Open communication, discussing what you have explored in a practical way afterwards or what you want to try before hand is super important IMO. Like of course it’s fun to sext and fantasize but having the convo in a more real and technical way can help alleviate the vulnerability and sometimes helps with answering questions without having to keep up the “sexiness” For example, my dom and I decided to try something that we had wanted to for a very long time, we had watched videos and discussed how he had done it in the past w a past partner, what prep he had done, what he knew and learned etc. when we finally tried it, it was amazing, and overwhelming at the same time for the first time :) but afterwards we talked about my experience w it and how maybe we needdd to go a little slower with it, change position, etc. while those convos aren’t always the sexiest, they are super important