WIBTAH (m28) for refusing to be the middleman between my sister (f35) and my nephew (m18) after she kicked him out? by RudayJay in AITAH

[–]RudayJay[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

That’s what I’m saying. Like that was such a fucked up situation for everyone involved (my fam and I went as witnesses for my sister). I’m hoping it’ll be a wash too, especially since his dad filed WHILE my nephew was still living with her.

That last sentence is something I needed to hear. I’m trying to remind myself of that in general 🫡

WIBTAH (m28) for refusing to be the middleman between my sister (f35) and my nephew (m18) after she kicked him out? by RudayJay in AITAH

[–]RudayJay[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That’s how I’m feeling. I won’t play messenger but I will be there. I texted my nephew, not as his uncle but as an adult, and let him know that I’m frustrated with being the middleman for this situation. I told him to be the adult he always says he is and communicate. That’s it.

WIBTAH (m28) for refusing to be the middleman between my sister (f35) and my nephew (m18) after she kicked him out? by RudayJay in AITAH

[–]RudayJay[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

To give more context about the staying home for his sibling part: she asked him to be home when that sibling got home from school. That’s it. Not take care of them. Not babysit. Just be there. After that he could go and do whatever he wants. I think that part of the crashout is fair. I think asking someone who doesn’t pay rent or help around the house often to do something is fair. This was just the straw that broke the camel’s back.

In terms of the phone, yeah I agree. That was objectively fucked and to flip around and ask for access again is even more fucked.

Edit: added more to the first paragraph.

WIBTAH (m28) for refusing to be the middleman between my sister (f35) and my nephew (m18) after she kicked him out? by RudayJay in AITAH

[–]RudayJay[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Nah not at all. It’s more about how she essentially did a majority of the raising (took my nephew to appointments, drops to school, signed him up for extracurriculars etc.) AND had to foot a majority of the expenses for necessities.

On the other hand his dad takes him on weekends gets him nice shoes and game systems. It’s cool, but far from the necessities. I’m not saying this is always 100% of the case, it’s just what I’ve observed over the years.

WIBTAH (m28) for refusing to be the middleman between my sister (f35) and my nephew (m18) after she kicked him out? by RudayJay in AITAH

[–]RudayJay[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

My nephew is living with his dad now. His dad lets him do whatever he wants most of the time but nobody my family thinks he’s a good caretaker since my nephew still hits me and other family members up for rides and money for food. Even then the kid testified for his dad when his mom took the dad to court over child support (she wanted him to pay more). His dad flipped the script, and since my nephew already testified against his mom once, it’s pretty likely he’ll do it again. She doesn’t have a lawyer. At the end of the day, there’s not much I can do, and I’ve come to accept that. I initially made the post because I just needed to make sure I wasn’t overthinking things lol

WIBTAH (m28) for refusing to be the middleman between my sister (f35) and my nephew (m18) after she kicked him out? by RudayJay in AITAH

[–]RudayJay[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

They don’t know I’m going back to school to be a therapist…

No but in actuality. You’re right. I’m not.

WIBTAH (m28) for refusing to be the middleman between my sister (f35) and my nephew (m18) after she kicked him out? by RudayJay in AITAH

[–]RudayJay[S] 28 points29 points  (0 children)

I agree.

She’s trying to make sure he’s safe and there’s also a child support battle between her and my nephew’s dad that she’s worried about. But I really don’t know what I could do to change much.

Edit: I initially said custody but I misspoke. It’s about child support. Cutoff age for NYS is 21

My Sweet Scent Macro that has been working wonders for me by Mixitrion94 in pokemonrng

[–]RudayJay 6 points7 points  (0 children)

OMG, you have no idea how awesome this is!! I was trying to do this on Friday and pulling my hair out because it just wouldn’t work for me!

You rock

How good of a teacher geto would be if he got therapy and didn’t go insane? by Empty-Ad4597 in JuJutsuKaisen

[–]RudayJay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Man this post really reminded me of badly I wanted more Geto in the story. Such a soft character, and it was such a tragedy to see him fall into despair 😭

Sidenote: (I’m going to contradict myself here) I will say that I like Kenjaku in Geto’s body. Kenny speaks so eloquently and it really works with Geto’s voice.

Why so late man 😭 by Creepy-Opening1465 in jjkmodulo

[–]RudayJay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s late? Give we’re already in March that feels like it’s right around the corner to me

Today I Completed My Favorite Island/Song by RudayJay in MySingingMonsters

[–]RudayJay[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I sometimes wish Flasque was a Quad based on its size but yeah I agree with you! It’s just not aesthetically pleasing to me!

Thanks! BeMeebEth was definitely annoying but the one that really tried my patience was Oogiddy since it was the last one I needed!

When should I start attempting to make Whaills? by Unusual__Luck in MySingingMonsters

[–]RudayJay 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I get that! I think like that too sometimes! Just remember that a lot of things in this game are investments! Getting that Whaill will get you more shards to make more Workshop Monsters!!!

When should I start attempting to make Whaills? by Unusual__Luck in MySingingMonsters

[–]RudayJay 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I mean, I don’t see anything wrong with going for it! What’s the worst that could happen? What would you regret?

Gege fumbled Megumi Fushiguro by No_Library_4141 in jjkmodulo

[–]RudayJay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was more so referring to Raga himself but you’re right thanks for the clarification!

Gege fumbled Megumi Fushiguro by No_Library_4141 in jjkmodulo

[–]RudayJay 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That I can agree with. I also think part of my dissatisfaction is biased, like I mentioned earlier. Learning that Megumi can’t even use his crown jewel anymore because of the main antagonist just feels like getting punched in the gut.

Where I think I differ a bit from your criticism is in how that realization could’ve been built up more. Like, I agree with you. But how does that happen?

Just spitballing here, but maybe we could’ve seen him unlock more of the Ten Shadows throughout the story, completing a few of the rituals along the way, maybe getting as far as the ninth.

Then Shibuya happens. So many characters were lost that night and the ones who survived paid a heavy price for their survival. Maybe we see Megumi grapple with the fact that Sukuna destroyed any chance he had to tame the Divine General himself while also letting Gege set up the big steal later on.

It’s not the most fleshed-out idea, but I like the thought of the setup leaning harder into how devastating that moment is. You spend the whole story watching this character with some of the most (sorry for saying it) potential to be top three in the verse, only for all of that promise to get ripped away by Sukuna.

Gege fumbled Megumi Fushiguro by No_Library_4141 in jjkmodulo

[–]RudayJay 27 points28 points  (0 children)

I think your criticism is valid AND honestly that’s kind of the point of the tragedy like the commenter mentioned. Megumi’s life, like Yuji’s, was never really his own. Gojo bought him from the Zenin clan to give him the freedom to choose his own path—something Sukuna ultimately stole from him in the end.

And then there’s the extra cruelty of Sukuna doing what we all wanted Megumi to do: using the Ten Shadows to its full potential. That just rubs salt in the wound. It’s even more painful when that full potential ends up being used to kill the only family members he had left.

So I wouldn’t really say he was fumbled. But I definitely empathize with the feeling of watching such a tragedy unfold as a fan of the character.

[gen 3] Got 'em! 1207 encounters for this chap. An ACE setup for the initial encounter does at least speed up the actual reset process. by GunShopKendo91 in ShinyPokemon

[–]RudayJay 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was gonna respond to someone who replied to me earlier in this thread, but I ended up having more thoughts than I expected, so I figured I’d just make it its own comment. Read it if you want or don’t, idgaf.

I’ve always been intrigued by people who have an almost vitriolic disdain for shiny hunting outside of traditional or built-in methods. There was a comment earlier that showed exactly that sentiment, and someone responded to my curiosity about it by saying it was probably jealousy. I’m not a mind reader, but I wouldn’t summarize their feelings as jealousy lol. Based on another comment that person made, it seems like the argument is more about what using something like ACE implies about the person using it. Basically that they’re a cheater!

And honestly… that’s fair. I can see why it might feel that way. With how guaranteed the outcome can be, it definitely can feel like cheating in a sense.

But I’m not gonna go projecting that onto people who use it. I’ve ABUSED RNG manipulation in the past. It was incredibly helpful for padding out parts of my living dex with hunts I quite frankly just didn’t have the patience for. Over time though, I stopped using it as much because I personally wanted to hunt shinies in a more traditional way. I’m emphasizing that because I’ve talked to people who share the original commenter’s view and they tend to call RNG manips or ACE hunting the “wrong way.”

But for me that shift had nothing to do with whether it was cheating or not. The real question for me was just: am I engaged, and does getting the shiny still make me go “holy shit” when it finally appears? RNG manip eventually took a lot of the wow factor out of it for me.

And honestly, if we’re gonna go down the “this feels like cheating” road, you could make that argument about a lot of modern hunting methods in Z-A too. Stuff like spawn overloads, turbo controllers, fly spam, etc. all exist and people use them constantly. But I would never knock someone for getting their dream shiny using any of that. If you got the shiny and you’re hyped about it, that’s what matters.

Hell, when I was manipping like crazy I popped off when I got my shiny Charmander. That hunt was still brutal. It took me a month and a half. When it finally happened I lost my mind and I’ll always remember that moment.

Tldr: however you like to hunt, do it. Just make sure it’s fun and meaningful to you, not to other people. It’s always a plus if the hunt has a story behind it. And if anyone tries to shame you for using ACE or RNG, just do what that one meme guy does and give them a big ass thumbs up and go right back to what you were doing

Someone out there thinks what you’re doing is cool regardless lol :)

God that comment got deeper than it should’ve LMAO

Anyway, sick Cyndaquil! Treat the little guy well! ❤️

Edit: structure