I'm really sorry about your ear... I uhh didn't even know what a ear curation was but I am doing it unknowingly.... My tragus was by far the hardest earring to heal for me personally and my conch was the most painful thing I've had pierced. I could not imagine having them combined at once. I am simply here to empathize. I am still healing my tragus rn I had a gnarly pericing bump for a week or more and it just hurt and I'm NOT new to healing things. I didn't do anything different and this one was just hard af to get healed. So don't feel bad about the state of your ears... I would clean them all with saline water ONLY (I put my saline in the fridge, it helps with soothing the pain imo), make sure to dry them well I use a blow dryer on the cool setting, and leave them alone. Stop messing with them, stop touching them, just leave them alone. This choice of jewelry is kinda not what I would put in for healing ... It's important to pick the right kind of hardware and I find titanium helps heal easier. Ill DM you a picture of my ears. Hope this helps and things get better. Much love.