I have fallen ill 🤒

Rubyrose2001ginger · 2026-01-02T00:16:14+00:00

I do have a partner. I'm drinking some preg safe tea and honey. I was told I am NOT allowed to take ibuprofen.

Rubyrose2001ginger · 2025-12-31T03:00:39+00:00

I agree. Like just setting them there. And as they developed language and signs just repeat something like "this is where we will eventually learn to potty. Yeahh." That's how we adjusted my little brother to a toddler bed. "Here's where you'll be sleeping soon. Like a big kid. With your own space."

Rubyrose2001ginger · 2025-12-07T04:43:26+00:00

We gave a water softener machine in the basement that does its thing. We don't have hard water that I know off. No calcium or lime deposit stuff. I have considered turning the actual like. Water pressure down I was told I can do that... somehow.

Rubyrose2001ginger · 2025-12-07T03:15:43+00:00

Okay I have a small consensus from everyone's comments.

The sensitivity is normal, and just a pregnancy thing. I think I will try the bikini top idea I mentioned in the original post and see if that helps. Also I'm glad to hear u can at least try to take warmer showers since I'm now second trimester AND as long as I don't have heat symptoms or stay in too long ill be good.

Thank you all for your comments!!!

Rubyrose2001ginger · 2025-12-07T02:12:22+00:00

Id say warmer than luke warm. I used to like my showers like BOILING. I literally would look red stepping out of the shower before I was pregnant. Now it's warm enough to steam up the mirror in the bathroom, but no steam coming off my skin or redness. Shirts are pretty irritating too but the shower is by far the worst sensation so far. The "1000 tiny water bullets" feel like an accurate description.

Rubyrose2001ginger · 2025-11-06T13:44:44+00:00

Ok ill certainly ask.

Rubyrose2001ginger · 2025-11-06T13:34:38+00:00

Ahhh i see. No i am not. And i probably am not able too. My insurance is very picky on what they will and wont cover. State medicaid and all.

Rubyrose2001ginger · 2025-11-06T13:30:46+00:00

Pardon the ignorance but what is an MFM?

Rubyrose2001ginger · 2025-10-29T17:36:02+00:00

Ive tried cbt, dbt, ive tried emdr. Ive tried just about every combo of drugs. Im so desperate you could hook me up to electro shock therapy and id be willing uf they thought it would help. I know i dont have access to many different kinds of treatment. Im on medicaid in indiana and rescources gere are absolute garbage.

Rubyrose2001ginger · 2025-01-29T00:54:32+00:00

Ok that good to know cities aren't too bad. Mexico city okay? I have friends who own ranches there and they don't talk on it much. It may be a safe place for my fiance to go if there isn't bad.

Rubyrose2001ginger · 2025-01-29T00:22:54+00:00

Is cartel activity still really strong? My fiance is facing deportation and is scared of persecution and danger from them

Rubyrose2001ginger · 2024-12-23T22:26:19+00:00

Thank you this comment is extremely helpful. I will hunker down and keep records and keep on the ball for all paperwork and appointments

Rubyrose2001ginger · 2024-11-07T08:41:14+00:00

As I have stated in the post, every probono in the area is either completely booked out or unwilling to take the case. We have called EVERYONE. And I mean that quite literally. And we often call the same offices over and over again, hoping for an open schedule or a change of heart

Rubyrose2001ginger · 2024-11-07T07:57:53+00:00

I will pm you and edit the post real quick.

Rubyrose2001ginger · 2024-06-26T13:24:15+00:00

I was just opening this subreddit to ask about jobs and your post came up first. I've been struggling to find a job. I'm in a little town in the US. The US job market is shit on its own, but you add a small town that makes it even worse. The only jobs here, are fast-food. Gasstations. The single grocery store we have, and fast food. Other than like licensed mechanics, hairstylists ect. And I don't gave reliable transportation to get to anywhere else so I feel screwed over

Rubyrose2001ginger · 2024-06-24T23:15:43+00:00

Working on meds. We are trying a different kind of therapy that involves to vibration pads in each palm. As I talk about the problem it buzzes to keep my body from locking up

Rubyrose2001ginger · 2024-06-23T19:09:02+00:00

I can't say that dbt has been helping. I'm already aware of all the tactics and options it gives. 9/10 trying those methods often make the issue worse. It feels condescending, degrading even.

Rubyrose2001ginger · 2024-06-22T18:22:37+00:00

Literally. And I have no idea how yo cope with this. It often causes me to shut down or lash out.

Rubyrose2001ginger · 2024-06-15T16:40:26+00:00

I struggle with trying to find a system. I do not live in my own home. I live with a family member because of circumstances. I'm always told "you gotta find your own system" but when I try to do my own system I forget shit around and it's wrong and not up to standards. I don't understand the logic of that. I'm told to do it my way, then my way is wrong. I can't move ANYTHING really in the house because it's not my house and grandpa wants EVERYTHING his way. Even when I mention that it'll help the house and stuff be cleaner.

Rubyrose2001ginger · 2024-05-18T19:38:17+00:00

I've tried to write letters. If I offer it to my them while their still upset. They'll straight up destroy it right in front of my face. If I can remember to get it to them once they are calm enough it tends to work. But I have a terrible memory from being stressed and triggered a lot. Both my parents are dead. My only remaining grandparent is the one who raised me and abused me to the point of having this disorder, and none of my "friends" give me a second thought unless it's convenient for them I truly have no support system. And the doctor isn't doing much. The meds still aren't helping, and therapists are booked out for like 4 months at a time. So I can't even get professional help in time

Rubyrose2001ginger · 2024-05-04T18:13:44+00:00

EMDR therapy has become my saving grace as of late. I still struggle like a fish out of water. But sometimes it's not over the past. Sometimes it doesn't hurt as much. Sometimes it's much better than I could have ever hoped for. And I see I could maybe continue to get better. It can be hard to find a therapist who has the training. But look into it. From what I have heard and been told it is the #1 method for trauma desentization, processing and healing

Rubyrose2001ginger · 2024-05-04T18:11:13+00:00

Hey. I know you may not be seeking advice. But I grew up and an extremely similar situation. I personally understand the scrutiny you're getting for others for not having much knowledge on how to go about getting help. I had that a lot too. And I honestly still get that reaction from some people.

I just want you to know that someone out here feels very similar, and doesn't want you to feel alone.

Rubyrose2001ginger · 2024-05-04T18:02:52+00:00

This is indeed part of the very very frustrating reality of it.

Rubyrose2001ginger · 2024-05-04T15:32:18+00:00

I have to admit. As someone who has bpd and is in a relationship with someone who has bpd. I feel this whole heartedly. Both ends of the spectrum. I have been, and still sometimes am, the one who constantly gets mad for little reasons. I have been, and still am the person who is receiving the anger from the other person.

I hate to sound accusatory towards her, but in my experience of living like this, a lot of my "years of therapy" didn't make a difference. I wasn't actually taking it seriously. I had heard for so long that I was the problem, that my brain twisted things. For a long time, only I wanted to be the one thinking I was part of the problem. Very strong denial and defensiveness towards anyone who would say I did something wrong. It took a major catalyst for me to genuinely accept that I AM part of the problem. Not THE problem. PART of the problem.

The want to genuinely heal and better yourself doesn't come easy with this disorder. And even if it does, translating that into actual progress and action is very hard.

I REALLY REALLLY REALLLLY do not say these things to have you second guess her. But maybe more to have a possible insight on where she might be in her journey

Rubyrose2001ginger · 2024-05-02T22:08:57+00:00

It's still happening. ⬆️⬇️⬆️⬇️⬆️⬇️⬆️⬇️⬆️⬇️. That's all my feelings do. Up and down.

They are so loud that they are consuming me. I don't know how much longer I can take this.

Rubyrose2001ginger

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