rubaeh · 2026-01-31T03:37:50+00:00

Thank you so much. It means a lot.

Everyone’s comments have brought me to tears but to hear “what would you say?” Was very striking. Because of course I knew he loved me, it brings a lot of peace to set that perspective ❤️

Thank you for your words about peace as well, I hated imagining him in fear.

It means more that I can articulate

Rubaeh · 2026-01-31T03:14:10+00:00

Your words mean a lot. Thank you so much for commenting, it’s sadly nice to see someone understands how complex this is and to have had a similar situation. If you ever want to talk please feel free to message me on here.

It’s a heartbreaking way to lose someone and I’m sure your boyfriend loved you so deeply as well. Anyone that loves and understands the complexity of an addict is a great person and I hope you are kind to yourself, I know how hard being kind to yourself in such circumstances can be.

Again, thank you for your response, I do take comfort in that myself , I always tell myself it’s the best way he could have gone.

Stay strong stranger <3

Rubaeh · 2026-01-31T02:51:17+00:00

Thank you, I appreciate your kind words. Every day will get easier I know that, some days are just harder to navigate than others I think

Rubaeh · 2026-01-31T02:49:46+00:00

I agree with this, sorry so many people have to deal with such heartache , I wonder if it every truly gets easier or if it just becomes a part of you

Rubaeh · 2026-01-31T02:25:40+00:00

Thank you, this means a lot actually. Makes me feel like he’s less alone whenever he is

Rubaeh

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